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How can I be so exhausted when I’m not even the one who is sick?

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I refuse to give up on things for the little one that I did for my first child.

Screen time. Nope.

Toddler isn’t getting a tablet to make my life easier.

Being lax on schedules and naps. Nope.

Most of it is because I believe in what I’m doing. But part of it is because everyone keeps saying that I’ll have to be more flexible with the second. “Oh just wait until you can’t do that with the new baby” or something like that.

Well now I have to start making baby food again. Yes, I make my own baby food. No prepackaged stuff for these kids for at least 3 months. Then it is only used in emergency situations. I’ll have a couple in the house especially with vegetables that I don’t want to buy and cook or fruits that aren’t in season.

I forgot how time consuming this is.

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Why do we have to give these little gifts for each holiday at school? Remember the basic valentines that you gave out with a picture and phrase from your favorite character? You wrote their name and your name and that was it. Now I’ve got to think of something creative and spend money on things. It’s not even to impress other people or to go above and beyond. You are literally expected to do this stuff. I don’t have time or money or energy for this nonsense. Why do I feel like the only one who has an issue with it? How does everyone else have the time? I’m barely getting through the day.

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My kids still have 3 gifts to open. Probably won’t even look at them for a day or two.

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It took my child over 3 hours to open presents at my in-laws house. He could not have cared less about the gifts. He just wanted to play with his cousins. I loved it but everyone seemed surprised I wasn’t making him sit and open them. We finally had to push it because we were about to leave and people got him gifts and it would be rude not to. But he thanked every person after he opened their gift so I consider it a win.

I think he broke his cousins gift.

I unknowingly watched my nephew of 9 months eat a dog treat. My bad there.

We each got 1 book to open on Christmas Eve (we got $ for a couch separately). I opened mine and my MIL starts talking about how much she liked it yada yada yada.. I know I got her the book originally. I told her I met the author and have it. (I actually didn’t read it because the beginning was terrible so I donated it). Who makes me keep a book that I already have?? I guess I’ll donate it twice.

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My 2 y/o opened one gift and then threw up almost everywhere (except for on us and the gifts). So he’s crying in the bathroom as we try to calm and clean him. The baby is crying because she had to be moved so we could clean. One dog is sniffing the puke and the other is trying to unwrap presents.

These are the memories that last a lifetime

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Wait I’m not supposed to post cute pictures on social media about the holidays too? I don’t have time for that.

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Christmas with kids is so fucking hard. I’m exhausted. My husband tries to help but he’s just in the way.

He seemed annoyed that I wanted to set everything up myself last night because he was putting things in the wrong places. Dude, you don’t even know what is on these boxes.

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My 2 year old came home and told me a boy at his babysitter hit him in the cheek today. The babysitter didn’t say anything about it to us at pick up. What the heck? My kid also hit me tonight which he hasn’t done before.

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Started my period on the drive to my pelvic floor therapy appointment. Let’s just make this whole experience more embarrassing..

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Well now there are treat bags for all the activities this week.

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Once a week we take my little one to basically a mommy-and-me pre-preschool class. It's an hour, like not a big deal. I sent my husband for one week because I had to go back to work after maternity leave. Since it is Halloween, I thought there might be a celebration in his class. He said the teacher said nothing was happening.. there were no announcements... nothing would be happening. I asked FIVE times throughout the week... asked or brought up that I hoped it would happen or! I showed up to class this week and everyone else in the room was wearing costumes. They also brought treats to share. PEOPLE HAD TREAT BAGS TO GIVE OUT AND I JUST STARED WITH MY MOUTH OPEN CONFUSED. I lovedddd getting their pity looks when I asked what was going on. One woman recommended that I get a calendar for my husband to write down notes. Of course I have a fucking calendar. I spent $350 on a new one this summer. Of course I was bothered by it and my 2 year old could sense it so he had a terrible day in class. After dropping my son off at home I had to go to work.. because I have a job and could only get 2 hours off this morning. My boss shouldn't have even given me that. My husband was annoyed that I was so upset. He said that he was busy and forgot. Like my life isn't busy? I wasn't nice back and I'm pretty sure he is mad at me. I don't really care. I had a wonderful cry in the car while I drove to work. My mom recommended that I make treat bags and bring them to class next week. I'm too embarrassed to do that. But I do need to put together other treat bags for his activities. Do you know how hard it is to put together treat bags when all of the stores are out of Halloween stuff and have moved on to other holidays? I have to make 12 treat bags! Oh and I have to work so I don't have time to do that. Plus I'm so upset, I can't even get anything done at work today.

I can't even begin to process all of it right now.

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It’s hard to be patient with your young kids when you’re tired and starving because you have to lose a shit ton of baby weight.

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My husband worked night shift which means I do both 10pm and 4am feeds. I also have the toddler and infant from 6:45pm one night to 12:45pm the next day. He wakes up to help me from 12:45-1:30 and then goes back to sleep. It’s a fine system when I’m at home. He works again tonight so he really needs the sleep.

Both kids slept great last night but for some reason I couldn’t fall asleep. I ended up with less than 4 hours of sleep and was up before 6am with my toddler who is mid potty training.

My husband woke up because we were being loud at noon. I really can’t feel bad considering he already got 4 hours of sleep and will get another 3-4 this afternoon.

Idk what the point of this was. I’m tired but my kids are adorable and I’m happy.

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My MIL came over and mentioned that my son has toys to play with in 3 different spots on the main floor. My daughter was 7 weeks old at the time. I just stared at her and she said oh it’s okay if the house is messy, you have 2 kids.

1- Back off woman I’m just trying to survive right now. Your son just worked 2 nights in a row.

2- I’m currently doing laundry while you are helping me by playing with my toddler. I appreciate it. I’m clearly trying to get my shit together.

3- I have toys in 3 different places for a reason. by the changing table, the playroom obviously, and the family room near the pack n play. Sometimes my toddler wants my attention while I am cleaning up baby poop. There are toys at the bottom of the changing table so I can easily entertain him so he doesn’t try to climb and help me. Also he’s a toddler and moves stuff around.

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Potty training is making me want to cry. I almost want to just not do it because I now realize I’ll be taking this kid to the bathroom constantly for the next few years.

The first 2 days were a nightmare. The sticker chart didn’t work because he needed the instant reward. So now he gets a Teddy graham when he pees and 3 when he poops. Yeah it’s worth 3!

We take him to the bathroom every 20 minutes. We basically stay on the main floor of our house all day. I have been able to do nothing but watch him and get him to the bathroom asap if it looks like he’s going to pee.

Day 3 went much better! But how long do we continue this? He’s not really telling us when he needs to go or if he ends up having an accident. He just keeps playing. Does that come with time? When can I extend the interval beyond 20 minutes? He had 2 classes to go to this week so we put him in a diaper for those and when he sleeps. But I can’t keep him at home doing this for another week. I just need it done before I go back to work in 3 weeks.

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When your sensory bin doesn’t go according to plan and he’s bored in 5 minutes 🤦🏼‍♀️