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You are at once both the quiet and the confusion of my heart; imagine my heartbeat when you are in this state.

— Franz Kafka to his fiancée Felice Bauer, published in 'Letters to Felice'

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“Your mother and I had always been secretly pleased that you were so headstrong and passionate about your causes. Once you were gone, we understood that these were the qualities that painted young men as smart and ambitious and young women as trouble.”

Karin Slaughter, Pretty Girls

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“How wonderful it is, to be silent with someone.”

— Kurt Tucholsky

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"The problem is always that we mistake the idea of Love for Attachment.

You know we imagine that the grasping and clinging that we have for in our relationships, shows that we love. Whereas actually, it is just Attachment, which causes pain.

You know, because the more we grasp the more we are afraid to lose, then, if we do lose, then, of course, we are going to suffer.

I mean, Genuine Love is…well, Attachment says: you know, >

And, Genuine Love says: – I love you, therefore, I want YOU to be happy – If that includes me, great! If it doesn’t include me, I just want your happiness. And so, it’s a very different feeling.

You know, Attachment, is like holding very tight. But Genuine Love is like holding very gently, nurturing, but allowing things to flow, not to be held tightly. The more tight we hold on to others, the more we will suffer.

But it’s very hard for people to understand that, because they think that the more they hold on to someone, the more it shows that they care about them but it’s not, it’s really just that they’re trying to grasp at something because they’re afraid that otherwise they will – they themselves will be hurt.

Any kind of relationship, which imagines that we can fulfill ourselves through another is bound to be very tricky. I mean, ideally, people should come together already feeling fulfilled within themselves and just therefore appreciating that in the other, rather than expecting the other to supply that sense of well-being which they don’t feel on their own.

Then there’s a lot of problems. And, also along with the projection, which comes with romance, where we project all our ideas, ideals, and desires, and romantic fantasies, on to the other which the other cannot possibly fulfill once you get to know them, you recognize that it’s not Prince Charming or Cinderella, it’s just a very ordinary person, who’s also struggling.

And unless one is able to see them with, to like them, as well as feel desire for them, and to also have loving kindness and compassion, then, it’s going to be a very difficult relationship.

[Jetsunma Tenzin Palmo: The Difference Between Genuine Love and Attachment]  Transcript Source: LYBIO.net

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“For things to reveal themselves to us, we need to be ready to abandon our views about them.”

Thich Nhat Hanh

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“Go back and take care of yourself. Your body needs you, your feelings need you, your perceptions need you. Your suffering needs you to acknowledge it. Go home and be there for all these things.”

— Thich Nhat Hanh

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The most precious gift we can offer anyone is our attention. When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers.

Thich Nhat Hanh

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“When you produce a thought that is full of understanding, forgiveness, and compassion, that thought will immediately have a healing effect on both your physical and mental health and on those around you. If you think a thought that is full of judgement and anger, that thought will immediately poison your body and mind and the people around you.”

— Thich Nhat Hanh

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“Around us, life bursts with miracles, a glass of water, a ray of sunshine, a leaf, a caterpillar, a flower, laughter, raindrops. If you live in awareness, it is easy to see miracles everywhere. Each human being is a multiplicity of miracles. Eyes that see thousands of colours, shapes, and forms; ears that hear a bee flying or a thunderclap; a brain that ponders a speck of dust as easily as the entire cosmos; a heart that beats in rhythm with the heartbeat of all beings. When we are tired and feel discouraged by life’s daily struggles, we may not notice these miracles, but they are always there.”

— Thich Nhat Hanh

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“We have a tendency to think in terms of doing and not in terms of being. We think that when we’re not doing anything, we’re wasting our time. But that’s not true. Our time is first of all for us to be. To be what? To be alive, to be peaceful, to be joyful, to be loving. And this is what the world needs the most.”

— Thich Nhat Hanh

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“Remember, we are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.”

— Stephen Covey