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Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

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ngl I thought the puzzle piece as an autistic symbol meant like. I am a vital puzzle piece to your society. humans would never have invented half the things they did without us. you're telling me it means I'm missing something?? buddy. listen. listen to me reeeeaal closely. no human has all the pieces to humanity. no one. no one has all the features enables no one has all the strengths weaknesses or quirks. no one has a whole puzzle. we make the freaking complete picture together. that's the freaking point.

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in canon, cass does not use asl.

she uses hand movements to mean something, normally by mimicking an action, but actual american sign language or any other type of sign language isn’t used.

this isn’t to say that you can’t head canon her to use asl, just keep in mind that asl is a language and she’d struggle with it like any other language out there. she doesn’t have issues with her ability to speak or her hearing, she just wasn’t ever taught a language.

you might think that asl would be easier for her, because it’s body based, but asl is specific movements that we, as a group, collectively agreed to mean something. cass’s ability to read body language wouldn’t help with this. if you’re signing that you’re angry and your body is showing you’re angry, that could help her understand what you’re meaning, but that’s no different than saying you’re angry in english while your body is also saying you’re angry.

(just right now i went back and googled to make sure that i wasn’t missing some obscure moment when she did, in fact, use asl, and in doing so i found this post that really gets into the nitty gritty of what i’m talking about. definitely worth the read. it also discusses how a lot of the ‘cass uses asl’ head canons are ableist if done incorrectly!)

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literally fuck companies that don't want their employees to act "unprofessional" in front of customers. I'm at a five guys rn and the employees here are joking around calling orders back and forth to each other and saying things in weird voices and laughing with each other while they work. Someone just came in for their shift while I was waiting for my food and was greeted by the whole kitchen with a secret handshake lookin thing. It was so silly and cute I love seeing ppl have fun at work and I know my food's gonna be bomb bc the ppl there are having fun with each other. Let employees be people and friends and have fun what is the issue!!!!

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“Oh we need more male S/A victim rep!” You guys can’t even handle Odysseus without insisting that him being trapped in a cave until he agreed to sleep with a woman or being put under a spell and coerced while under the spell was still him consenting fully shut the fuck up.

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does anyone have/know of a good tutorial for making cc clothes?? there’s so many pieces that’s i’ve seen on pinterest and from my personal style that i’d love to see as cc but i have no idea how to make it happen

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how to create Sims 4 custom poses

hello all! I’ve just released a new YouTube video on how to create custom Sims 4 poses in the Sims 4 with Blender & Sims4Studio. you can watch the video here if you’re interested.

if you're interested in downloading the Sabrina Carpenter "Espresso" Poses I created in this video, you can download them here.

down below is a list of all the programs needed for this tutorial. thanks for your support always!

Blender 2.70

Sims4Studio

Teleport Any Sim

Pose Player Mod

Sabrina Carpenter Sim (optional)

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i am slowly falling down the undertale hole again

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This is probably a silly question but I’ve been wanting to get better at media analysis as a whole, and was wondering if you had any tips or ideas on how to expand on it on deeper levels

comparison is usually a good place to start to try and dig into something, pick two examples of works that have something significant in common (a similar character, a major theme, stylistic choices, etc) and see how they do similar and different things with that shared feature. in my experience this kind of exercise helps me better understand how both of the things I'm looking at function and how works try to express ideas with their artistic content in general.

to use examples of things I blog about, both the magnus archives and wolf 359 have plot points about characters being secretly replaced with changeling type creatures. both of these shows are interested in exploring how trauma changes a person's fundamental identity through sf/f metaphor, but the conclusion when we find out lovelace was replaced is that she is still isabel lovelace, but not-sasha is absolutely not sasha. not-sasha knows she's an impostor the whole time, lovelace doesn't; we as the audience and the rest of the characters knew sasha before she was replaced, neither us nor most of the w359 cast knew original lovelace; etc. you can then spin this out further and think about how each of their messages about identity can relate to their respective genres and their general ideas on humanity.

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I really love Hadestown so here's a small fanart

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And, brother, you know what they did? They danced. 📹: @medium-observation

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Remember how it used to be their love that made the world go round

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I was writing for Tim drake at DC the first thing I would do is to give him a new vigilante identity, but the second more important thing I would do would be to give him a job

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when worlds eurydices collide

bonus individuals

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Chant I in a nutshell (click for higher image quality)

(OG meme under the cut!)

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Made a small “tutorial’ for Patrick Page Hades

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An alternative to Epic III.

This came to me in a vision from Apollo.