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Ep 4 - the tension as Hee Su knows someone (the whole school? 😃) knows his secret. At this point we don't know if the person is friend or foe - they might genuinely be offering to help, but for Hee Su it's a major issue. In a het world being outed isn't an easy thing. He is really only coming to terms with his crush and what it actually says about him. He is worried about the impact any revelation will have on his friendship with Chan Yeong.

This episode really plays on those fears and the import of any revelation. This is in direct contrast to Chan Yeong and Ji Yu's growing relationship and how they can be open with each other as a het couple. Society has no issue with them. The comparison really underscores the differences in these relationships - as someone (sorry can't recall who) said this is not a Thai bl bubble world.

There are repercussions to this and Hee Su knows that instinctively.

I love the dynamic between Seung Won and Ji Yu and the fact he is honest with her and she laughs at the thought of him taking dating advice from Hee Su on how to , well, date, Hee Su...... I think she will end up helping and supporting him.

I also love the knitting boy.... so serious and dedicated.....

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I watched ep 4 of Heesu this morning. The writing is amazing, the acting is amazing, but I find this show so upsetting. I think I've figured out why. Also I might need therapy. Lots of thoughts.

Heesu in Class 2 is hitting some really fucking surprising nerves. The manhwa is fine, I guess; it’s about a kid who’s generally happy and loved by his friends, with a one-sided crush that doesn’t upset him too much. The drama, on the other hand, is weaving a subtle fabric of heartbreak and isolation that the manhwa has no idea about whatsoever.

Heesu’s crush, in the drama, feels dangerous. And it IS dangerous, when you're young, immature, and learning who you are.

It's dangerous to care so very much for someone. To do everything in your power to be kind to them, to try to be friends, because you think they’re amazing. To unconsciously embarrass yourself by always orbiting them, and in the back of your mind you know people are laughing at you but you can’t help it because you’re in love and you're so, SO lonely...

And besides, maybe it’s not just you? After all, your crush flirts with you sometimes. They ask you to date them, half joking, but maybe…? They ask to stay at your house all the time, too… and it means EVERYTHING to Heesu, but the dramatic irony is that he doesn’t realize that his exposed self is just a minor inconvenience to everyone around him.

And that’s the core of what’s making me so stressed out by this show: it’s not just the crush, it’s EVERYONE in Heesu’s life. They all seem to be ready to casually sidestep him, skirt around his beating heart like a dropped ice cream melting on the sidewalk. They go about their lives oblivious to his needs. They come to him for advice or a place to sleep or just some attention, and then they get what they need and go on their respective merry ways. They don't want him to get his sticky self all over their shoes.

Even worse, not one of the people around him, not his crush, not his sisters, not even the person who has a crush on HIM, seems to notice that he’s being bullied. Heesu himself doesn't even seem to understand intellectually that he's being threatened with being forcibly outed as gay, but he sure seems to understand it viscerally. He's folding in on himself with fear, but when he's acting terrified, none of the people he cares about care enough about him to ask him if he's okay.

The show is capturing some seriously painful things, and I’m worried it doesn’t realize what it has. I’m worried it’s going to placate with some kind of pat, simplistic ending, a heteronormative pair-the-spare ending where everyone is happy and friends and fine, and oh, maybe it wasn’t bullying, maybe it was just ~~honesty~~, because you should be honest, and no one has really done anything wrong, and Heesu will forgive everyone, or maybe he won't think anyone has even hurt him, because he’s just that sweet of a kid, and the last shot will be him smiling at the guy the narrative demands he fall for while everyone else is busy stepping around his ice cream and forgetting they even saw it... when that won’t fix what’s really wrong here.

Every relationship Heesu has feels one-sided. Being left out of romantic relationships sucks, but one-sided friendship/loyalty/kindness is absolutely soul-crushing. I don’t think there are enough episodes left to fix the core of this. I’m not sure the show even recognizes what it’s doing. I hope it does, because I can't stop watching.

There can be no conventional happy ending, here.

[edit: and yes i am aware that heesu was and can still be overbearing and obnoxious, but he still cares and people still take advantage of his caring]

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This.... I have been thinking about this episode too and the fear, the worry, who is messaging him anonymously? This episode had a whole other vibe.

I watched ep 4 of Heesu this morning. The writing is amazing, the acting is amazing, but I find this show so upsetting. I think I've figured out why. Also I might need therapy. Lots of thoughts.

Heesu in Class 2 is hitting some really fucking surprising nerves. The manhwa is fine, I guess; it’s about a kid who’s generally happy and loved by his friends, with a one-sided crush that doesn’t upset him too much. The drama, on the other hand, is weaving a subtle fabric of heartbreak and isolation that the manhwa has no idea about whatsoever.

Heesu’s crush, in the drama, feels dangerous. And it IS dangerous, when you're young, immature, and learning who you are.

It's dangerous to care so very much for someone. To do everything in your power to be kind to them, to try to be friends, because you think they’re amazing. To unconsciously embarrass yourself by always orbiting them, and in the back of your mind you know people are laughing at you but you can’t help it because you’re in love and you're so, SO lonely...

And besides, maybe it’s not just you? After all, your crush flirts with you sometimes. They ask you to date them, half joking, but maybe…? They ask to stay at your house all the time, too… and it means EVERYTHING to Heesu, but the dramatic irony is that he doesn’t realize that his exposed self is just a minor inconvenience to everyone around him.

And that’s the core of what’s making me so stressed out by this show: it’s not just the crush, it’s EVERYONE in Heesu’s life. They all seem to be ready to casually sidestep him, skirt around his beating heart like a dropped ice cream melting on the sidewalk. They go about their lives oblivious to his needs. They come to him for advice or a place to sleep or just some attention, and then they get what they need and go on their respective merry ways. They don't want him to get his sticky self all over their shoes.

Even worse, not one of the people around him, not his crush, not his sisters, not even the person who has a crush on HIM, seems to notice that he’s being bullied. Heesu himself doesn't even seem to understand intellectually that he's being threatened with being forcibly outed as gay, but he sure seems to understand it viscerally. He's folding in on himself with fear, but when he's acting terrified, none of the people he cares about care enough about him to ask him if he's okay.

The show is capturing some seriously painful things, and I’m worried it doesn’t realize what it has. I’m worried it’s going to placate with some kind of pat, simplistic ending, a heteronormative pair-the-spare ending where everyone is happy and friends and fine, and oh, maybe it wasn’t bullying, maybe it was just ~~honesty~~, because you should be honest, and no one has really done anything wrong, and Heesu will forgive everyone, or maybe he won't think anyone has even hurt him, because he’s just that sweet of a kid, and the last shot will be him smiling at the guy the narrative demands he fall for while everyone else is busy stepping around his ice cream and forgetting they even saw it... when that won’t fix what’s really wrong here.

Every relationship Heesu has feels one-sided. Being left out of romantic relationships sucks, but one-sided friendship/loyalty/kindness is absolutely soul-crushing. I don’t think there are enough episodes left to fix the core of this. I’m not sure the show even recognizes what it’s doing. I hope it does, because I can't stop watching.

There can be no conventional happy ending, here.

[edit: and yes i am aware that heesu was and can still be overbearing and obnoxious, but he still cares and people still take advantage of his caring]

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I see a lot of people getting annoyed with Hee su and saying he's irritating. I get some of that, but he's a teenager, they are all bumbling around, unintentionally hurting one another, overstepping boundaries etc. but that's teenagers. They are not adults, they are working things out. I find it refreshing....

And it is heartbreaking at that age being rejected and you fo feel like it's the end of your life....it's all a big deal.

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becoming: the introduction

Let’s get one thing straight—

Stigma isn’t just a word. It’s a weapon. It’s been used to silence, erase, and box people in for centuries.

Stigma tells the recovering addict, “You’ll always be broken.” It tells the queer kid, “You don’t belong here.” It tells the person living with mental illness, “Keep quiet or you’ll scare people.” And it tells anyone who’s ever been incarcerated, disabled, different, or vulnerable: "You are not enough. You are too much. You are unworthy."

And I’m calling bullsh*t on all of it.

why "becoming"?

I didn’t choose becoming because it sounded poetic. I chose it because I lived it.

I know what it means to be labeled, locked up, laughed at, left behind. To be called names before you even know who you are. To feel like you have to apologize just for taking up space.

But I also know what it means to become. To peel off the shame. To climb out of survival mode. To speak the truth and not flinch when it echoes back.

becoming isn’t polished. It’s not perfect. It’s lowercase on purpose—because we’ve all been made to feel small.

But lowercase doesn’t mean weak. It means in progress. It means still growing. It means unapologetically unfinished.

And that? That’s beautiful!

what this series is about

This blog series isn’t here to comfort the comfortable. It’s here to expose the rot. To name what’s been unspoken. To blow the dust off the labels they tried to stick to us and say, “That’s not me anymore.”

We’re going to talk about stigma—real stigma. The kind that follows you out of treatment. Out of prison. Out of childhood. We’re going to talk about truth-telling as activism. And healing as rebellion.

We're going to discuss what it means to reclaim your damn name. The world has always tried to erase it.

So if you’ve ever been made to feel like your scars were too loud, Your story too much, Your existence too inconvenient…

Welcome.

You’re not broken. You’re becoming.

And it’s time to burn the shame down!

🔥Read it. Share it. Let it shift something.

This is more than just a blog series. This is a 4-part truth-telling journey about stigma, shame, and what it means to heal out loud.

It’s for the ones who’ve been labeled before they were ever known. It’s for anyone who’s ever been told they were too much, not enough, or broken beyond repair. It’s for those who live with mental health struggles. It’s for those who navigate reentry and carry trauma. It’s also for those who love differently, speak differently, or move differently. It includes those who love someone who does.

It’s for the ones still becoming.

👉🏽 Like it? Share it. Not for attention—for impact. We don’t eliminate stigma by whispering in safe corners. We eliminate it by raising our voices, lifting each other up, and refusing to let shame win.

Each post in this series will hold something for you. But more than that— Each post will hold something of you. Your story. Your struggle. Your rising. Even if we’ve never met, I promise you… You’re in this.

📖 Start reading now. 📢 Share it with one person who needs to hear: You’re not broken. You’re becoming.

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aquarium advertisments say stuiff like discover the longtooth grouper this friday

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Yeses this......his secret admire is Darcy but he is Emma and I hate Emma with a passion.

Is Heesu in Class 2 just Emma. Is that why I can’t stand him? Was this on purpose?

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Okay how, just how are they coming back from that? He destroyed her and he did it knowingly.....I'd find that pretty hard to forgive.

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This gives me such 'Light on me' vibes.

Love the deeply oblivious Heesu... going to be fun to see the penny drop....

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I'm a simple bitch. i believe the purpose of government should be to improve the lives of its citizens and protect its most vulnerable members. unfortunately i live in a day and age where this gets me labeled an enemy of the state

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I haven’t seen anyone post this tweet yet, but I need to have it on my blog lmao

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Yep, he's a fucking coward.....