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Hey students, here’s a pro tip: do not write an email to your prof while you’re seriously sick.

Signed, a person who somehow came up with “dear hello, I am sick and not sure if I’ll be alive to come tomorrow and I’m sorry, best slutantions, [name]”.

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Yosuke Amemiya

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I think a big reason why "children are an oppressed group" gets (wrongly!) read as a "pedophile talking point" is that everyone treats children so terribly that actual child molesters can speedrun winning a kid's trust by like, actually respecting their needs and perspective, at least at first. Which means that the only way out of this mess is for all of us adults to treat children with respect, so that abusers can't use the rareness of that respect as a weapon.

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hey boy don't kill yourself. green's dictionary of slang is available online and allows you to explore 500 years of english vulgarity. you can search by part of speech, source, time period, etymology, and usage. there's a whole category for gay slang. they even have specific citations listed so you can see the exact context for yourself. boy did you know that in 1927 "to kneel at the altar" was slang for "to sodomize"

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On Thanksgiving, I witnessed something I think was one of the best parenting moments I’ve ever seen.

I’ve been adopted by my coteacher’s family, and since I have no family around where I live for the holidays, she invites me to her house. I go to birthday parties, soccer games, family events, the whole deal.

Her young son (he just turned 5) was swinging around a toy on a string in circles. She asked him quite a few times to stop because he was too close to people and it could hurt them, but he still continued to do so. While he was swinging it, it smacked her pretty hard in the leg, hard enough to leave a bruise later.

Right away, her husband ordered him to apologize, and with a rather less than sincere voice, he said “sorry.”

She looked at him dead straight and said, “I don’t accept your apology.”

The kid was floored. He just stood there and didn’t know what to do. Her husband asked her why she said that, and she said, “He’s not sorry. He doesn’t know what he did wrong or how to fix it. He just said it because you told him to. So, no, I don’t accept his apology.”

After a few seconds, she walked away. The kid just stood there, confused and not knowing what to do. So, we at the family dinner table, walked him through what happened.

“She asked you to stop so no one would get hurt, and you didn’t listen. And now, someone got hurt.”

“Do you think saying sorry made it stop hurting?”

“Do you feel bad about it?”

“What can we do to fix it?”

And he agreed he should stop swinging around the toy and went to a different room so no one would get hurt. No more forced apology. Just action.

Eventually, about an hour later, he offered a sincere apology to his mom and gave her a hug. Only then did she accept his apology and told him why. Not because he said he was sorry, but because he stopped once he realized what he was doing did hurt someone, and he went on to fix the problem.

So many parents force their kids to apologize, and she’s told me time and time again it always makes her feel uncomfortable because usually the kid doesn’t regret their actions or want to apologize. Parenting isn’t always pretty words and being gentle. Sometimes you have to prepare them for real-life situations, and unconditionally accepting or being understanding of their actions isn’t always the best way to go.

Not only is this teaching him how to genuinely apologize for his behavior and do better, but it also makes him realize words are just words until action is taken. That’s the only way things get fixed.

Is there gray area? Absolutely. Is this always going to work? Absolutely not. But, is it a step in the right direction to teaching children how to genuinely apologize? Most definitely.

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btw while people continue to fight the system don't forget about Undue Medical Debt (formerly RIP Medical Debt), a charity that buys and forgives medical debt. on average a donation of $10 will forgive $1,000 of medical debt.

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I hate it when my phone autocapitalizes jesus I do not respect the lord

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I for one think the symbiotic relationship between Tumblr and AO3 is beautiful

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source

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Please tell me that y'all won't go back to tiktok once Trump gets whatever nefarious concessions he wants from the company and "saves" it. Like, you all NEED to stay gone. Stay on Xiaohongshu or move to other platforms or create a new one or whatever, but don't go back to whatever Trump-appeasement monstrosity TikTok is about to become. Don't do it.

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therapist: cunt dracula is not real and cannot fuck you.

cunt dracula:

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new year's resolutions

- don't die

- get even gayer

- get an even weirder gender

- reach out to my friends more

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parallel play (liking and reblogging your mutual's posts but not talking to them)

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to this day possibly one of my best ideas. someone get me a pitch meeting with the hallmark channel

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They are too funny on red book