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I thought I wasn’t but I was losing my mind

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ATTENTION: I'm looking for someone or multiple people in the Crystal Lake/Chicagoland area who could help look after my three elderly dogs from May to mid-July (when I get home). My mom is undergoing intensive back surgery in mid-April, and she's facing a lengthy recovery that requires she do nothing to risk any further strain. Given the fact that my dad can only work from home for a month, my sister is at school, and I'm in a different hemisphere, there's no one at home who can take care of them. Since they're getting older and need to be walked 2-3 times a day, we're facing the very difficult situation of potentially having to give them up for adoption. Here's what we're looking for: 1.) Dog-sitting: someone who's willing to look after one, two, or all three of them during the day. They would need to be walked (ie let into the yard) 2-3 times a day. OR 2.) Dog-walking: someone who's willing to come by the house to walk them (ie just in the yard) 2-3 times a day. To be perfectly frank, I'm not sure how we would pay for this. As you can imagine, our main priority is taking care of my mom, so all of our resources are going toward that. I can't provide much financial or physical support from 5000+ miles away, but I'm sure that with a little creativity on my part, I could figure out a price or agreement that would work for everyone involved. I normally am very reluctant to publicly ask for help, but those of you who know me know that I would literally do anything for my family, including my dogs. I can't even begin to imagine life at home without them, and I don't even want to think about the possibility of never being able to see them again. So if you or someone you know is able to help or has any ideas, please message me as soon as possible, and feel free to spread the word to anyone who you think could help. Thank you so much, and please keep your fingers crossed.

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Shut the fuck up about 50 shades of grey. No one fucking cares

oh hun

let me just give you a quick run down of all the things wrong with this ask:

1-you assume i care what some asshole anon has to say when i have 300 pounds and i’m going kikass birthday shopping today

2-you assume id care about some asshole anon any other day of the year

3-i care about the 50 shades of grey thing. and whether you do or not is irrelevant to me because you are, after all, just an asshole anon

4- this is my blog and i’ll post whatever the fuck i want, if you cant take three fucking posts about something without turning into a soggy cum stained dishrag then i suggest you make use of that unfollow button because youre gross

5- lemme break this down for you

if you dont care about this 50 shades situation, you need to grow the fuck up and look at the facts

the fact is the book was so misinformed that all the practises about bdsm culture were ignored and shit all over.

he ignores the safeword

he legitimately rapes her

he never explains everything about bdsm culture to her, shes so misinformed its ridiculous

and all of this is going even more public than it already has and its being romanticised and released on valentines day 

like “happy valentines honey! i bought some ropes i dont actually know how to tie and a whip i dont actually know how to use and i’m going to just gloss over the fact you’re uncomfortable because that clearly doesnt matter!”

incorrect use of a whip can cause organ failure

incorrect knots used on wristst or feet can literally cause them to need to be amputated

its perpetuating rape culture in ways ive never seen it be advanced to this leve; and if you dont care then youre truly disgusting 

you dont care about the kids not fully understanding their sexuality being abused by older people who they think are totally allowed to do this shit?

you dont care about the people that will be raped because of this because hey apparently rape is sexy?

you dont care about the fact that the bdsm culture is, once again, being portrayed as people who are fucked up and must have been abused to be that way rather than normal people who enjoy a kink in their own homes?

you dont care about the fact that youre not supposed to bleed on your first time. ever. and now tons more girls are going to think that its completely normal? that tons more guys will? that tons of people are going to think its expected for the female to bleed when SHE WONT IF SHES BEEN SUFFICIENTLY TURNED ON AND STRETCHED ITS REALLY NOT THAT HARD

you dont care about the stereotype of subs not actually enjoying bdsm culture is being widespread? that all subs dislike it and simply have an ulterior motive?

you dont care about the underlying message of the book being “a woman should give everything, including herself, to a man”?

you dont care about all the people in abusive relationships that will think “oh well this must be normal then” and stay there?

christian grey is a run-of-the-mill abusive boyfriend. he isnt a dom. 

a dom loves his/her sub completely and the motto of bdsm is "safe, willing and sane" (or something like that anyone feel free to correct me)

it means that both partners have to be completely willing, with boundaries, safewords and everything worked out before they even think about touching eachother intimately. 

if something is a boundary, you dont fucking do it

that simple

if the safeword is used it stops. everything stops

that simple

a dom should treat his sub like a goddamn princess (unless they have prearranged and understand that he wont eg-pet play, slave play where anything outside of the bedroom is also in the same dynamic HOWEVER IT IS STILL CONSENSUAL SO IT IS STILL OKAY)

a dom is not christian grey

but millions of people are going to think he is and are going to think that thats the way bdsm should be and they’ll get involved in something very dangerous if they dont have the real facts.

that people will think its romantic because this shit is scheduled for valentines day  to treat your partner like shit, abuse her, and that what? getting them off absorbs you of all your shit? no. this is so fucking gross and im not taking a backseat when this shit happens

so in conclusion

literally fuck you, you insensitive fuck stain, this issue is so fucking important.

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*accidentally comes out to someone because i couldn’t resist making a pun abt how im not straight*

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every time i listen to this ldr song i think about the arctic monkeys and i thought they’d sound nice in combination so i kinda threw this together???

i’m sure someone can do a much better job than me lol so if anyone does and makes something cool with these two songs let me know, i’d love to hear it!!

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Academics have developed complicated theories and obscure jargon in an effort to describe what is now referred to as structural racism, yet the concept is fairly straightforward. One theorist, Iris Marion Young, relying on a famous “birdcage” metaphor, explains it this way: If one thinks about racism by examining only one wire of the cage, or one form of disadvantage, it is difficult to understand how and why the bird is trapped. Only a large number of wires arranged in a specific way, and connected with one another, serve to enclose the bird and ensure it cannot escape. What is particularly important to keep in mind is that any given wire of the cage may or may not be specifically developed for the purpose of trapping the bird, yet it still operates (together with other wires) to restrict its freedom.

Michelle Alexander, The New Jim Crow (via newwavefeminism)

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Never get too attached to anyone unless they also feel the same towards you, because one sided expectations can mentally destroy you.

(via brokenpromisesanddbrokenhearts)

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Actual Richard Nixon campaign paraphernalia

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