msclumsy0023

[msclumsy0023]

Ako daw Yung dahilan kung bakit nawala ung tiwala Niya sakin but lagi kong sinasabi sa kanya na siya lang ung mahal ko at un ung totoo pinaparamdam ko naman yun sa kanya. Anong gagawin ko I let go Kona ba siya o sisikapin Kong ibalik ung tiwala Niya sakin??

Hi Patotieeee,

If your partner tells you that he loves you but doesn't trust you, it can be a difficult situation to deal with. After all, trust is the foundation of any relationship.

Why does he not trust you? Trust is very important, it's a base for a relationship. I would ask him why he's feeling this way and trying to work it out. You need to talk and ask him, otherwise you will destroy yourself by looking for ways to win his trust!!

Again If a person doesn’t trust you, why would you want to be with them. Love is not about saying “I love you.” It is about showing in the way they behave, in what they do when you want your time and space. Every relationship is sacred on that count. Your hanging out with your friends, family or even your colleagues and associates is not cheating and betrayal. It is about who you are and your circle of people in your life. Same as his. Good luck!! Please think about how it will impact your entire life. Take a call.

Sincerely,

Ms. Clumsy0023

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na fall po kase ako sa taong cold at isa din kase akong torpe and we are of different religion din any advices po

Hi inlove with someone,

You can slowly become friends with her, make sure not to push their personal boundaries as it will make her uncomfortable. When they are open with you, lakasan mo loob mo at if you think na me chance ka? feel free to tell her your feeling while also reassuring them that it is fine if they don't feel the same way.

You have got to risk love. Time is very precious in life so don't loose opportunity which are in hands wag masyadong torpe, kung totoo at mahal mo talaga, Sige lang! Gawin mo lang sa tingin mo eh tama!

Just be a nice boy and do approach her. Who knows what are written in destiny.

If failure might take place then there is nothing to be small hearted.

There are more options, there are more attempts. Just go for it !!!

About religion there is not much you can do! It’s a difficult situation. It depends what religions you both adore. Some religions are almost compatible and others are Romeo and Juliet. You both have to decide whether your religion is going to rule your life, or whether you are going to listen to your inner self, which is your inner guidance system. That doesn’t mean that you don’t discuss your decisions with others, but it does mean you don’t live under a system imposed upon you. Up to you. Good luck and laban lang!! Lakasan mo loob mo at Ipag laban mo lang! Kaya mo yan.. 😛🥳😇

Sincerely,

MsClumsy

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Advice para sa nag mga nag cheat ang bf

Hi Villenageart,

Cheating is the most intimate and ultimate betrayal. It is also the one thing that is the hardest ever to get past or forgive, for it breaks the trust you had in your partner. Trust is the foundation all healthy relationships are built upon; without complete trust in each other, the relationship will falter and end.

The foundation of a good relationship is Trust. If there is no trust, the relationship will eventually crumble. It would be like trying to build a house without putting down a Foundation, sure, it looks fine at first, but it's only a matter of time until disaster strikes.

Good luck! Hope okay lang lahat sa iyo.

Sincerely,

MsClumsy

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Hello po, I need advice kasi yung kaibigan ko eh natatakot po sya mag commit sa isang relasyon dahil sa kanyang parents. Pano po ba sasabihin sa aking kaibigan? Salamat po.

Hi Mellowcowboy,

Tell your friend, in relationships don't be afraid if he/she truly love someone, Sundin lang nya ang nararamdaman nya, wag siyang matakot sa anuman commitment na haharapin nya, ang mahalaga mahal nya at mahal siya. So give it the best shot and leave the rest to destiny.

It’s totally fine to be like this. One cannot share everything with their parents. But again Puwede naman dahan dahanin kausapin ang parents nya, specially kung nasa tamang edad na siya? At Alam nya na ang ginagawa nya. Kung takot parin siya sa commitments it is also okay because if you’re committing yourself in something you need be sure about it and internally stable.

Their’s nothing to worry about. With respect to time he/she would be ready for commitments and for everything, you would get your answers which you’re looking for. For now, just go with the flow of time. Thank you and hope maging okay na siya, Life is too short to be scared and not take risks. I'd rather be the person that's like, 'I messed up,' than, 'I wish I did that.'

Sincerely,

MsClumsy0023

[msclumsy0023]

Sometimes, You have to accept the fact that you love someone and they can't love you back, never beg someone to love you because It hurts to wait for something that you don't know whether it could happen or not. Always choose to be a priority and chose to love yourself!

[msclumsy0023]

Hello po i need advice... I went to province and met a guy,we had one night stand, he is younger than me.. In a state of just passed the bord exam, now i'm back at manila since work here, he wanted to visit me but he don't have money so he ask if i could shoulder his travel expenses.. He said that he loves me and want to spend time before he start his training at camp. Should I shoulder it? I feel like kinda turned off but i like him. Please give me some advice... Thank you.

Hi Ms-Comfuse,

Apologies for the delay of my response, he is the one who want to visit you, he should pay period… end of discussion, it's like being asked out on a date but you still have to pay for your own food. If it was your idea then that is fine, at least you can help a little, And again it depend on the situations.

know your worth make him invest in you if he really wants to see you he will pay without any questions asked.

If a man is truly interested in you he will figure out a way to come to you. Gagawa siya ng paraan just to see you and find away para maka punta siya dyan.

I would NOT shoulder any expenses he wants you to pay, and expected you to pay for all and stay with him especially if you are just getting to know him , think twice wag kang masyadong padala sa damdamin mo, gamitin mo ang isip mo, Tama ba na ako sumagot sa lahat ng gastos nya? Bakit hindi siya gumawa ng paraan para mag kita kami without asking money?

Don't stay with him, Alam ko he can find away without asking you for his expenses. Good luck and be smart to make a decisions. Thank you and god blessed 😇

Sincerely Yours,

MsClumsy0023

[msclumsy0023]

Pwede humingi ng advice ms, ano po ang gagawin ko kung yung bf ko po is minsan lang magreply sa akin, parang wala lang po sa kanya balewala pero gusto nya ako, pero sabi nya po hindi naman nya ako niloloko kapag di sya nagcchat sa akin tapos po sabi nya sa akin kahit di daw kami magkausap, kami pa rin hindi ko maintindihan, in short time po kasi minahal ko sya.

Hi Mamalove19,

Everybody can be busy! But if someone who claims to love you cannot make out time for you, I'm afraid that person doesn't really love you.

People who make out time for you truly care about you. People who say they care but cannot make out time for you, do not care about you.

If he don't have time for you, he has no time to find love. That's the truth of it all. You don't want anything less than love.

He is probably planning to use you or is just using you and playing with your emotions. I’m sorry about it, “ TIME IS LOVE! LOVE IS TIME”!

Ask yourself, do you deserve someone who plays with your emotions?

Don't you deserve someone who is real enough to put actions to their words?

Remember, love yourself enough to leave when the other person cannot see your worth. Good luck to you and sana maging okay na ang lahat sa iyo! Thank you and I know everything will be okay. Smile ka na ha and don’t waste your time thinking about this issue of your relationship, let go and move on.. God blessed 😇 ☺️

Sincerely Yours,

MsClumsy0023💖💝r

[msclumsy0023]

Pwedeng huminge ng advice, ano po dapat kong gawin kasi hindi na ako mahal ng taong mahal ko, lumayo ng lumayo yung loob nya sakin.

Hi Waywardmakerweaselperson,

It is normal since you spent time with that person, there will always be that lingering effects, If that person let go of your hand then don't try to reach it again because there is nothing that you will gain except pain

You move on! Trust me, just move on. It’s all going to get better, eventually. All you need is a push from the inside. Not just once, a little everyday. When you know someone does not or hindi ka na mahal, what are you waiting for? Sinasaktan mo lang ang sarili mo! Why are you wasting some precious years of your life?

Alam ko masakit! Nararamdaman mong parang mag isa ka na lang sa mundo, You will have many breakdowns. You will cry and cry and cry. You would stop talking to people. You would make yourself reserved. You will start doubting yourself, forget loving yourself. You would feel you’re losing everything in life. Name it and it will happen.

But, whatever happens, it won’t last forever. All those emotions and feelings just need you to press a button to turn them off. It’s not going to be easy, but it’s not impossible either. Alam ko makakaya mo yan! Laban lang tayo.

People lose the ones they love to death, yung sa iyo, hindi ka na mahal ng taong mahal mo. Tell me what’s worse? I’m not saying that your problems don’t mean anything. They do. But you’ve got to become stronger.

Kung hindi ka na Mahal, someone else will, And Alam ko na dyan lang sa tabi tabi yan or nag hihintay lang 😜 kaya wag ka nang malungkot ha? Life is to short, enjoy lang tayo at madami pang way pare tayo eh sumaya..

Until then, become the love of your life! Good luck and Goblessed po.

[msclumsy0023]

Hi po, msclumsy0023. Gusto ko lang po sana humingi ng advice mo. May boyfriend po ako, bago pa kami nagkakilala eh masyado po akong busy sa studies. As in puro po ako pag aaral. Then one time, nagchat po siya and hindi nga po ako interesado. And then a friend of mine told me na baka i need to loosen up a bit. I took her advice po and na-entertained ko po yung current bf ko. Okay naman po pag uusap namin, nakuha niya rin po yung ideal type ko po when it comes to men and yun hanggang sa nanligaw na siya and then yon na po sinagot ko siya. Okay naman po relasyon namin. Nag aaway man minsan pero naaayos naman po. As in wala po akong reklamo sa relasyon namin. And then umabot po ulit sa time na sobrang busy ko po na minsan pinag aantay ko siya. Sinusubukan ko naman po magbigay ng oras pero naano po ako sa pag aaral. Yun na nga po, patuloy pa rin po yun kasi kahit siya nabubusy na din. And then nagising na lang po ako, na iniisip kong mas okay pala akong walang boyfriend. Na mas maganda pa palang single lang ako. Na hindi ko pala kelangan ng lalaki sa buhay ko. Na mas magandang magfocus lang ako sa studies ko. Gusto ko lang po linawin na okay kami, as in. Sa'kin po ang problema. Dahil naiisip ko po yung mga bagay na 'yon, I felt guilty. Kaya po humihingi po ako ng advice kung ano po ang pupwede kong gawin? Maraming salamat po.

Hello Ms. Sherimiy,

Ang advice po natin Ay galing sa isa mga advisor ng aming gc! From Ms @Ariellerosas

there’s nothing wrong about realizing what your priorities are. If gusto mo magfocus sa pagaaral muna (or other things and not your boyfriend) na sayo un. Hindi mo naman kelangan isipin na may problema sayo. Everyone wants different things and need to focus on different things. Sa ngayon di ka pa ready pumasok sa isang relationship and that’s okay. Pero dapat makipaghiwalay ka ng maayos sa boyfriend mo. Kausapin mo siya soon so you are not dragging him along knowing na hindi naman siya ung priority mo at di ka naman masaya sa relationship niyo. It’s not fair for him na iniintay ka pag busy ka tapos ganyan naman pala un nararamdaman mo para sa kanya. It’s okay to focus on yourself first, but it’s not okay na masaktan siya kakaintay at kakaasa na may something more sa inyo. You probably just have to let him go na muna. Tell him your priorities and what you want and be honest about it. kung mahal ka naman niya maiintindihan niya un dahil para sa ikakabuti mo rin naman un. never feel guilty for wanting more for yourself and wanting to better yourself and focus on studies muna.

[msclumsy0023]

What's the point of trying anymore? I've been working my butt off for years and years and my life's barely improved. I'm so tired of trying and hoping and wishing and working to have so little work out for me. Why can't I just get my way every once in a while? Haayy naka kapagod. Opssss please wala pong kokontra, emote lang paminsan Minsan po. 😂

[msclumsy0023]

[msclumsy0023]

Normal lang ba na umabot ng 10months kahit walang label?

No that’s not normal. If a person wanted you to be their girlfriend or boyfriend they would’ve asked you that a long time ago. What you are now is friends with benefits.

Parang tulad ng pag-aaral at pagpasa ng isang kurso, but not getting the diploma to prove it. You put in the hours, do all the work, and get nothing to show for it besides the knowledge that you did it, despite nobody believing you.

Everybody needs to know where they stand in a relationship. Where are we going? Do we have a future together and if so, what does that future entail. Is this love, friendship, a stop gap till someone better comes along? We need this to feel secure. A no label relationship answers none of these questions and can onlt lead to anxiety, depression and lack of self esteem. I hope na sana naka tulong ang advice ko. Please take care of your self and always be happy !!

Good Luck,

Msclumsy

[msclumsy0023]

Msclumsy bakit hindi ko mapakawalan ang isang taong ayaw na sa akin? Bakit sobrang hirap mag let go at mag move on? Nahihirapan na ako sa nangyayari sa akin.. Please help!

To be honest, that feeling of true love will never go away completely. With time, you will learn to live with that pain, your mind will learn to live with it. You are very much attached to them, and especially to those memories that you have made together. Or maybe, there is some fantasy you have in your mind - after all, there is a reason you and them cannot be together, right?

Alam ko sobrang hirap kalimutan ang isang tao na mahal na mahal natin maging ito ay isang kaibigan o isang special para sa iyo. But by time, slowly you will be able to move on and explore the world without them. It may have been better if they were with you, I know, but unfortunately, life really isn’t easy. I suggest you to not be too hard on yourself. From time to time, you will miss them and it is really alright to miss someone. But just don’t forget that you are you, and they are them - you have your own responsibilities.

Time will heal you, but you would need to break with this person emotionally and try not to think to much about him or her. If you are going to allow yourself to be hung up on this person, it will take much longer. You would need to make a decision and stick to it. Everything in life is a choice.

Good luck,

MsClumsy

[msclumsy0023]

Someone Ask me:

How do I stop missing someone that I know is not missing me???

You cannot stop loving or missing someone who has always been so important for you. You will yearn for her presence in your life always. Unfortunately, there’s no delete option for people.

Rather than hurting yourself by expecting that person to miss you back, just accept the reality and don't expect. Just keep good memories in heart. The person may not be there and may won't come. But the memories you are having will always be yours. And keep them to be a beautiful part of life rather than finding answer for this questions.

"Accept and move on with your memories" , because you have no control over other's behavior but you can always choose your way to deal with that . Simple answer for complex question. There is always a simple way, we make it harder :)

Good luck!

Msclumsy0023

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Hello po. Pa advice naman po, im currently in a relationship and na bobother ako sa past niya. Everytime we talked about his past he feel diarespected and we argue. Lalo na't nabasa ko na sweet letter nya sa ex nya na hindi naman sya gaanong sweet sa akin kaya i feel so insecure and that makes me feel na d ako ka mahal mahal. What to think and do po?

Hi Ms. Louloulabs,

I would say that people are entitled to their past. And, I would say that people have the right to privacy about their past. He wants to leave the episode of his last relationship behind and wants to move forward. Unknowingly, you are the one actually reminding him about it and possibly pushing him back into those memories.

Most people don't like to talk about past relationships because they are not pleasant. If he still loves his ex and was happy in the past relationship, you will not be his girlfriend now.

To be honest, you are taking the risk of ruining your relationship by asking such questions. Try not to do that. Curiosity is not appropriate when it comes to respecting someone's likes and dislikes. I know you’re cool. natural curiosity on your behalf,but neither healthy or productive. We've all been there,but your efforts are better spent on getting to know him,not some unreliable version of his life history. About as useful as reading his diaries, also maybe seen as snooping. Learn what you want from his interaction with you, navigate your relationship by looking forwards, not back. All the best Ms. loulou, wag masyadong mag isip, everything will be fine don't let your mind ruin your relationship. Always be happy and good luck. 😉☺️

[msclumsy0023]

Hi Ms. Sage,

It all happens when you hit rock bottom. I am no exception to the rule.

You need to UNDERSTAND that you are amazing at being you. There will never be another you again. You are one of a kind so accept yourself & love yourself TODAY. don’t pressure yourself to heal so quickly, don’t be too hard on yourself, learn to have a good opinion of yourself.

The more hurt you’ve taken, the more you can handle, and that’s a strength. In the meantime of trying to heal, distract yourself with things you’ve always wanted to do so it doesn’t become overwhelming. Read books, learn cooking recipes, learn to sew, find something that gives you a purpose to get up every morning and that you’ll look forward to. Alam Kong makakaya mo ang pag subok na Yan, Laban Lang, madaming nag mamahal at umaalalay sa Iyo , lalong lalo na ang family mo na Ang hangad ay maging maligaya ka sa buhay.. I hope this helps, and definitely wish you the best!

Sincerely Yours,

Msclumsy0023