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Fantasia (1940)

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learning the oasis guys have another brother is crazy. like wtf do u mean there is another guy??? imagine BEING that guy?????? ur brothers are locked in an eternal public love hate psychosexual mutual obsessive battle of wills and ur also there????? going a yes just my siblings exorcising the demons of their strange entangled enmeshed fucked up relationship thru live performances where they also kiss sometimes. like WHAT.

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One woman assaulted by a trans identified male in a women's only space is one too many. If you disagree, you're implying that some women are a necessary sacrifice for the safety and comfort of males, and as a feminist I find you abhorrent.

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it's insane to me that there are people arguing that jkr is worse than neil gaiman because they believe she contributes to systemic violence while neil gaiman's actions were just an isolated incident. women's words are part of a global conspiracy of violence but a man's violence against women is merely a self-contained interpersonal conflict

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These people are so insane sorry. nothing screams “I have not been affected by this slur” more than saying straight people should be saying faggot because “gay” isn’t transgressive enough or something

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An ad for your deepest desires :)

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I love me some traumatised butch lesbian

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yeah I will never be over that part in deathly hallows when harry visits godric’s hollow and thinks about what it would have been like to grow up there with his parents and by the time he gets to their grave he feels so much grief and despair that not only do we get a rare on-the-page cry but he wishes he was sleeping under the snow with them

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official elon musk hate post reblog to hate like to hate reply to hate

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if what the Taliban is doing to women was happening instead to a minority racial group, especially if the oppressors were white, i’m just saying, there would be A LOT more outrage.

there would be encampments, huge protests, everything you see with palestine but probably a hundred times more extreme. We’d be listing the stage of genocide this is, and calling it a second holocaust.

I mean IMAGINE a certain racial group’s voice is made illegal in public, and they have to wear a HUGE, ridiculous, uncomfortable garment like that. They aren’t allowed to leave the house without an (oppressor) escort. Banned from education or employment. No protections from violence and rape, basically less than an animal in law. IMAGINE IF ALL THAT HAPPENED TO A MINORITY RACIAL GROUP. this IS what’s happening to women.

But it’s just women and it’s just their culture so there’s nothing we can really do, who cares. Maybe we’ll do a march or two, and maybe we’ll post about it on twitter, make a few articles. But it’s just women.

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if someone comes forward with their story about being raped or sexually assaulted by your fav celebrity artist and your first instinct is “im so disappointed I can’t enjoy his characters anymore :(” you’re literally fucked in the head . some of you are way too grown to be detached from the reality like this. we are in a lack of empathy epidemic. yes im talking about Neil gaiman and his fans .

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beyond sadness at lynch's death i'm also pretty pissed because he had been trying to get another project done in the years before his passing and netflix and others didn't want to finance it. john waters is the same age as lynch and his latest project was also canned because he couldn't find the money for it. others like scorsese have been luckier but they're also struggling to get their work made. and meanwhile there's more slop coming out every year. it just feels bleak. there won't be another lynch in part because the current system isn't allowing artists like that to exist, now less than ever

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I am in love with this women

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This weekend I was told a story which, although I’m kind of ashamed to admit it, because holy shit is it ever obvious, is kind of blowing my mind.

A friend of a friend won a free consultation with Clinton Kelly of What Not To Wear, and she was very excited, because she has a plus-size body, and wanted some tips on how to make the most of her wardrobe in a fashion culture which deliberately puts her body at a disadvantage.

Her first question for him was this: how do celebrities make a plain white t-shirt and a pair of weekend jeans look chic?  She always assumed it was because so many celebrities have, by nature or by design, very slender frames, and because they can afford very expensive clothing.  But when she watched What Not To Wear, she noticed that women of all sizes ended up in cute clothes that really fit their bodies and looked great.  She had tried to apply some guidelines from the show into her own wardrobe, but with only mixed success.  So - what gives?

His answer was that everything you will ever see on a celebrity’s body, including their outfits when they’re out and about and they just get caught by a paparazzo, has been tailored, and the same goes for everything on What Not To Wear.  Jeans, blazers, dresses - everything right down to plain t-shirts and camisoles.  He pointed out that historically, up until the last few generations, the vast majority of people either made their own clothing or had their clothing made by tailors and seamstresses.  You had your clothing made to accommodate the measurements of your individual body, and then you moved the fuck on.  Nothing on the show or in People magazine is off the rack and unaltered.  He said that what they do is ignore the actual size numbers on the tags, find something that fits an individual’s widest place, and then have it completely altered to fit.  That’s how celebrities have jeans that magically fit them all over, and the rest of us chumps can’t ever find a pair that doesn’t gape here or ride up or slouch down or have about four yards of extra fabric here and there.

I knew that having dresses and blazers altered was probably something they were doing, but to me, having alterations done generally means having my jeans hemmed and then simply living with the fact that I will always be adjusting my clothing while I’m wearing it because I have curves from here to ya-ya, some things don’t fit right, and the world is just unfair that way.  I didn’t think that having everything tailored was something that people did. 

It’s so obvious, I can’t believe I didn’t know this.  But no one ever told me.  I was told about bikini season and dieting and targeting your “problem areas” and avoiding horizontal stripes.  No one told me that Jennifer Aniston is out there wearing a bigger size of Ralph Lauren t-shirt and having it altered to fit her.

I sat there after I was told this story, and I really thought about how hard I have worked not to care about the number or the letter on the tag of my clothes, how hard I have tried to just love my body the way it is, and where I’ve succeeded and failed.  I thought about all the times I’ve stood in a fitting room and stared up at the lights and bit my lip so hard it bled, just to keep myself from crying about how nothing fits the way it’s supposed to.  No one told me that it wasn’t supposed to.  I guess I just didn’t know.  I was too busy thinking that I was the one that didn’t fit.

I thought about that, and about all the other girls and women out there whose proportions are “wrong,” who can’t find a good pair of work trousers, who can’t fill a sweater, who feel excluded and freakish and sad and frustrated because they have to go up a size, when really the size doesn’t mean anything and it never, ever did, and this is just another bullshit thing thrown in your path to make you feel shitty about yourself.

I thought about all of that, and then I thought that in elementary school, there should be a class for girls where they sit you down and tell you this stuff before you waste years of your life feeling like someone put you together wrong.

So, I have to take that and sit with it for a while.  But in the meantime, I thought perhaps I should post this, because maybe my friend, her friend, and I are the only clueless people who did not realise this, but maybe we’re not.  Maybe some of you have tried to embrace the arbitrary size you are, but still couldn’t find a cute pair of jeans, and didn’t know why.

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Heyyy tis me agane

Have a consolation Ianthe

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Tridentari, prince, rat, scrunk

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boys and young men are probably unhappy in part bc they don’t cultivate healthy hobbies as much as they used to. so many are scrolling and watching porn and playing mindless multiplayer video games instead. and they whine girls won’t date them? when i was a teenager, most boys wanted to impress girls and differentiate themselves, so they learned to play the guitar or skateboard or got into photography or old movies or started playing a sport or got involved with a club or whatever. and in the process of doing so they found other boys AND girls to be friends with. even if they didn’t find a girlfriend, they got a sense of belonging and personal satisfaction and pride and community out of what they pursued. like no you’re not going to get that if you get home from school and just frantically scroll hatecrime.com for eight hours? “uhhhh i feel bad” no shit idiot. where is your dad??? cuz he should be telling you this shit. fucking checked-out gen X