mydearjessapearl

[mydearjessapearl]

#2 I was rude to him and I am sorry

Dear Jessa,

I think it's important for us to reflect on our feelings, particularly our anger. I believed we had moved past hurting others, and I really don't want us to cause pain to those we care about. When emotions run high, it’s crucial to manage how we express them. Instead of keeping everything to ourselves, let's try sharing our feelings calmly and kindly.

Recently, someone important to you pointed out that your actions were rude—and I think they were right. In the future, consider how public expressions of our emotions might affect those involved, especially if they know the context behind them.

It's tough, but we must accept that he may not share our feelings. No matter how much love you are ready to give, it may not be reciprocated in the way you hope. Let’s focus on handling this gracefully and moving forward with understanding and self-care.

Love, Jessa

[mydearjessapearl]

Blog #1: I am here for you, my dear self!

Dear Jessa,

I know there are times when you feel deeply unhappy. The path you've chosen often brings frustration, especially when it comes to relationships—wanting to love and be loved, yet feeling misunderstood by those closest to you.

It hurts when the support you seek is met with criticism, especially from someone you love and consider important in your life. You’ve noticed that expressing your emotions on social media leads to being labeled dramatic. It’s disheartening when those expected to understand you are the ones who judge you most harshly.

You’ve been thinking about changing, but I want to ask you, why? Why change for people who wouldn’t change for you? Remember their words: "This is me, you can leave." Why can’t you say the same? They haven’t apologized for the pain they’ve caused, yet they expect your protection and loyalty—things they haven't reciprocated.

It’s a painful realization that the love you’ve given hasn’t been returned. These people have chosen to tear you down from the moment they met you. Why continue seeking their approval? The truth is, the only person guaranteed to love you is yourself.

I know it feels lonely at times—being an only child and introverted makes it even harder to connect with others. Despite what people think, you don’t crave attention from many; one or two genuine connections are enough. You post photos because it makes you feel good, not to seek validation. Yet, accusations of attention-seeking come your way, and it's unjust. You’re naturally beautiful, Jessa. You don’t need to change your appearance to meet anyone’s expectations.

You’ve been told you're too much—because you seek loyalty and offer it in abundance. But what’s wrong with expecting fidelity and sincerity?

Jessa, I’m truly sorry for the challenges you face. I wish I could ease your path. But we need to look forward, focus on our own growth and success. Let’s prove to ourselves what we’re capable of achieving, not to make them realize what they've lost, but to honor our own worth.

Change should be for you, not for anyone else. Choose paths that bring you joy, surround yourself with those who appreciate your depth, and embrace your individuality. Let’s commit to loving ourselves, understanding our needs, and nurturing our inner strength.

XoXo,

Jessa