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Here's a sh playlist I made. I made this because listening to music helps me to not sh. For some ppl it's triggering, but for me it's cathartic like I can listen to how it would feel to sh without doing it? Idk but it helps me. I made it callabortive so others can add songs. Not all of the songs are abt sh but I relate to them anyway.

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𝐀𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐦𝐞…

⬆ My name’s Matthew. I am 19 years old.

⬆ I decided to start recovering a year ago. I recently started to visit a therapist.

⬆ I like alt aesthetics, writing, mangas, videogames and cats.

⬆ This is a vent blog and a personal space. I am not pro anything. Please consider recovery if you are able to.

⬆ This blog is a safe place. I mainly talk about issues here such like:

     ➜ Depression and Anxiety

     ➜ Social Struggles

     ➜ Disordered eating habits.

     ➜ Childhood Trauma 

     ➜ Alcohol Addiction

     ➜ Suicide

     ➜ Self harming

If you are struggling and need somebody who will listen to you, DM me :).

Btw I need online friends. Ignore tags.

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reblog and put in the tags what time period’s fashion you think would suit you best

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Hey, I’m the one who made this post. While I’m glad you’re supportive of PP, I strongly urge you to look into the facts around stringer BC. The idea that women are not healthy when they don’t have periods is a myth. Many are born or develop medical issues causing them to not have a period. Older women don’t. Pregnant women don’t. It’s in no way dangerous. No study or reference that’s taken seriously I’m the medical community proves it’s bad. I hope this helps you!

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Hey, I’m the one who made this post. I’d just like to let you know that this BC is not “injected” nor is not having your period bad. Many women are actually born or have medical issues that cause them to not have their period, and it causes no health risks. No reliable and established medical study or documentation proves a women not having a period hurts them. The myth of it taking toxins out of your body is just that, a myth. I hope this helps you and you can research more BC and understand the different effects of everyone!

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My post went viral which is pretty cool as I’m getting many messages from women who this has helped and encouraged them to check out PP. I do wonder though how supportive these women would be if they knew I was an MRA being as most think supporting men’s health and rights means you can’t supprt women’s reproductive rights as well.

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This thread is so full of misinformation it’s scary. Pro choice or not, feminist or not, you should not be spreading this. It’s straight lies

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Its not believe survivors. It’s believe women. If they really cared about all survivors, they would be helping the thousands of men who are raped / assaulted but the women either get away or are given a drastically less severe punishment. Or the fact most states won’t make it illegal for women to force themselves on men. Or that most states still won’t define a women forcing a man to have sex with her as rape.

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Men, and their fight for reproductive rights

The world health organization says that;

“Reproductive rights rest on the recognition of the basic right of all couples and individuals to decide freely and responsibly the number, spacing and timing of their children and to have the information and means to do so, and the right to attain the highest standard of sexual and reproductive health.”

This generally includes the right to legal and safe abortion; the right to birth control; freedom from coerced sterilization; the right to access good-quality reproductive healthcare.

Starting with abortion and the individuals right to decide the number and timing of children; while women are still fighting for complete abortion rights, it’s still there. Women can abort, with or without the fathers consent. I generally agree with this being as it is the women’s body. Women are also lucky to have many resources to help them with abortion procedures and pills.

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/abortion

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/abortion/the-abortion-pill/how-do-i-get-the-abortion-pill

https://www.guttmacher.org/state-policy/explore/overview-abortion-laws

https://www.fpa.org.uk/sites/default/files/abortion-your-questions-answered.pdf

The baby can be put up for adoption. While most states want the fathers approval, you can see in the both links below that a common question is how can you put a baby up for adoption without letting the father know. The second link goes into detail. For one example, if the father is not able to give the women a lot of financial support but still wants to keep the baby, his rights can be dismissed. If he is incarcerated and wants to keep the baby, the link goes on to example how because he is in jail he doesn’t REALLY have the right to have a say. Each example they give they let you know they can provide a lawyer to help you not need his consent. A lot of states still don’t even require the mother to let the father know she was/ is pregnant. A lot of states will also let the women put the child up for adoption if she gained custody, even if the father wanted custody, which we will go over in the next point.

https://www.americanadoptions.com/pregnant/adoption-questions

https://www.americanadoptions.com/pregnant/birth_father_isnt_supportive

https://adopt-connect.com/blog-post/adoption-without-fathers-consent/

The mother chooses parenthood. She wants to keep the baby. If they both want to keep it, great. It all works out. But what if they’re weren’t together and both wanted equal custody? While 50/50 custody is still rare, it is slowly rising up. However, many groups feel its unfair to women.

Around 80% of Mother’s will get custody. If a women says she breastfeeding, there isn’t even a debate. It goes to her no matter what. There was once a presumption that custody courts saw as law stating that children should always be with their mother, most states have dismissed this, but they still feel it’s always the child’s best interest to be with the mother as she is “the structure of marriage”. Because of this, there are hundreds of sites dedicated to helping men show the judge they can take care of children despite being a man and how to correctly explain parenthood as the judge will look for when the man is asked if he can be a parent. Do women have present a speech to the judge proving they can be a parent? No.

Men can get custody, though be it rare. However, the chance of getting child support from a woman drop significantly. Women on average will pay $2,000 less, and are also much less likely to pay it to the father with no legal consequences.

When men fall behind, it can be life changing and even deadly. An urban study of the nine largest states found that 70% of men paying child support where forced to pay 83% of there income to child support. I’m Georgia alone, 3,500 men were jailed in 2010 for not having payments caught up. In one city of new jersey 1,800 men where jailed or given ankle monitors for falling behind on payments. If you interested in reading more, I have an article I wrote going into detail on our child support system and how it effects men.

https://medium.com/@Autam/child-support-a-modern-system-abusing-men-926f585bbfc3

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3573927/Agony-50-50-mum-Women-held-upper-hand-custody-battles-fathers-winning-EQUAL-access-mothers-struggling-cope.html

https://www.urban.org/research/publication/assessing-child-support-arrears-nine-large-states-and-nation/view/full_repor

https://www.census.gov/topics/families/child-support.html

https://www.nytimes.com/2015/04/20/us/skip-child-support-go-to-jail-lose-job-repeat.html

https://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/jail-time-unpaid-child-support.html

https://dadsdivorce.com/articles/dads-represent-85-of-child-support-providers-pay-more-than-female-payers/

https://pjmedia.com/drhelen/2013/3/15/women-who-fail-to-pay-all-of-their-child-support-are-incarcerated-only-one-eighth-as-often-as-men-with-similar-violations/

https://www.divorcenet.com/resources/divorce/for-men/divorce-for-men-why-women-get-child-custody-over-80-time

Paper abortions (the right for a man to opt out of parenthood) have been brought up and even taken to court, however it was dismissed as “the Fourteenth Amendment does not deny to [the] State the power to treat different classes of persons in different ways." Meaning they believe men shouldn’t be given the same eights as women.

http://www.opn.ca6.uscourts.gov/opinions.pdf/07a0442p-06.pdf

https://www.cbsnews.com/news/roe-v-wade-for-men-suit-filed/

https://casetext.com/case/dubay-v-wells

So, a man, the individual, gets no say in whether he will be a parent. We see women being able to chose abortion, parenthood, adoption, but what options do men get in their reproduction? Whether or not to have sex? Sex is a basic human right, and a child should never be used as punishment for having sex.

Moving on to birth control, what exact option do men have here? Men have condoms, but these are also known as one of the worst forms of BC. For the most part, men have to trust women on whether or not they are using. Even with just condoms pregnancy happens often. BC sabotage is actually more common then one would think, however many legal consultants and organizations believe it’s still the mans fault. He should have been smarter and not trusted the woman. But why is it that if a woman trusts a man, he takes the condom off without consent, it’s rape. Shouldn’t she have just ‘been smarter’? Not only are both BC sabatoges seen differently, but mainstream articles even take women lying about it and laugh. Because it’s so funny to ruin a man life.

https://www.thestar.com/life/2017/10/17/how-birth-control-sabotage-affects-men-ellie.html

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-5271573/amp/People-reveal-lied-using-contraceptives.html

https://www.bet.com/style/living/2018/01/17/women-on-why-they-lied-about-being-on-the-pill.html

https://www.verywellhealth.com/six-reasons-for-condom-failure-2328835

https://www.birthcontrol.com/options/condom/how-effective-are-condoms/

https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.livescience.com/18661-14-common-condom-errors.html

But what about that new BC being made for men? Well, it got pulled. The side effects were too bad. Many women believe this as men being ‘too weak’. What most fail to see as no one actually looked at the study summery and conclusion, was the rates of side effects and severity were significantly higher than female contraception.

Of the 320 men who participated in the research reported 1,491 adverse effects. 20 percent had developed mood disorder that will always stay with them, 38 percent experienced an increased sexual drive. Testicular pains, night sweats, intense confusion, all common. Less common but we can’t forget it happened; suicide. The study even says; This decision [to terminate the trial] was based on [the Research Project Review Panel’s] review of study [adverse events] and conclusion that the risks to the study participants outweighed the potential benefits to the study participants and to the increased precision of the study outcome findings from having the full cohort contribute to the final analysis.”

Even with all this 70% of them wanted to continue the study. Why? Fear of BC sabotage and how this would help them. So no, men are not weak.

As women we’re lucky to have options. We can choose from hundreds of BC. We have amazing resources to help us find the right one. We could also go into men needed their partners permission as well for sterilization. Or the huge gender gap in healthcare, but I feel this already shows enough points for right now

https://academic.oup.com/jcem/article/101/12/4779/2765061

http://www.conrad.org/news-pressreleases-121.html

https://drjengunter.wordpress.com/2016/11/01/new-study-doesnt-show-men-are-wimps-about-contraception-side-effects-low-vasectomy-rate-might/

https://www.vox.com/2016/11/2/13494126/male-birth-control-study

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Right, me stopping you from spreading false information about FGM is totally me trying to silence FGM. Trying to warp data and statistics to fit what you WANT to be true only makes less people take the topic seriously and helps find no solution or bring awanees. You’d think someone who feels so strongly about a topic would like to learn the facts about it but I guess not. I forgot that a tumblr post is way more accurate and factual then all the scientist, culture experts, anthropologists, biologist and doctors who spent years studiying this. I don’t see how you can’t understand that saying it’s wrong to try and say one of two horrible evils is worse and spend all your time trying to prove it with false information rather than trying to stop both and protect our fellow humans no matter what’s in between their legs does not mean I don’t care about FGM, but I guess that’s such a crazy concept. I’m also confused as to why you can’t seem to say any of this directly to me but instead tell people I’m trying to silence women talking about it when I never once said it wasn’t an issue. Also, if a post is talking about men and pushing aside a major issue they face, it’s not men forcing themselves in the conversation. I hope one day you can open your mind and start acting serious about helping women, but till then this is pointless.

Holy shit. User narcolepticdaydream (autumnmizer) is one of these people that obsessively scours this site to derail and silence any posts about FGM. She actually just said, and I quote because you can’t even make this up, “FGM most of time is consensual”. Those were her literal, actual words. People that are truely against genital mutilation do not derail posts about FGM. The people that “What About The Menz!!!😭😭😭” FGM posts do not care about boys. They do not care about girls. They just straight up hate women.

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Hey, you seem to be afraid of being wrong and in anyway hearing a opionin different from yours, being as you blocked my main account. This is Autumn. I’m guessing you’ll block this one too, but please, try to face your fears and not run away to afraid of a debate.

It looks to me like you search the internet for a long time to find something resembling a source to disprove those numbers. Or number as that “source” only says the 20,000 nerves in the foreskin may be wrong. It’s a medical document, but it was copy and pasted to a blog. Meaning anything on it could have been changed.

There is a link on the bottom to the original site of the article. Surprising, the journal of medical ethics. When you go there, it tells you the page has been erased. Why would they take an important medical document finally debunking the myth of 20,000 nerve endings written by a scientist? Most believe that “myth” so something had to be going on for it to get deleted right?

And something was. See, Stephen Moreton (PhD), is a mineral chemist with no background in anatomy or biology. Nothing relevant to the circumcision debate. All his references are just the articles he’s trying to trash. He refuses to back up any of his claims and tells people to just believe him. On top of that, he was getting paid by the government to add in a little data to make circumcising seem like a good and healthy choice. If you don’t understand what that means, he committed data fraud and his articles are now seen as completely unreliable. http://a-place-to-stand.blogspot.com/2011/10/dr-steohen-moreton-refuses-to-verify.html?m=1

But if you really think a criminal mineral chemist knows more than;

Paul Murray Fleiss M.D. a pediatrician, pediatric professor, scholar, author, and public lecturer - http://www.mothersagainstcirc.org/fleiss.html

John S. Rinehart, M.D., Ph.D, study and graduated with a degree In Obstetrics and Gynecology, Reproductive Endocrinology/Infertility at Harvard. - http://www.cirp.org/library/psych/rhinehart1/

Robert Storms Van Howe, a pediatrician, professor of pediatrics at Central Michigan University College of Medicine, where he is also the interim director of the pediatrics program, and he holds a masters' degree in biostatistics. - https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/9218663/

Dan Bollinger. Director of the International Coalition of Genital Integrity - https://www.researchgate.net/publication/240804903_Lost_Boys_An_Estimate_of_US_Circumcision-Related_Infant_Deaths

H. C. Bazett, M.D.

B. McGlone, Ph. D.

R. G. Williams, M.D.

and

H. M. Lufkin, Ph. D. All similar accomplimwnts as the already mentioned doctors/ scientist. http://www.cirp.org/library/anatomy/bazett/

Janice Lander, PhD; Barbara Brady Freyer, MN; James B. Metcalfe, MD; Shermin Nazerali, MPharm; Sarah Muttit, MD, again, similar to the other mentioned - http://www.cirp.org/library/pain/lander/

As for the clitoris;

Debra Herbenick, PhD, a sexual health educator from The Kinsey Institute, says 8,000 - https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.health.com/mind-body/10-things-you-never-knew-about-the-clitoris

Sebastian wolf PhD says the same thing - https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.irishtimes.com/life-and-style/health-family/the-clitoris-has-8-000-nerve-endings-and-nine-other-things-we-learned-from-a-new-artwork-1.2947694%3fmode=amp

Also, first thing that pops up in searches;

Obviously being against one doesn’t make you pro the other. However, trying to make one out to be worse is just childish and helps nothing. They’re both evil and abuse. Instead of arguing about which is worse, why are we trying to make both happen less? FGM has been outlawed world wide, while circumcision is still legal everywhere, and they don’t even need to use anesthetic. Also, FGM most of the time is consensual. It is because the girl is mislead with information, but they agree to it. Obviously still wrong, but there’s a lot of variables in both genders cases.

To say this is silencing women is very false. To say it’s all for male approval is very false. Unlike most people on this site, I care about our rights as human beings. Not as a women or man. You seem to have a lot of pent up hate you’re projecting on me, and I’m sorry about that. But you’re also misunderstanding me in saying we shouldn’t be completing them, as again they’re both horrible procedures. You seem to think I’m saying FGM isn’t bad or a big deal, which is not the case. It’s just as big a deal as MGM.

Some person: Circumcision is bad

Me: I agree, I don’t think that non-essential surgical procedures on an infant for aesthetic reasons is appropriate in any case

Some person: FGM and circumcision are the exact same thing and I can’t hear discussions of FGM without constantly bringing up circumcision, I honestly believe that removing an infant’s foreskin is the same thing as removing a 12-year-old girl’s labia and clitoris and sewing her vagina closed

Me: I will come to your house and cut your dick off myself

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First piece I’m making public. An overall on how child support is one sided and oppressive to men.

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To all submissive women out there

Sorry for all the hate you get from some feminist. Sorry you have to be subjected to some much hate. Sorry you have to go through people trying so hard to convince you you’re abused. Sorry people tell you the way you are is wrong.

You’re wonderful. You’re not messed up or a freak. Be you, and don’t let anyone tell you different.

Because of the hype around submissive women with feminist today, when I was a feminist I was told so many horrible things about submissive women, that i went through years of shitty sex that I hated no matter how much I knew I was a submissive. Now I’ve accepted that and have an amazing boyfriend who listens and gives me what I need. Don’t let people tell you who you are!

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the problem with liberal feminists is that they believe femininity is oppressed and marginalized. this is fundamentally wrong. females are oppressed and marginalized. 

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Please help us spread this for men's rights everywhere! Also, if you are a feminist you should be supporting this! A feminist should want equal rights if it really is about equality, even when that means speaking out for someone that isn't a women. The Men's March for Equality is about standing up for men's rights and bringing awareness to the men's rights movement. Most people here of meninism or of the MRM and think that it's not needed and women are the ones who are oppressed, yet; Men have NO reproductive rights. Men are made to believe they need to be taught not to rape. Men are told they are born rapist until taught differently. Men are told they need to be taught consent. Men make up the majority of suicides. Men almost never get custody of their kids. Men are told they can be discriminated against. Men are told they can't be victims to domestic abuse. There are almost no domestic abuse shelters for me. There are almost no center to help men who have been raped. Men are told they can't be raped. Men make up almost all of combat deaths. There are many more reasons for men to fight for equal rights. A date has not yet been selected but I hope many can make it.

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It’s just fucking ridiculous to me that we’re having marches for women all over the USA in all of these first world European countries where women have every right and opportunity men have while women are still stoned to death in other places. They’re facing real abuse, sexism, misogyny. They’re being tortured and killed and y'all are pissed off because you have to pay for tampons? Fuck you.