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the commodification of friendship is the most annoying thing to come out of the internet in ages. like actually i love to break this to you but you're supposed to help your friends move even if it's hard work. or stay up with them when they're sad even if you're gonna lose sleep. you're supposed to listen to their fears and sorrows even if it means your own mind takes on a little bit of that weight. that's how you know that you care. they will drive you to the airport and then you will make them soup when they're sick. you're supposed to make small sacrifices for them and they are supposed to do that for you. and there's actually gonna be rough patches for both of you where the balance will be uneven and you will still be friends and it will not be unhealthy and they will not be abusive. life is not meant to be an endless prioritization of our own comfort if it was we would literally never get anywhere ever. jesus.

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I hope at least someone knows about «Major Grom» and this pairing

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not allowed to say Harry Potter, but what was your book series obsession as a teen

mine was definitely Eragon

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the worst thing about being a writer is having to write words

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Medievalists know that if they claim to have found 'homosexuals' in the Middle Ages they will provoke cries of outrage, and nothing else they say will be heard. So they avoid the term. Thus Allen Frantzen, on the very first page of Before the Closet: Same-Sex Love from Beowulf to Angels in America, declares categorically: “I call this a book about ‘same-sex love’ because the obvious choice, ‘homosexuality,’ is, for periods before the modern era, inaccurate. ‘Homosexuality’ and ‘homosexuals’ were not recognized concepts in the Middle Ages.” Apparently, the same is not true of 'heterosexuality' and 'heterosexuals.' Frantzen does not hesitate, throughout his volume, to oppose 'same-sex relations' to 'heterosexual relations.' The result is a Middle Ages that would make Pat Buchanan jump for joy, one from which all the homosexuals have been banished and only heterosexuals remain. This should give one pause. If homosexuality was not a 'recognized concept' in the Middle Ages, then heterosexuality wasn’t either.

Heterosexuality as a Threat to Medieval Studies, James A. Schultz

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Is there a popular stereotype that you’re never beating the allegations of?

(For example I’m a woman and a horrible driver 😬)

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do you use your irl name on tumblr? ie, either your government name or the name you go as in real life. if you use a different name that's not related to you irl here on tumblr then vote no

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Stsg

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cult leader husbands

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kill the voice in your head that says english songs are inherently more interesting and cooler than songs in your native language. "but my native language songs on the radio kind of all suck tho" thats because radio is boring. go to bandcamp 🪔 i wanted to put a gun emoji here but couldnt find it. please look at this oil lamp tho isnt it cute :3

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I support the "fiction isn't real so nothing matters" mindset but tbf at a certain point it can tip over into "the curtains are just blue" territory

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well. at least im a dad's girl. at least i have that going for me

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new season just dropped everyone please witness the next comical stage of my absolute misery

i know i keep saying life sucks right now but holy shit y'all does everything just keep crumbling around me like in a third act of a cheap american drama where things fall apart so comically fast in every single department that you can't help but think how ridiculous it is and how this would never happen to a real person in quick succession like that

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its important to write fanfiction no one cares about 👍

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that makes so much sense. and honestly? it sounds like you’ve cultivated something really beautiful… intimacy that isn’t dependent on romance, but rooted in chosen family, in deep friendship, in mutual care. that kind of connection is just as real, just as meaningful… sometimes more so.

I get how those moments around new couples can shake things up emotionally. it’s hard not to internalize the noise around what “should” make us feel whole. but you strike me as someone who already is whole.. someone who knows herself deeply, who’s made peace with the parts most people spend their whole lives trying to hide. and that’s rare. that’s powerful.

and if things ever do shift.. if you wake up one day and the idea of partnership feels less foreign.. then you’ll meet it on your terms. not out of pressure or expectation, but because it actually fits who you are. and if it never does? you’re still enough. wildly, fully, beautifully enough.

thank you for sharing all that. the softness and the clarity in how you speak about yourself.. it’s honestly kind of stunning.

sending you much, much love right back.

💜💜💜

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