ohbutwheresyourheart

[ohbutwheresyourheart]

miserable that there is no way 2 avoid being treated as either a man or woman

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i say this as someone who was in college for six years and would go back in a heartbeat if that were ever feasible and just keep taking classes forever for fun because i love learning things. but you guys do realize that learning is not "the point" of the higher education system and if it was it would be structured completely differently. learning is absolutely something that happens at a college but it's tangential to the The Point of being a sorting process to decide what kinds of people are employable.

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ibuprofen should grow on bushes like wild berries

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Oh, okay. I see. You think this has nothing to do with you. You go to your closet and you select out, oh I don’t know, that gaslight gatekeep girlboss meme, for instance, because you’re trying to tell the world that you think modern feminism has been co-opted by corporations. But what you don’t know is that that meme is not from Instagram, it's not from Twitter, it's not from Tiktok, it’s actually from Tumblr. You’re also blithely unaware of the fact that in January 2021, Tumblr user missnumber1111 posted, "today's agenda: gaslight gatekeep and most importantly girlboss." And then I think it was a-m-e-t-h-y-s-t-r-o-s-e, wasn’t it, who reblogged it with an image of the phrase edited over a piece of "Live, Laugh, Love" wall art? And then gaslight gatekeep girlboss showed up in the feeds of eight different Twitter repost accounts. Then it filtered down through Instagram and then trickled on down into some tragic “alt side of Tiktok” where you, no doubt, fished it out of some clearance bin. However, that meme represents millions of notes and countless Tumblr users and so it’s sort of comical how you think that you’ve made a choice that exempts you from Tumblr when, in fact, you’re wearing the meme that was selected for you by the people in this room. From a pile of “stuff.”

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I praise his elegance and weirdness x)

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FLEABAG | 1x06

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sofia gigante deserved so much better i wish she'd been able to kill her father with her own two hands

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*steps one degree of separation outside my normal tumblr orbit* oh wow you people are all out of your minds

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i think people get so used to their own creative work that they forget how amazing it is so i’m making this post as a reminder You are the only person capable of making art the exact way you make it. nobody else on earth can do that. there are always going to be those little habits and intricacies and details that simply cannot be replicated whether it’s in writing or painting or textiles and you make life all the better for it i love my friends’ art i love art from strangers im trying to love my own art I LOVE YOU!!! THE PERSON READING THIS!!!!!!! YOU ARE A PART OF THIS WORLD NEVER EVER STOP MAKING THINGS THAT CAN IMPACT IT

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minimum wage needs to be $1000 an hour. rent needs to be $10. groceries need to be $2 total. and i need a back massage that ends in me getting my back blown the Hell out

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so done with tumblr. see u all in two minutes

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what’s getting me by these days is the idea that daroga is obsessed with erik but erik isn’t obsessed with him. imagine this random ass ugly french dude comes into your life and completely upends it. like you give up everything for him helped him fake his death to escape his court ordered execution YOURE SUPPOSED TO PERFORM and that shit gets you excommunicated from your entire family and banished from where you’ve spent your entire life and then with nowhere else to go you’re just like guess i’ll move to the home country of the man who fundamentally changed the course of my entire existence and you’re still keeping tabs on him and he can’t stand your ass and you’ve even got your own live-in twink (darius) who does whatever u ask yet you’re still like… whats that Erik up to…. and find out he’s ruining OTHER peoples’ lives now. and it’s infuriating bc that was supposed to be YOUR THING with him. after everything u did for him…. then you’re old as fuck still yapping about this fucking guy who never gaf about you as you’re actively in a common law marriage with another man (darius, again). it’s so embarrassing. like imagine you’re gay and you’re obsessed with the gayest man you’ve ever met and he’s obsessed with a woman. also he’s fucking ugly. pharoga situationship of all time.

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No nuance

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I think a lot about how we as a culture have turned “forever” into the only acceptable definition of success.

Like… if you open a coffee shop and run it for a while and it makes you happy but then stuff gets too expensive and stressful and you want to do something else so you close it, it’s a “failed” business. If you write a book or two, then decide that you don’t actually want to keep doing that, you’re a “failed” writer. If you marry someone, and that marriage is good for a while, and then stops working and you get divorced, it’s a “failed” marriage.

The only acceptable “win condition” is “you keep doing that thing forever”. A friendship that lasts for a few years but then its time is done and you move on is considered less valuable or not a “real” friendship. A hobby that you do for a while and then are done with is a “phase” - or, alternatively, a “pity” that you don’t do that thing any more. A fandom is “dying” because people have had a lot of fun with it but are now moving on to other things.

I just think that something can be good, and also end, and that thing was still good. And it’s okay to be sad that it ended, too. But the idea that anything that ends is automatically less than this hypothetical eternal state of success… I don’t think that’s doing us any good at all.

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if being gay was still in the DSM you people would argue about how you have to be diagnosed with gay or else you're fakeclaiming

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my favorite tweets about the DISASTROUS “wuthering heights” adaptation