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A MOMENT OF ROMANCE 天若有情 (1990), dir. Benny Chan

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Reblog if it’s ok for your mutuals to tag you in posts they think you’ll like even if you don’t talk often.

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JESS MARIANO + GREEN QUILTED JACKET [x]

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I'm so glad I'm not the only one who thought the Beast's human form in Beauty and the Beast was "nice!" 😅😭. I mean, come ON! He's a Baroque golden Apollo who looks like he was sculpted by Michelangelo! He's BEAUTIFUL! What's the PROBLEM? 😂

EXACTLY, EXACTLY! Before I even got to the end of your message, I was saying in my head, “Yeah, he’s BEAUTIFUL!!!” 😂 Watching the movie as a kid, his transformation has always been so magical to me, but what most made me like him was the fact that he resembled an older boy I knew who was friends with my brother (he really does!), so little me was like, “oooh, I dig that…”. I guess it resonated with me that he looked like someone I knew in real life 😅 — we had a connection. But yeah, even if that weren’t the case, there REALLY isn’t anything there to complain about, let’s be honest!

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You know why I still rewatch Season 6? Because of that moment in The Real Paul Anka when Rory tells Jess why she loves The Subsect.

"You know why I love your book? It doesn't remind me of anything. It's not a rip off. It's just you."

Do you all know what this single line communicates? To me, I see it as Rory acknowledging how well they actually knew each other. It shows us all the moments we never got to see onscreen. She knew Jess so well that, despite their shared love affair with literature and the potential for little bits of his favorite authors to find their way into the book (as so often happens with first time writers), she tells him how special, unique, and precious it is.

Because it's him.

It's his writing, brand of humor, fears, pain, emotion, etc. all laid bare in this slim paperback. I don't think that was a coincidence on the part of ASP and the props dept. That book is so him that it even resembles the pocket-sized paperbacks he carried around four seasons earlier. They memorized every detail of each other. And even when the scene ends so tragically (it is what it is), that interaction makes the entire relationship worth it to me.

She saw him. He saw her. They knew each other, at least intellectually and soulfully, better than anyone else. It's hard to beat that.

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I'm so glad I'm not the only one who thought the Beast's human form in Beauty and the Beast was "nice!" 😅😭. I mean, come ON! He's a Baroque golden Apollo who looks like he was sculpted by Michelangelo! He's BEAUTIFUL! What's the PROBLEM? 😂

EXACTLY, EXACTLY! Before I even got to the end of your message, I was saying in my head, “Yeah, he’s BEAUTIFUL!!!” 😂 Watching the movie as a kid, his transformation has always been so magical to me, but what most made me like him was the fact that he resembled an older boy I knew who was friends with my brother (he really does!), so little me was like, “oooh, I dig that…”. I guess it resonated with me that he looked like someone I knew in real life 😅 — we had a connection. But yeah, even if that weren’t the case, there REALLY isn’t anything there to complain about, let’s be honest!

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Gave prince Adam from Beauty and The Beast a well deserved remake, beard and all. Its an outrage hes baby faced honestly....

Thoughts?

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Haha, I see your point! I only put him in the cute section because he looks like such a baby in that scene 😂 but yeah… definitely a beautiful one indeed!

LNC: JESS MARIANO edition

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GILMORE GIRLS 5.13 | Wedding Bell Blues

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Last night I was discussing with @ernestonlysayslovelythings that one of the things Gilmore Girls does really well is nuance. In terms of conflict, most characters will be a little bit right and a little bit wrong (as it tends to be in life), and yet many viewers will automatically side with one particular character. Lorelai and Rory (Rory in particular) tend to often be seen as in the wrong, and this intrigues and frustrates me. While a lot of the time they are 'in the wrong', so is the other character, and yet this is rarely acknowledged. Information which the other character has (and the audience has) is not given to Lorelai and Rory and yet they are still criticised for it (which other posts have gone into).

Emily and Paris are fan favourites and it's easy to understand why; they are funny, sarcastic and outspoken and yet also have vulnerability. Viewers will often take Emily's side in an argument with Lorelai and Paris's with Rory, which I find frustrating, because the reasoning seems to be either that Emily and Paris are 'more funny' or that Lorelai and Rory are 'annoying'. Emily and Paris are funny (Paris in particular is exaggerated as a side character) but they can also be very mean. Lorelai and Rory are not intentionally mean, generally speaking, yet a key element of Emily and Paris's characterisation is unkindness. Of course, this is largely for comedic effect (such as Emily firing maids and Paris making Brad cry), and yet Lorelai and Rory seem to be held to a higher standard. Emily and Paris can be very cruel to Lorelai and Rory (ie Emily's ongoing disgust over her daughter's romantic life or lack of and Paris bullying Rory at school) but it doesn't seem to 'count'. Viewers identify the reasons for this; such as Emily's hurt over Lorelai running away or Paris feeling intimidated by Rory, but do not extend the same understanding to Lorelai and Rory. Lorelai can be immature and shut out her parents, which is due to an unhappy childhood, and Rory sometimes wants space (which I don't personally find unreasonable), but that apparently means they're 'arrogant'.

This lack of nuance is also notable with Jess. With non-Literati shippers, many viewers write Jess off as the asshole exboyfriend who has 'exaggerated' his unhappy life with Liz and is 'ungrateful' to Luke. On the flip side, many Literati shippers take the view that Jess never does anything wrong and Luke is a total jerk. Again, there is nuance here; Jess is not infallible and, like all the characters, he is right and wrong about certain things. While there is zero evidence that Jess exaggerated anything (although some fans seem to exaggerate for him), he can be rude and perhaps seem ungrateful, but it is understandable. He acts this way because he had an unreliable mother who sent him to live in a strange town with his uncle without any say, and he lashes out because he is angry and not listened to. In S6 when Jess has grown up, he appreciates what Luke did for him, because he has the maturity to see it. Luke, for his part, did his best and also messed up because he stubbornly thought he knew what he was doing, and didn't think he needed advice. It does not negate the fact that he cared and tried his hardest. As with Lorelai and Emily, Luke and Jess are both right and both wrong with their reaction to things.

It's also interesting that within Literati shippers, the majority of people will take Jess's side in a conflict with him and Rory. Jess and Rory are flawed people (who are also very young) who manage to hurt each other deeply. Rory runs away after kissing Jess because she does not know how to handle her feelings, which Jess perceives as her thinking he isn't worth staying for and, a year later, Jess leaves town without saying goodbye, which Rory also wrongly perceives as a rejection. Neither of them intend to be cruel and yet, according to numerous Lit shippers, Jess was hurting and Rory 'couldn't see it'. Of course she couldn't see it - Jess never communicated to her that he was in trouble at high school and had to drop out, or that his father showed up, or anything else going on with him. She could see something was wrong but couldn't help him. Likewise, Rory never communicated to Jess that she was feeling mixed up about being with Dean and later with Logan, but somehow this understanding isn't extended to Rory. Jess and Rory are both fallible and are both written with excellent nuance.

One of the best things about Gilmore Girls is how well it reflects growing up and our relationships in real life. Situations are rarely binary and, as we mature, we can often look at conflict more objectively and see 'the other side'. Lorelai and Rory, along with most of the characters they interact with, are written with depth. When they mess up or miscommunicate, it doesn't mean they 'wrong' or not worth caring about - it means they have something to learn from. They are funny, frustrating, vulnerable and have moments of clarity, just as with real people.

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 John William Waterhouse “The Annunciation” 1914

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JESS & RORY + earth tone sweaters

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Lake Superior, Minnesota

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Curled up like kittens 🐈‍⬛ 🐈 if you even care. whatever

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popular fanon will kill patient. he needs source material to live.

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DAKOTA FANNING in Uptown Girls (2003)

They can’t keep a nanny. They fired their third one this month. She had dirty fingernails. It was her or me.