multilabeledperson

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"What's it about?"

"Basically about my experience being aromantic and asexual. Like, being in a world where romance and sex are prized above everything when you don't feel those forms of attraction. Growing up feeling that something about you is different, but you don't have the words to describe what that is. But then, freedom. The euphoria of freeing yourself from those pressures and expectations."

- Heartstopper, Season 2, Episode 7

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Heartstopper 2.07

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I’m laya and this is my book blog. @layaart is my art blog, @layahimalaya is my “main” but I’m not very active there

💚💜 my aro & ace book database / tumblr post / no-romance book database

✏ my book character description database / tumblr post / tag

🎨 I co-run @diversebookfanart

🔪 archivist wasp tweetbot, discord server!

🧙‍♂️ cosplay: 🔪archivist wasp / 💀artemisia / 🥀alyce / 🔔lirael / 💙 blue 

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📚 reading threads: 2020 2021 2022 2023 monthly wrapups

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misc tags: #aroace books #aromantic books #asexual books #no romance

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One day I wish to get to this point with my newfound identity ����💚🖤🩶🤍

I adore my aromantic identity

Don't get me wrong there are issues I face as an aromantic person; both outside of and inside the queer community as a whole But I still adore this identity. It brings me so much joy to be aromantic and have the aromantic community

I will be unapologetically loveless heartless badass

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Love is not required btw. It is well and good to live a life without love. Love is not something that must be experienced in order to be happy. Good life can exist without love.

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"love is what makes us human" okay you underestimate my desire to be nonhuman

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Being on the aromantic spectrum is normal and healthy.

Not identifying with the word love at all as an arospec is perfectly fine, and actually amazing and cool.

Not applying the concept of love to anything or anyone in your life is ok, it's more than ok. It's wonderful.

Aros are not mentally ill on the basis of being aro.

Aros are not unhealthy on the basis of being aro.

Aros are not inherently lonely on the basis of being aro (though aro loneliness is real and valid)

Fuck anyone who tries to tell you otherwise

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Love is not required to be human. Love is not a requirement. Love is not inherent to relationships or orientation. Love is not the epitome of all human interaction. Love does not determine your worth.

Love is neutral. Love is not universal. Love can be rejected. You don't have to have love if you don't want to.

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Recently Discovered I am Aromantic

Hello persons of this scary world,

As the title suggest, I am aromantic.

How did I feel about this discovery? Emotional.

Why?It is scary walking in this world as a semi-grown adult. I feel like an anomaly. Often vocal queers advocate for every LGBTQ+ person of celebrating our differences within our means. I want to showcase my pride. I really do and I have the space for that. 

I just cannot feel that right now. 

It sucks. 

In a country where queer people are subjected to such much hate on a daily basis, being loud and proud is necessary. However, recognizing that I am aromantic has left me confused and slightly uncomfortable.

As a kid, I believed that a partner. Marriage is unnecessary nor I ever want that. Yet I want a life partner. I frequently watch romance comedies. I read fanfiction with heavy romantic themes. I listen to music with romantic yearning. A fantasy that someone will recognize me for who I am and understand me. The belief I’d have the opportunity of holding hands, hugging, and watch tv/films that we both love. Finding comfort in someone who respects me as much as I respect them.  Offering my kindness and love unconditionally. I thought I wanted romantic moment with my partner while Kiss Me by Sixpence None the Richer or Vapour Trail by Ride playing in the background. My partner eagerly telling me their day while drinking tea. Above all else, have an unbreakable and incredibly important foundational friendship that makes love so beautiful. 

Now I am double guessing those fantasies I created. I have more I’m yet to express.

As Alice Osman wrote it best in Loveless through the character Georgia:

“In the end, that was the problem with romance. It was so easy to romanticise romance because it was everywhere. It was in music and on TV and in filtered Instagram photos. It was in the air, crisp and alive with fresh possibility. It was in falling leaves, crumbling wooden doorways, scuffed cobblestones and fields of dandelions. It was in the touch of hands, scrawled letters, crumpled sheets and the golden hour. A soft yawn, early morning laugher, shoes lined up together dy the door. Eyes across a dance floor. I could see it all, all the time, all around, but when I got closer, I found nothing was there.”

No one is obligating me to review all these emotions. 

It is fucking Pride Month. I should be outside screaming to the heavens and everyone that “EVERYONE I AM AROMANTIC!! I AM A PROUD ACE/ARO NONBINARY!!” I should be happy that I made this discover. A sense of relief. I do not have any of that cause I feel like I am my own biggest liar. 

I lied to myself for years. 

Did I do this to protect myself? Did I lie as I knew this is the label I would have the most trouble with? Are the crushes I told myself to have are even real? Did I lie to everyone about who I am? Did I use media as a way to pretend the romantic feelings I thought I had? 

As I am crying that I can’t seem to accept this revelation. I hope to go outside and be proud. For now, I will ruminate in my feelings behind my desk and wait to have courage of facing this truth.

A truth that I am way too scared to face.

A conclusion I will explore for a while.

So bear with me in this journey. I’m not asking for pity. Much less wanting others to feel bad for me or interact with me.

I just needed to vent.

Sincerely,

Multi-labeled Person