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*Obligatory I’m not Dead post*

So I finally decided to change the password to this account after like 3-4 years (god it’s been a long time). I went MIA on the internet for about a year or two after a falling out with my mother. I came out to her and it went bad? I had to delete most of my social media accounts then but I’ve been back on the internet for about two years now. I had to make new accounts for most things. (I actually have a cottagecore blog now bc *character development*) if you have any questions or concerns or want to be in contact, just lemme know!

My cottagecore blog: ilyshakyskeleton

Pronouns: they/them

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jonathan van ness from queer eye and freckle from wondrous life of caleb gallo are good and evil versions of each other who balance the universe with their respective natures

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what a beautiful day to remember that trans people of color exist and deserve better

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Fact #826: Trans people deserve better than to be forced to wait for months or even years to get the medical treatment that we know we need.

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This truly is 20gayteen

We had:

The 2nd season of One day at a time came out and announced a 3rd season 

Hayley Kiyoko threw her lit ass album

Brendom Urie came out as Pansexual and threw a new album

We had the Ruby and Sapphire wedding and their lesbian kiss (Steven Universe)

Shiro is gay and had a boyfriend back on earth (Voltron Legendary Defender)

Love Simon came out

Every Day came out

Troye Sivan gave us more songs

Black Lightning had a black lesbian super hero 

Queer Eye came out and got a second season

Negasonic got a fucking girlfriend in Deadpool 2 

Adam Rippon won a medal in the winter olympics

Janelle Monae

Pope Francis said that your sexuality doesn’t matter to God

Rebecca Sugar came out as Non Binary

Lena Waithe wore a pride flag to a catholic themed event

Harry Styles came out as bisexual

Being Transgender is no longer considered a mental disorder by the World Health Organization

Antarctica’s first pride celebration

Girl in red released “girls” and “i wanna be your girlfriend”, which are powerful girl loving songs

Angela Ponce is the first transgender woman to compete for Miss Universe representing Spain

Puerto Rico’s birth certificate policy has been ruled unconstitutional & transgender Puerto Ricans are now able to correct their birth certificates

and a fucking lot of other things like wow this sure is a gay ass year!

Edit: Feel free to add more LGBTQ+ events from this years my homo children! ♡♡♡

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 Hayley Kiyoko and Brendon Urie with their flags while singing Girls/Girls/Boys is so iconic!

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I feel this. I just came out and I already feel this.

when i came out as trans

[ or, toxic masculinity from the perspective of a trans guy ]

when i came out as trans my warm and loving family supported me

but they treated me differently

when i came out as trans my dad asked if he should start slapping me on the back and socking me in the arm instead of hugging me.

when i came out as trans my mom wanted to know if i would still got with her on fun trips to the mall to buy clothes and home decor items.

when i came out as trans my grandfather looked positively startled and overjoyed when i kissed his cheek and told him to drive safe.

when i came out as trans my grandmother asked if it was okay if she hugged me in public or if it would embarrass me.

when i came out as trans my dad told me that he had a lot to teach me— he said this because i told him i thought make up was fun.

when i came out as trans my aunt apologized for kissing me on the forehead.

when i came out as trans my uncle gave me a handshake rather than a hug.

when i came out as trans my cousins hesitated to hug me at the door.

when i came out as trans my family hesitated to show me the casual affection and platonic love they had previously felt free to give.

end toxic masculinity.

show your sons as much affection as you would show your daughters.

let your sons indulge in beauty when they want to and always support them.

do not think for one second that the societal expectation of masculinity is more important than the individual feelings and needs of someone you love.

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Adulting Posts

Adulting 101: The post that started it all! Discount cards, xmas lights, and general food advice.

Adulting 102: Cacti, electric bills, and some inexpensive cleaning advice.

Adulting 103: Peeing after sex, chalkboard paint, and why you need scented trash bags in your life.

Adulting 104: Electric bill budgets, lint drawers, and why mixed greens are more trouble than they’re worth.

Adulting 105: Paper bills, Yankee Candles, and where to purchase postage stamps.

Adulting 106: Scented tampons, dishwasher pods, and why you should live next to a fire department.

Adulting 107: Command hooks, inexpensive bathroom decor, and why organic cucumbers are overrated. 

Adulting 108: An Adulting post dedicated entirely to apartment hunting!

Adulting 109: Cleaning your shower head, condiments, and why you should never buy Dollar Store paper towels.

Adulting 110: Food hygiene, Airborne, and automatic payment advice.

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Trans men are great (img source)

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So I've been inactive. Mostly because I hate life. But anyways here's a list of new things that I felt like I wanted to talk about/just say somewhere because eh.

I watched all of Voltron and now I'm trash.

I figured out that I'm 110% a guy (psa- he/him pronouns and I go by Eli and I'm still deciding if I want to change it to Elliot or Elijah)

I'm out to my mom but it's a difficult situation

I GOT MY FIRST BINDER YESTERDAY

I'm just bi. Not demisexual pan.

Dysphoria is a bitch.

Why do people ship Pidge and Lance??? Like NOOO????

I went to church camp with my best friend and one of my cabinmates said "I'm not homophobic but I just don't want gay people around me." during cabin time and I thought that was pretty fucking hilarious because these people didn't know that me and my friend are really fucking queer.

I GOT A HAIRCUT AND NOW I HAVE BLONDE HAIR

Also I love the You're So Brave podcast

Okay that's about it.

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Lance: What’s more painful than heartbreak?!

Pidge: Earbuds with only one side working.

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if ur trans rb this and put your gender and how long it takes you to get ready in the morning in the tags

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Okay so, I have this possibly helpful tip/product for trans guys. I know it might seem like a small thing but often with trans dudes the smallest things can make a huge difference.

So, basically I found these underwear (made by Hanes) that are technically women’s underwear but they just look like boxers. (heres a picture)

Now, the reason I’m highly recommending these is because they’re made to fit a female body. The inside even has a place you can put a pad so you don’t have to wear those girly panties for a week each month (if that applies to you, it’s a definite plus). Not to mention they’re affordable (i found a two-pack on sale for 5$) and, since they’re technically women’s underwear, it might be easier to slide by the lesser-supportive parents and the like.

Again, this seems like a really small and dumb thing, but dysphoria’s a bitch and I know y'all just want somethin’ comfy between you and those jeans.

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Pro-tip to young trans guys:

If a stranger misgenders you, please please please do not ever utter the phrase, “I’m a man.” It sounds very unnatural and immediately sounds overly defensive.

My advice? Just look at the person like they’re an idiot and, in the deepest voice possible, say, “Uh. Alright, then.”

Just act as though they made a huge and obvious mistake, and don’t get flustered. If you’re comfortable with it, handle the situation with humor and say something like, “Man, I know I’ve got a babyface, but I didn’t think it was that bad.”

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Fashion Resources for Trans Men

I’ve spent a lot of time trying to figure out how to dress. I don’t mean to pass but to dress and look and fee good. The truth is I used to know nothing about fashion. I grew up wearing my brothers hand-me-downs because we were didn’t have money for much else, moved to wearing clothes I hated, and then moved into wearing clothes to pass (read oversized hoodies and jeans). So here is a list of things I’ve found helpful and you might too: 

General Fashion Tips:  

15 Quick Fashion Tips for Men

Men’s Fashion Basics - Formal

Men’s Fashion Basics - Casual 

Upgrade Your Style: 25 Easy Tips for Men 

How to Dress Sharp: 9 Style Steps for Young Men 

A Man’s Belt Guide 

28 Fashion Items Every Guy Needs for Spring and Summer Under $100 

The Ten Commandments of Summer Style 

10 Tips for Better Men’s Fall Outfits 

Dos and Don’ts of Winter Fashion

Tips for Dressing when You’re Short: 

Dressing Taller: 10 Tips for Short Men 

The Modest Man 

5 Dressing Tips for Short Men 

Fashion Tips for Short(er) Men

Tips to Look Older: 

14 Style Tips to Dress Older 

10 Easy Ways to Look Older as a Man 

How to Look Older: Ways Baby Faced Guys Can Look Older Than Their Age 

Haircut and Style Tips: 

How to Get a Better Haircut 

How to Find the Right Hairstyle for your Face 

Grooming Style Product Guide 

Shaving & Facial Hair Tips:  

12 Easy Beard Care Tips 

How to Get the Best Shave 

Shaving 101