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graph of what being hungry is like with adhd

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Hi :) So I was pretty sure I have adhd and I went to the psychologist for an adhd diagnosis and she told me that I have it (still need to go for a second visit but so I can know earlier). At first I was EXTREMALLY happy (I cried) but after I left I started thinking whether I tricked her somehow (unintentionally) and that maybe I'm overreacting with my problems. So now I kinda feel guilty and ashamed like I don't deserve this diagnosis :| Do you think it's possible that she made a mistake?

Hi! I'll be honest it's been a long time since I've checked this blog so I don't know how old this is but I felt compelled to answer because omg that was exactly how I felt at first!!!

The first like 2 years after I was diagnosed I felt like I had tricked them into it (despite know very little about ADHD at the time)

While professionals do sometimes make mistake I doubt this is one of them 🌟 nearly everyone I have spoken to who got diagnosed after they were a kid felt like this at first it's super common and I really don't think you're tricking everyone.

When you have had to cope with a disability without knowing it existed for such a long time it can often feel like you're being extreme at first when you acknowledge the parts that are disabling that you have been trying to hide for so long 🤸

I wish you well in this journey and I hope you learn more about both yourself and ADHD soon!! But dont go believing everything you read online or see on tiktok lol there's so much misinformation about ADHD sadly :((

Also while you're here let me point you in the direction of where you could start!

https://youtube.com/@HowtoADHD?si=DrMhDigq24XlbzTU

Jessica was hugely helpful to me when I was first diagnosed back in 2017 (oh god that is so long ago wtf??) And I always point people toward her!

I wish you all the best!

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Not sure who needs to see this, but if a Service Dog starts backing into you, pushing you away from their handler, or they sit down at a leash distance from their handler

You Should Move Away.

They are performing a task known as "spacing" or "blocking" that helps reduce or prevent anxiety in their handler.

They are NOT "asking for pets" or being disobedient or asking to be spoken to. All you have to do is stay back from the dog and handler.

This is not a capslock PSA because I'm not sure how many people that don't have a SD actually know this is a trained task.

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I don’t understand when people complain about “likespamming.” If I see the same person 20 times in a row in my notifs, even if they don’t reblog anything or follow me, I���m excited that they came to my gay little museum and had a good time! That’s literally what it’s for!!

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mannnnn until we all get okay with the idea of people needing other people to get them water/food/etc like. idk we’re just never gonna make it

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This is the most adorable non-bot blank blog I’ve ever seen. People, this is all you need to do to let us know you’re a human if you’re confused.

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People love to talk about whether or not disabled people can work

but if you can work just fine and your disability is destroying your ability to have a life outside of work (because work takes all your energy and more)

Dead silence. Nobody cares.

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A brief summary of how user engagement is tracked on Tumblr, for the newcomer:

When you like or reblog a post, that counts as user engagement for the person you liked or reblogged from, and shows up in their notifications.  

If the person you liked or reblogged a post from wasn’t the original poster (i.e., you’re liking or reblogging a reblog), it also counts as user engagement for the original poster, and shows up in their notifications as well.  

This means that user engagement from your likes and reblogs can potential accrue to two different people, the original poster and the person you liked or reblogged from.  

Consequently, you cannot “steal” user engagement from someone by reblogging their post.  

This is one of the very few areas where Tumblr is actually functions more reasonably than other social media platforms.  

Note that this is only true if you use Tumblr’s built-in reblogging function. If you save someone else’s content to your local device and append it to a new post, you effectively become the original poster from that point on.  

This means that on Tumblr, “reblogging” and “reposting” are two different things; if you see someone complaining about “reposting”, this is not the same as reblogging.  

Commenting when reblogging does not affect any of this – unlike, say, Twitter, where quote-retweeting causes user engagement to accrue to the quote-retweet and not to the original tweet – and you can and should do so freely.  

However, every Tumblr user can see who exactly you reblogged a post from, which functions as a soft disincentive against making inane comments; if you make a dumb comment on a reblog, people who see your reblog may “back up” one step in the reblog chain to reblog a version of the post without your comment.  

Nobody understands tags, and there’s a fair amount of evidence that how tags work changes periodically and without warning.  

Tags are a divine mystery.

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Apparently people are claiming the term “chronically online” is problematic because it downplays the struggles of chronic illness. and as a chronically ill person lemme just say that take is the definition of being chronically online

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getting diagnosed with adhd as an adult is basically having a doctor tell you that a bunch of the things you thought of as universal human experiences were actually Symptoms of Problems Disorder so it shouldn't be surprising that someone can say "enjoying content consumption is actually a symptom" and a bunch of people will go "oh goddammit, another one?"

like, the last time you tried to say "no, everyone does that" you turned out to be clinically wrong so the best you can do is just

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i think it’s very very interesting that adhd and autism comparisons and solidarity are very prominent in the neurodiverse community, but autism and schizophrenia, another disorder that has a lot of ties and similarity to autism almost NEVER gets brought up in relation to it. i wonder why that is.

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alright here it is. i feel like mentally ill/neurodivergent people- and really- it’s generally just people with depression, anxiety, adhd and autism. and maybe there’s more but it’s one am and i’m blanking so forgive me if i miss it- have spent a lot of time trying to convince the general neurotypical public that they need to be respected. which is wonderful. but the way that i’ve seen a lot of this activism done is specifically putting psychotic and people with “bad” or “harmful” disorders, to try and boost people with these specific disorders and neurodivergencies up in a sort of pick-me girl fashion, you follow?

and the way they’ve done this is mostly by going something like “i’ve just got a disease, it’s not like i [exhibit delusional/paranoid/psychotic or otherwise “”crazy”” symptom here. i.e. think i’m the queen of england] i’m normal! i’m just like you!” and this has been the central focus of a lot of mainstream. neurodivergent activism for YEARS. in books and movies and on tv shows when a mentally ill character is introduced or mental illness is the main focus, and they’re trying to show it in a destigmatized light it’s always like this. it’s always showing that a character with autism or adhd or depression or anxiety ISNT ACTUALLY “mentally ill” (and mental illness is treated as a dirty bad word as well.) and that’s been a sole point i’ve seen in a lot of mental health activism , mostly sort of in the 2010s. but a lot of these roots still exist today in our concept of neurodivergency. putting other mentally ill and neurodivergent people down to hopefully get a leg up. i’m not like OTHER mentally ill people- so please respect me and treat me as equal pleeeease i’m not like those CRAAAZY PSYCHOS i’m just like you. and i deserve to be respected because im the same as you. which is a very backwards message to try to convey when you talk about mental health and neurodivergency. because to put it straightly- you aren’t the same. your brain functions differently. and you shouldn’t be respected because you can strive for some semblance of neurotypical-like behavior, (which, once again, a lot of us CANT. and that puts both psychotic people and people with those disorders you’re trying to say are just like neurotypical people, like autism or adhd, but can’t act neurotypical enough, down) you should be respected because you are a human being and are inherently deserving of respect.

and this has also driven sort of a wedge in the neurodivergent community as we see it today- because a LOT of conversations centered around neurodivergency are centered around adhd, autism, depression, and anxiety (for other reasons than this as well, don’t get me wrong) and while neurodivergency is meant to be this whole encompassing feel good term. but a lot of us with qoute un qoute bad disorders. like psychosis and personality disorders, schizophrenia and npd and aspd, etc- feel very very very othered. and usually form our own communities with others like ourselves instead of trying to fit into this weird sort of “mentally ill/neurodivergent” community which. for years. has still treated us as the “weird crazy guys who THEYRE not like at all.” while touting that they’re mentally ill and deserve to be respected, on the backs of putting others down to reach for that respect.

so anytime you’re faced with any prejudice for being mentally ill or neurodivergent- please don’t go “oh, don’t worry, i’m not gonna attack you or go crazy i’m not like THAT” because some of us ARE like that. some of us DO have the crazy “bad” mental illnesses. and so so so often are we pushed out of and discriminated by regular society, we don’t deserve that same shitty treatment by people who are supposedly in our community. supposed to support us. but instead use us as a stair to attempt to reach some unattainable goal of sameness- of respectability- that no one will ever fucking reach. stop trying to appeal to neurotypicals and instead support your goddamn community.

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you are not a bad person because of your memory loss. you are not less intelligent because of your memory loss. you are not less caring because of your memory loss.

memory loss isn’t your fault and you don’t deserve to feel ashamed.

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If you're trans -- if you have a gender identity that doesn't exactly match the gender you were assigned at birth, regardless of whether you have transitioned or intend to and whether you're nonbinary -- and live in the US, ok and are 16 or older, you are eligible to fill out the 2022 US Trans Survey, crafted by trans people.

This is a big deal, it's the largest national trans survey and the last one was in 2015. The next one won't be for at least another five years.

There's some fairly personal questions and some heavy ones, like ones about harassment and domestic violence. They don't ask for your name or other definitively identifying information, and take steps to keep the rest of the data confidential. You can skip (most) questions you don't want to answer while filling out the rest. Data can be useful for lobbying politicians for things that are good for trans people, especially ones who are basically sympathetic but not sure they should prioritize trans issues. (In their words, "The USTS fills in some of the large gaps in research about transgender people, and it provides critical tools for researchers, policymakers, and advocates seeking to better understand the needs of transgender people and to find ways to improve their lives.") Most questions have set options, but there's also an opportunity at the end to share personal stories in your own words.

There's also a Spanish language version and Spanish speakers, people of color, older people, immigrants, those who live in rural areas, and people who are HIV+ are especially encouraged to fill it out (because when people don't it's harder to advocate for services for those people, even when people providing the services know damn well there's a lot of need.)

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tbh i kinda hate the "lol tumblr users are old and thats why we're in pain" jokes

like. no. you arent old, youre fucking 30, and if youre in constant pain there is something wrong and you may be able to actually DO something about it if you acknowledge it!!!!

like yeah the only medical care a lot of people have access to is worse than useless but instead of pretending its fine and normal we could be sharing resources and figuring shit out!!!