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kidney beans and kidney stones are our two known artifacts from the otherworldly location of kidney world

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horrible news: you have to practice to level up your skills because it's unrealistic to think you'll be good at everything first try

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there's this well-meaning but I think quite misguided Thing where someone transmasuline whose transition has left them looking, for lack a better term, very conventionally masc - bearded, muscular, liable to be assumed cisgender - will be held up in an argument that essentially goes "lmao you dumbass terfs really want THIS GUY to use the women's bathroom???" as if it's inherently absurd that someone who looks that way would use the women's bathroom. and these tend to get passed around quite a lot to cackle at the stupid terfs who want huge hairy men in women's bathrooms.

and like, let's get one thing straight: no, of course they don't want that guy to use the women's bathroom. they want him to die or detransition; that's their actual goal. they want him to not exist as a trans person. let's just be clear on that.

but the thing that actually bothers me is that this rather steamrolls over the fact that for every transmasuline person who looks like that, there are also transfeminine, nonbinary, and intersex people who look like that and want access to women's bathrooms, and setting up their presence as some kind of absurdity really isn't doing them any favors. nor is it helping the less "passing" trans people who want to use men's bathrooms! this is in fact reinforcing the idea that public bathrooms are a space to be policed based on appearance, that you only gain access to if you can look a certain way.

which is absurd for many reasons, including that it's a fucking bathroom. people are there to piss. ideally anybody should be able to piss next to anybody and we could stop bothering with gender separated bathrooms at all, but in the meantime let's at least not take part in actively encouraging people to decide at a glance who's allowed to piss where.

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If there’s anything I’ve learned in life it’s that being confident and having self respect will sometimes evoke some of the most irrational obsessive hatred and anger in other people. Particularly if you’re perceived as someone who doesn’t “deserve” to feel that way about yourself there’s a very specific type of anger that comes from people who can’t understand why someone who they think should hate themselves doesn’t

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An early Halloween cartoon for Guardian Books

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Who the fuck is that thing tolling for

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“National teacher shortage” is a fun way of saying that the USA has made a passion driven job so ungodly inhospitable that even people who “just care about teaching, not the money” don’t even care about teaching anymore.

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“the algorithm only shows us _____” so stop looking at the algorithm. you don't need it. go to a thrift store and flip through some magazines from the 1980s. go read a random book that’s no longer in print on the internet archive. go to a museum and walk around until you see an artwork you don’t recognize. go get a cookbook from the library and make a recipe you've never tried. go listen to the radio. go talk to people in real life. you are not confined to your online content feed. you never have been!!!!!!!

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the thing is that being fat - much like being transgender and being autistic - is awesome right up until the moment you have to exist in a society that doesn't particularly want you to be there

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goodnight to you, love. don’t stay up too late. sleep well. dream some sweet dreams. don’t fret about tomorrow right now. just enjoy the warm blankets.

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There are a lot of things I love about Xiaohongshu. It really feels like the platonic ideal of the social media we were promised when the internet was new. It's the idea that you could one day go online and connect with people across the world, learn about them, have them learn about you, share your recipes and stories and just generally come closer as an international community.

Lately, the part of that I've been loving is the sharing of recipes. Sharing recipes and food feels like the first thing people do when they come from different cultures. Not only have I been making Chinese food (bought a wok and everything) but I've been discovering Mexican and other Latin American food. And I get to watch Chinese people discover Mexican food and gush with love over it. I get to watch them fall in love with a food I fell in love with decades ago. And I get to watch other Chinese people who have spent time in America talk about how Mexican food is their favorite food over here.

The world is full of conflict (has been for a long time) but especially right now with a worldwide push towards fascism. So it is so very touching to watch people be, well, people across continents, borders and language barriers. It helps to remind me that despite everything going on in the world, the citizens of the world will always have much more in common than we don't.

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I muste, [doth remember that self-deprecation bringeth ill to mine own mental health] plow the fields

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yet another adhd comic

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