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The real queer experience is teaching.

I just went with my transfem friend to get her first bra

I buy my friends binders and teach them how to wear it properly

I teach my transfem friends how to wear a skirt, put their hair up and the difference between a pushup bra and a bralette

I teach my transmasc friends how to find good pants, get some gender affirming jewelry and go with them to buy boxers

I teach my nonbinary friends to fuck norms, to fuck society, and i teach them how to wear a binder and nails and rock it

I teach all of them to keep loving, keep fighting, and that they are loved. And they ARE women, men, people, and they will always be whatever they want to be

and that’s beautiful 💕

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When you read a book regarding historical figures or events and suddenly you have massive beef with some guy who passed away like three hundred years ago

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Coucou! J'apprends le français et je cherche plus du fandom francophone. Il y a quelque reseaux sociaux ou archive de fanfic oú le contenu francophone est plus facile de se trouver? J'aimerais aussi si vous avez quelques recomendations de fandom francophone, surtout de series qui ont un ship lesbienne populaire.

Merci pour tous votre traductionnes et les liens francophones, desolée pour quelques erreurs :)

personally not into any french fandom rn (i was into skam france a while ago which is recommend tho i didn't even get halfway through it for some reason) but i'm sure someone out here can make some propaganda about their fav french show or other media - but most of the french fandom stuff i see out here is for tv shows. also for french fanfiction, wattpad has a pretty big francophonic community!

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I will continue campaigning for French dub supremacy

OH. AD-RIEN. AD-RIEN. ADRI-NOTHING. i swear the english dub needs footnotes

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My roommate remarked:

"Well that just reverse engineers the other trope of aliens meeting humans, where they meet and ask

"What's your name?"

*Begins an incomprehensible series of syllables that goes on for 37 seconds* "but you can't pronounce that so call me Steve"

love the trope where non-humans entities call people by their first and last name every time because they don't get our social conventions, like it's always John Rogers and never just John, y'know

but I want this pushed further, give me a latinoamerican protagonist who can't manage to stop them from saying the full Maria Carmela Cecilia Ramirez Muñoz Garcia Delgado.

Poor Carmelita can't catch a break with the aliens.

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"God never gives you more than you can handle" is survivorship bias. People who got more than they could handle are dead.

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Ok but anon-who-is-no-longer-anon seems to be saying that like, compassion is great but what about when people don't have compassion?

Which like, is a take, I guess. "Freedom of speech is great and all but how can you build a country with that as a fundamental right if people are going to disagree and not want to let others have freedom of speech?"

Well I dunno, maybe accepting that people are imperfect and suck sometimes is part of having compassion and working that into the system.

compassion is the only basis for political theory that doesn't eventually turn into fascism, you fucking moron

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Thank you

chameleon chameleon

a comic about being bigender, and bisexual, by me! happy pride everyone.

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Friendly reminder to all the people using TMA/TME or any other false binary.

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Poob has it for you

WHY DOES POOB HAVE ME BLOCKED LMAO

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Had to do pride month nails before it was over

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Ok pourquoi pas, je suis faguet.te alors

oh wowww une baguette lesbianne j’aime bien ta pfp (jsuis anglophone jsais pas le mot en français) (idk if you meant it this way ben pour moi ça fais deux meanings since baguette son beaucoup like an english word beginning avec un f) xoxo une lesbianne canadienne

ooh non j'y avais pas pensé comme ça mais maintenant j'y pense for. big up à mes fags, faguettes et autres

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I’m so tickled by the fact that everyone in ML is living in a psychological horror/thriller but no one is able to process it because they’re forced to live in a romcom.

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Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs and the Queer Experience

A friend of mine remarked on how different it is to attend church presenting as their trans self or presenting in their closeted cis mode, that it's easier to connect to with the spirit and the talks when she's able to be her authentic self.

I remarked that I think this is tied to when a person's lower needs are met then they can focus on their higher needs. It's hard for a hungry person to ignore their stomach and feel the spirit. I think for queer people who are dealing with basic needs, it's more difficult to enjoy the higher aspects of worship & church.

I based my answer off of Abraham Maslow's psychological theory of a Hierarchy of Needs, which posits that human beings have five levels of needs. As each level of need is met, the person can start thinking about the next level of needs. These can be seen as first needing to meet physical needs, then psychological, and finally spiritual health.

If we use the Riddle Scale to evaluate the LDS Church, it is great, I would say it’s still in the bottom half of the scale but it’s doing better than it was 20 years ago, which is why I think there's more queer folks at church and we may have reached the point where most Latter-day Saints in the United States and Canada know a queer person. However, the church still has much room to improve and I think that's born out by the fact that most queer people leave the church within 2~5 years of coming out. And the reason they leave can be understood by thinking about how well the LDS Church does or does not help them with the Hierarchy of Needs.

Physiological Needs - As an LDS community, are we helping our queer members meet their basic physical needs? One way the church could do this would be to guarantee access to gender-neutral restrooms to help all worshipers feel comfortable and respected. Unfortunately, most LDS church buildings do not have gender-neutral restrooms, these are usually only found in LDS stake centers and even then access to them can be limited. The 2024 policy of not allowing trans individuals to use the restroom unless it has been cleared of all other occupants and that someone has to be posted to keep everyone else out while the trans person uses the facilities is demeaning, so right away the most basic physiological needs are not being met for most trans people who come to our church.

Studies show that trans and nonbinary individuals have higher rates of food insecurity and higher rates of unemployment and we could be helping them solve those issues. Do we make clear that food resources at the Bishops Storehouse are available and LDS Employment Services will assist them to find work?

Safety Needs - A sense of security is paramount. Are we creating safe spaces for queer people? Do we speak up when we hear homophobic or transphobic things said at church? If someone has shared with us that they're queer, are we clear about not disclosing their gender identity or sexual orientation without their permission?

Although I'm well-known in my stake, I've been in stake callings for 12 1/2 years, there's one ward I won't go to alone because of how they've talked about and treated me.

When I travel and visit an LDS space, I always look to see if I can find someone wearing a Pride pin, I feel a release of anxiety when I see someone with rainbow or trans colors because if they attend and are accepted then I should be okay, and if someone says something queerphobic, at least I know of an ally in the congregation I can speak to.

Love and Belonging - Does the congregation foster a sense of community for LGBTQ worshipers? Are we accepting of who they are? My stake attempts to do this by having a group for LGBTQ members + family, friends, and allies that gets together on a semi-regular basis. We have a meal and a chance to catch up with each other, and a gospel-related discussion.

While having a group is good, it would also be great if our church would recognize LGBTQ celebrations like Pride Month and also recognize the contributions of queer individuals within the organization.

Belonging and love needs are only met when people take the extra step to see and understand that all people just want to be seen and shown as equals — not as props or checkboxes. We need visibility and representation, but in a way that doesn’t frame the queer people as outsiders, but as people. Just like everyone else.

Unfortunately, LDS theology isn't affirming of queer identities. For me, I choose not to attend the temple because I don't like being reminded that I'm excluded from basic blessings afforded to other members, like joy in my creation and the need to not be alone. The temple is not a place of belonging for me so I avoid it.

The opposite of love & belonging would be the many meetings I've attended where the need to not love too much and appear to be too accepting is discussed. Negative social messages can cause internalized transphobia/homophobia, which is when the queer individual feels uncomfortable with or cannot accept the fact that their sexual orientation or gender identity differs from others and as a result may believe negative things about themselves.

Esteem Needs - Recognition and respect are vital. How are we showing respect for who they identify as? The achievements of LGBTQ members should be acknowledged and opportunities to serve and to be leaders should be available. LGBTQ worshipers should receive the same level of encouragement and support as our peers

Self-Actualization - LGBTQ church members should be supported in reaching their full potential. Allowing queer people to be their true selves is necessary for this. LGBTQ individuals should feel empowered to express their true selves without fear of judgement or discrimination. Given the restrictions I must live under in order to retain my church membership, it feels like in several areas I’m limited in my growth

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WE 👏 NEED 👏 MORE 👏 QUEER 👏 RELIGIOUS👏 RESOURCES AND SPACES 👏 FOR 👏 TEENAGERS

Now that I'm in college, I have about four different queer LDS communities / activities that I attend regularly. It's absolutely spectacular to be able to go to places where I feel both uplifted in the spirit AND in my identity. Other queer Mormons are very similar to me and it's great having an automatic community full of people who have so much faith.

However! When I was a teenager in middle and high school, there was nothing, at least for me. The options for community were either the cishet Mormon girls at church who didn't really like me, or the cool neurodivergent queer kids at school who hated their parents and hated the Church even more. I picked the second option. That led to a lot of problems -- I was less comfortable in expressing my religion, I had to also act anti-religion to be accepted, and my parents thought I was becoming an apostate by making "the wrong friends". But trying to fit in with other Mormon young women was just as hard -- I felt so different from the other girls and I could tell by the way they treated me.

I spent hours watching and rewatching the videos on the Mormon and Gay website. That was all I really had. But I wasn't attracted to women -- I wasn't attracted to anyone at all, and I didn't really feel like a woman. Since I wasn't homosexual, I felt that there was nothing for me.

I hope that modern Mormon youth are growing up with more than I did. But we need more information and groups and activities aimed towards the youth of the church rather than the adults. I wasn't worried about getting married or being worthy enough to get endowed at 13 -- I was worried about fitting in, being accepted, and figuring out who I was. And I want queer youth to feel safe and understood and not so confused at church.

Stepping off my soapbox now. 🧼📦

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Welcome! It's a comic I've been working on for a while and I decided to finally start posting it. It is set after season 5, so spoilers for that, and there will be mild spoilers for the early season 6 going forward. More notes below!

Raccommodeuse, Part 1

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I started this by asking myself a question of what my version of Marinette's "Chat Blanc" episode could be? And it developed into a hundred-plus page comic that I'm having lots of fun making right now. The story is based around the choices that Marinette has made in the end of season 5, so I humbly but firmly ask everyone to be kind to her in my notes.

Thank you dear mutuals who have supported this idea and thank you so much @ninadove for helping me pick a title for it!!

It's my first time making something like that or doing any kind of storytelling but I quite like it so far and hope you will enjoy too 🧵

upd: posted it on ao3 :)

bonus: playlist

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personally i think there should have been at least one episode where sokka collects aang and zuko and is like, “looks like we’re running low on supplies.  time for a GUYS-ONLY field trip.  three days of hunting and fishing and polishing our swords.  y��know, manly warrior stuff.  (aang, sotto voce: actually sokka i’m a vegetarian as you know–)  you girls have fun sitting around braiding your hair and talking about your crushes” and then the entire episode is just zuko and sokka lying around by a river, plucking blades of grass and staring up at the stars confiding in each other their deepest feelings and most secret insecurities while aang braids flower crowns, and whenever the screen cuts back to katara and toph and suki, they’re fighting and screaming and hacking away at river pirates and evil spirits and legions of assassins and hired mercenaries with swords.  you know, as girls do.

and when the boys finally drag themselves back to camp (they stayed up way too late discussing what true leadership really means and whether or not power always corrupts)  they find suki and toph and katara lounging around with black eyes and fresh bruises and bloodstained weapons and sokka shrieks, “what were you guys DOING while we were gone???”  and karata just shugs innocently and says in her sweetest voice, “oh, you know.  just girly things”