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[Image IDs: Two nearly identical images of a 5 horizontally striped flag where the the colors from top to bottom are warm brown, pastel orange, off-white, desaturated blue, and desaturated green. The second flag has meanings on each stripe, from top to bottom "Reliability and Durability", "Warmth and Humor", "Love, Family, and Unity", "Sensitivity", and "Bonding activities and Fun". End ID]

Dadgender

A gender connected to fatherhood. This gender may be used by anyone who feels a connection to being a dad or the concept of fatherhood.

This flag is based off of @newmainolddead's Dadgender flag. I wanted to expand upon the meanings and touch up the colors to make the flag more inclusive for others.

Free to repost, edit, or archive. Credit not needed.

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Reblog if your tumblr url is the same one you started with.

This is a serious thing. Im curious how many people over the course of year(s) kept the same tumblr handle. A ton of the people I follow have changed their over time.

As far as I know Im one of the few who havent. Few being relative as there are millions of tumblr users. But yeah.

Social experiment.

If you HAVE changed your URL Click Here

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i just went to my drafts to queue some, queued one singular draft, and immediately got tired of it and stopped lol

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i feel like if you block someone on tumblr you should become entirely unable to see their blog

like sure it says 'hey you blocked them so we've hidden them from your view' if you're on view mode on desktop (but only there, not even if you normally click on the desktop url) but you can literally just click 'view' anyway

i think it should become entirely unavailable to you, as if it was deleted

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bitches hate when other people are in the kitchen because they’ve spent their entire lives being criticized for doing tasks imperfectly and having their eating habits policed and now have incredible anxiety about other people judging their cooking choices that can’t be easily explained in a few words as to why they’re acting so hostile about someone else being near them during this very vulnerable process. it’s me, i’m bitches

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When I grow up I wanna be upper middle class.

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turns out the overdue project I've been putting off for days is actually pretty easy and i should've done it earlier. i won't learn anything from this though

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no one is required to publicly list their exact age, religion, ethnicity, sexuality, gender, medical history etc in an age where doxxing someone who isn’t careful with their information is about as easy as making cereal.

share what you’re comfortable with sharing.

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some purples

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do not call me any ("new") trans terminology without asking me if i'm okay with that first

tme tma (i thought that was a fandom? don't y'all have issues with crosstagging? /gen) transfeminine transmasculine

no

just no

on a similar note, don't assign me random genders either

i don't care if i give off those vibes or if you just thought that was my gender or even if i mentioned i was a similar gender to what you're assigning me rn (like me saying agender you saying genderless, not the same thing to me and wrong regardless of that anyways)

don't even assign me a gender i've said i was, genuinely

just don't assign me a gender

just don't

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actual modern historians: in this letter, Margaret tells her dearest friend Adela, “my love, I long to worship at your altar of Venus once more. come to me and rain kisses upon my breasts as  you did in Paris last spring.”

people on the Internet: “FrIeNd???” ERASURE. STOP TRYING TO HIDE THE GAY. “OH MY GOD THEY WERE ROOMMATES”

aforementioned historians: she. she opens the letter with “My dearest friend.” we’re literally quoting here, and we just admitted they had sex

people on the Internet: “JUST GALS BEING PALS” EH? R/SAPPHOANDHERFRIEND?

historians: a truly vast number of us are queer

people on the Internet: LOL FELLAS IS IT GAY TO KISS YOUR BEST LADY FRIEND’S BREASTS??? NOT IN HISTORY!!

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“Mean girls all grow up to be nurses!”

“Mean girls all go into social work!”

“The mean girl to teacher pipeline!”

Y’all, these are just pink collar jobs. The reason you think there’s so many “mean girls” in these fields is because they’re all like 97% women. Of course some of them are gonna be assholes. There’s assholes everywhere.

We get it. Your job isn’t like other girls’ jobs. It’s a cool job.

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Hot take but I don’t think “Hetero” couples in fiction are boring actually I just think they’re boring because we see the same m/f couples every single time.

Allow me to elaborate:

Usually every m/f couple we see in media consists of two conventionally attractive, young, skinny, allosexual, cishet, gender conforming, often white people. And you can always see the relationship coming a mile away.

Imagine how much better it would feel if you saw more of THESE kinds of m/f couples in media:

Fat characters involved in the relationship, and not made into a joke

Disabled characters involved in the relationship, and not made into a joke

A man happily in love with a gnc or masculine woman

A woman happily in love with a gnc or feminine man

Bisexual or pansexual men and women in love with the opposite sex (and bi for bi, Pan for Pan couples)

A man happily in love with a trans woman

A woman happily in love with a trans man

Trans for trans m/f couples

Asexual and gray-sexual people in romantic relationships and being respected in those relationships

Two middle aged people entering a new relationship, with the same attention and slow burn and tension as any young pairing (because middle aged and elder people have love lives too, and can fall in love again even if they’ve been married before!! See Kane/Abby in the 100.)

More POC x POC relationships!

A man who stays at home and takes care of kids x a working woman who isn’t criticized for not being home enough

Supportive parents to queer kids

Punk/alternative/goth m/f couples and parents (bc I just think that’s cool)

Couples who get together and then realize they’re better as friends, and have a healthy breakup while staying super close (and not creating secret drama)

Neurodivergent people involved in the relationship (adhd/autistic men and women infodumping to their supportive partner... happy stimming after a cute interaction with their crush.. it’s just so good) and not made into a joke or infantilized!

BUFF STRONK WOMAN x LIDDOL MAN VERY IN LOVE WITH HIS WIFE

People who aren’t conventionally attractive in a loving relationship, and there isn’t any drama or weird side plot about “learning to love someone for what’s on the inside!!”

and so many more I could think of!!!

Just something to think on. (And remember, not all m/f couples are “hetero”. If you’re still saying “ew heteros!!” every time you see a straight couple, now is the time to stop.)

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Our parents really have undiagnosed mental illnesses and we just gotta deal with the problems that come with that