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where’s the rupaul tweet about stop constantly crucifying yourself we could use the wood…… did unfortunately scalp the shit out of me with that

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If it keeps you from killing yourself it's not stupid. This applies to anything btw.

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Why does every therapist tell me that I’m so bright and confident and articulate, can you please help me deal with the gaping hole in my chest

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Someone said “Nothing gives you a clearer look into someone than how they misinterpret things, every misinterpretation is a confession” and it’s so true because how people misunderstand things can reveal a lot about their perspectives and feelings.

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AuDHD decided to be really funny when it made me really annoying (adhd), absolutely terrified of being perceived as annoying (rsd) and having no idea what people find annoying (autism)

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If you are currently sitting or laying down this moment ask yourself if you are resting or rotting. Change your behavior accordingly

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Receive message, be too busy/tired/stressed to respond right away

???

It has been long enough that responding without preamble would now be Weird

never speak again.

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(guy whos scared of everything and feels guilty about everything) sorry i got scared and felt guilty

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From the book Organizing Solutions for People with ADHD:

Putting a coat on the back of a chair by the door is fine, but if you prefer, use coat hooks and a large catch-all basket for dropping keys, hats, gloves.

Small bookcase end-table next to the couch to store craft projects, books, and other things being worked on for easy access.

Add a storage unit near the dining room table to transition between eating and working there.

Daily toiletry items should be stored in a basket that you can move easily

Extra toiletries and medicine cabinet items go in open shelf/basket storage so they can be seen and used easily. If items no longer fit, purge the excess. Don’t obscure the view!

If you disrobe in the bathroom, place a tall hamper in there.

Keep a set of cleaning supplies in each bathroom

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Me after every conversation: Shit they’ll never wanna talk to me again.

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things i wish i’d been told sometimes

𓂃 your life revolves around you and it always has. if you feel the need to stop and catch your breath, do it. time moves forward, but your life will never be able to continue without you. 

𓂃 the way people talk to you about others is a direct reflection of how they talk to others about you. remember that. 

𓂃 life is too short to stay quiet. your voice carries you as much as you carry your voice. 

𓂃 nobody pays as much attention to you as you think they do. 

𓂃 nobody’s expecting you to do something useful every day. you shouldn’t expect that from yourself either. 

𓂃 nothing that matters to you is useless. if it’s important to you then it’s important, period.

𓂃 don’t live every day like it’s your last–rather like it’s your first. get to know your space, get comfortable where you aren’t yet, try new things but not everything at once. and look forward to things that are coming. 

𓂃 you’re only responsible for what you can control and influence. focus on that. 

𓂃 stop trying to be okay all the time. you do not have to be okay all the time.

𓂃 it’s more common to have a soft and protecting tummy than to have flat abs. both is healthy, both is pretty. 

𓂃 your teens are not your only chance on having a good, fulfilled, and social life. if you can’t find your place in high school you will in another environment. this isn’t where it ends. 

𓂃 you have the right to change your mind over and over and over again until you’re happy.

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Stop saying…

“Psychotic/Schizophrenic” when you mean: unpredictable, unhinged, unreal, etc.

“Bipolar” when you mean: polarized, scattered, fickle, unstable, etc.

“Delusional” when you mean: unrealistic, unreasonable, close-minded, stubborn, etc.

“[insert “R” slur in relation to intellectual disabilities]” when you mean: unreasonable, unintelligent/ridiculous, childish, etc.

“OCD” when you mean: particular, neat, overbearing, etc.

“Narcissistic” when you mean selfish, abusive, manipulative, etc.

Note: I’m NOT saying that these are synonymous. This is also not an exhaustive list.

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“I don’t want to be a burden” you’re more like a relief, a gift, a blessing actually

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My doctor and therapist: now with this autism + ADHD diagnosis you need to learn to unmask because masking all the time will make you burn out again and feel like shit

Other people: well it's just interesting how after getting the diagnosis you suddenly start behaving like that I mean I'm not saying you're faking it's just funny how you suddenly cannot be normal like you were before

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When youre suicidal but remember theres a whole treasure trove of amazing movies and art and music and human culture yet to be experienced

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you ever feel like you were born with something rotten inside you and if people get close enough they’re gonna find out