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hey there LGBTQ kids who are also Christian/Jewish! If you feel like you’re disobeying God, questioning your faith, or feel wrong and dirty for loving who you love, there’s this fantastic site I found today called hoperemains that accurately and thoroughly combs through scripture and its (many) mistranslations, validates your orientation, and basically let’s you know that you’re not pissing off God. It’s insanely thorough and after reading through every page on the entire site it’s super helpful. Go check it out!

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PSA if you’re medicated or are new to medication: do not stop medicating cold turkey without supervision from your psychiatrist or without letting them know you’d like to quit. these things need to be done gradually, doing it abruptly can fuck you up really, REALLY bad, long term. please please please don’t be reckless about your mental health.

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Support Trans Boys

Who are curvy.

Who wear makeup.

Who do not go on hormones.

Who do not bind/who cannot bind.

Who do not pack/who cannot pack.

Who are femme. 

Who are short.

Who are pre-op.

Who are gay.

Who are straight.

Who struggle with mental illness.

Who have higher voices.

Who have no facial/body hair.

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Mental illness stereotypes that need to stop

- people with personality disorders are abusive - people with anxiety are shy and quiet - ocd is being very organised - ocd isn’t that bad - hallucinations and delusions are the only symptoms of psychotic disorders - all borderlines/histrionics are female - all narcissists/antisocials are male - mental illness is a white girl problem

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This piece is pretty academic but what it boils down to is: 

Again and again we hear it states as ‘fact’ that 80% of transgender prepubescent kids will ‘desist’ (not be transgender) as adults. 

THIS. IS. BULLSHIT. 

Reasons:

The first studies on this topic was conducted by the practice of Dr. Kenneth Zucker and the VUmc Amsterdam, both practices with very questionable ideas about transgender youth and both proponents of not allowing trans kids to live authenticly. These are not objective sources.  There were two similar studies, both were equally bullshit with a few differences in assumptions and errors but yeah, very very bullshit.

The studies grouped ‘gender nonconforming children’ together without trying to seperate kids who expressed a strong conviction that they were transgender and/or a desire to transition from kids who simply enjoyed playing with dolls. Thus a lot of kids are called ‘desisters’ when they never felt transgender to begin with. 

The studies only measures whether the kids chose physical transition at the point of reaching adulthood, and does not do follow up studies to see whether they identify as cisgender their whole lives. 

The Zucker and VUmc study ignores that a significant number of the children in the study were exposed to abusive conversation therapy in Kenneth Zucker’s clinic. Which, ya know, is incredibly traumatizing and drives kids back in the closet. 

The studies had lost touch with a lot of the people they had studied as children and they marked all non-respondents in the study as ‘desisters’. Yes, you read that right: if a transgender child that had suffered  conversation therapy did not want to transition in the same clinic or talk to that doctor in adulthood, that child was marked as a ‘desister’. Really. 

The studies only counted as transgender those who responded to the study AND sought physical transition at the point of reaching adulthood. Thereby excluding a lot of transgender experiences. 

So, in short, this is bullshit. 

The 80% desistance figure is largely composed of people who simply wanted nothing to do with these shitty doctors and people who never had transgender experiences to begin with. And then there are transgender people who did not want to transition physically or who transitioned later in life. 

Reliable studies on this topic are lacking but most observations suggest that children who express a strong consistent transgender identity as  prepubescent kids are very very likely to also identify as transgender in adulthood. 

STOP USING THIS ‘MOST TRANS KIDS DO NOT BECOME TRANS ADULTS’ AND 80% DESIST SHIT. PLEASE. IT’S BULLSHIT. 

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straight people really think that i dont want to be around homophobes because i find their “opinions” unsavory like its disagreeing on economic policy or some shit. the reality is that i dont want to be around homophobic people because they pose a direct threat to me, because i am terrified of them and the potential violence they bring, because feeling their judgment is enough to make me lean back into self hatred and shame. please dont act like my refusal to chill with your local bigot is obstinate and unreasonable  

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With that said, trans men aren’t always “soft boys”. Respect trans men who want to be masculine. Stop treating us like babies.

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when someone says “now that he’s a girl” about a trans girl

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Coming soon: MyTransHealth, an app connecting trans people to knowledgeable, reliable and affordable healthcare providers. 

19% of trans people have been refused healthcare because of their gender identity. 50% of trans people have had to teach their doctors about trans-related medical care. 28% of trans people have been harassed in medical settings. This app is desperately needed. Follow them at mytranshealth. 

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Disabled members of the lgbt community deserve love and respect

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Voice Training for Trans Girls | Stef Sanjati

(Just thought I’d share this in case someone finds it useful!)

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Not a topic for debate.

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Is it just me or is the “body positive” movement not working? Like at all?

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I really want to see more cis boys who like boys being actively supportive of trans boys who like boys bc I’m tired of being afraid to flirt or form friendships with other queer guys bc I don’t know if they really see me as a guy

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Stonewall Riots + 5 Names To Know

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