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im….real? my existence has… impacts? i touch things and they move, i breath in and out and the air buzzes around me? the sun rests on my skin…. grass is crushed under my toes… people see me and have an idea of who i am… my name is on papers….? im sorry this is… this is too much….  

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Finals Week anxiety/I love you!

i graduated a few years ago and i want to share with you some things:

I grew up being called ’gifted’ and smart. I did really well in school, to the point my identity depended on it. Then in college, I failed entire semesters, more than once. I also dropped out at one point.

It was devastating and I was terrified.

And yet: EVERYTHING TURNED OUT OK. 

B/c despite what they’d have you believe, this is not the end of the world, and you are going to be okay. 

Repeat it with me: You are going to be okay. 

It’s common to feel like “everything depends on this.” I promise: it doesn’t. A couple things I want you to know

***Your worth & intelligence is absolutely absolutely ABSOLUTELY not based on or reflected by your grades.*** 

The atmosphere you’re currently in breeds stress. Educational institutions have this messed up culture that pushes our minds into an ’emergency mode’ that does not reflect reality and forces you to panic unnecessarily. That’s why:

Things are never as desperate as they feel.

The panic you’re feeling is something you’ve been trained to feel, but it is not truthful. 

If you don’t do as well as you hoped: sweetheart, that Is fine. We naturally aim for more than we can reasonably manage, in order to push ourselves. Not reaching a goal doesn’t mean you ‘failed’, it means you aimed high and I’m proud of you.

Everyone who has ever done anything has failed at some point. People who never fail are people who never try.

Failing a class/classes is NOT the end of the line. Sometimes we need more time, or a second chance. Sometimes we need a different direction

For years I thought I wanted to be an engineer. I declared that major as a freshman. I ended up retaking several classes before realizing that no, this subject was not actually a good fit and didn’t me happy. 

The subject I eventually got a degree in? I actually had to retake a few of the introductory classes, alongside classmates who weren’t even in the program but seemed to have an easier time than me. At the time I was embarrassed. Now, I’m proud that i stuck with it

Please do not be afraid to ask for help even/especially when a deadline has passed/you feel ashamed for not asking sooner. Or rather: please ask for help even when you’re scared and it’s late in the semester. It literally cannot hurt. 

You are still learning how to learn, teach yourself, and self-monitor. This is a Huge Big Part of being an Adult that very few of us don’t get formal training for. So of course you will make mistakes along the way. Mistakes are a symptom of progress.

You are making progress, and for that alone you deserve to celebrate yourself

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ho ho ho where did my motivation go

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Good news if you ever felt part 5 was erotic and homoerotic on purpose, you were right!

(This is from macchalion’s jojovellor translations, you can find more here!)

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Ways to Self-Soothe

In addition to the traditional ways to self-soothe, such as taking a bath, reading a book, aromatherapy, and etc, here are some other tips to build your self-soothing skills:

1. Create a calm, loving voice inside of you that is unconditionally accepting. It may help to think of a best friend, a co-worker, your therapist, or even someone you met in passing. Imagine their energy and presence, take it into yourself, and think of what they would say about the situation.

2. Physically hug, rub, or wrap yourself with something comfortable (i.e., a soft blanket).

3. Tell yourself, over and over, “You’re going to be okay,” “You’ve been through worse and survived. You’re living proof you’ll get through this,” or “This too shall pass.” 

4. In response to criticism, you can tell yourself, “It’s okay to not be perfect,” “I am good just the way I am,” or “We are all imperfect, and so am I.”

5. Once you feel a little more calm, begin asking yourself what it is you need at this moment. Your needs are important, especially in times of distress. It may be that the little voice inside you says you need to go for a walk, or to hug yourself a little longer, or for you to continue saying comforting words. Whatever it is you need, give yourself that. And if you have trouble hearing your needs, continue to soothe or hug yourself in the midst of your emotions.

6. Remind yourself that everything in life is impermanent. No exceptions. So what you’re going through now will eventually shift and change. Allow yourself to go through the emotions, surfing the waves with the board of your self-compassion. And soon you’ll find yourself somewhere new.

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the tea is scorching hot today!!

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so apparently tumblr killed links so heres a reupload lmao

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Whenever someone says “you clearly only criticize rich people because you’re jealous” it tells me that they have no idea what it’s like to actually care about other people in ways that don’t immediately benefit themselves. The only reason I’d ever want a billion dollars, like any normal person, is to help other people with it, which would expend almost all of it pretty quickly. That’s why all existing billionaires are selfish, destructive parasites: good people don’t become or remain that rich.

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Whenever someone says “you clearly only criticize rich people because you’re jealous” it tells me that they have no idea what it’s like to actually care about other people in ways that don’t immediately benefit themselves. The only reason I’d ever want a billion dollars, like any normal person, is to help other people with it, which would expend almost all of it pretty quickly. That’s why all existing billionaires are selfish, destructive parasites: good people don’t become or remain that rich.

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The Netherlands democratically puts a list of the 2000 best songs together every year around New Year’s and the biggest mystery every time is whether Bohemian Rhapsody wins again

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The Netherlands democratically puts a list of the 2000 best songs together every year around New Year’s and the biggest mystery every time is whether Bohemian Rhapsody wins again