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Many women, I think, resist feminism because it is an agony to be fully conscious of the brutal misogyny which permeates culture, society, and all personal relationships.

Andrea Dworkin, Our Blood: Prophecies and Discourses on Sexual Politics (via fem-me-fatale)

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The Princess Diaries taught me to hate my curly hair and glasses when I was 11. There was finally a character that looked like me but in order for her to be ‘pretty’ and princess like, they straightened her hair and got her contacts. It made me feel like I wasn’t pretty and I asked for contacts and started straightening my hair soon after I watched it.

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This woman was falsely portrayed as a suicide bomber by media outlets.

“Sadly this isn’t the first time that an innocent person’s photo has been published and linked to a “terrorist act”. This young man’s family were targeted by news media and their nightmare went on for much too long. What is worse is that the young man had been battling depression and had committed suicide prior to being wrongly accused as on of the Boston Marathon Bombers. It was only much later that police found his body washed up by a river in the Boston area. No apologies were ever given to the family nor were there any stories published by the media who had falsely linked this young man as one of the bombers. One of our Canadian television stations ran the family’s story and it aired here in Canada not that long ago.”

Linda Goodell

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You have permission to eat. Even if you:

haven’t exercised

eaten too much yesterday

eaten too much today

don’t know the exact nutritional value of the meal

have gained weight

aren’t feeling hungry ‘enough’

feel like you don’t deserve it 

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social anxiety is realizing you’re lonely, not wanting to be lonely, being handed an opportunity not to be lonely, and still choosing to be lonely because despite every previous indicator that you would be welcome to join in on other people’s fun and stop being lonely, you’re still afraid that no one wants you around

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So I went onto Essex University campus and I meet the pornographer on the train and we politely say hello. This is a man who has produced porn for years, has given awards to porn sites such as ExploitedAfricans.com, which completely pornifies women coming from the Congo on boats, that have to be fucked by anyone because they’ve got no choice, because they’ve got no papers. There is another one which is a parody of the John Worboys taxi rapist… And this man’s given awards to these porn sites and I’m there getting ready to debate him and we are walking through campus and I see this rag-bag group of students who’d obviously got up a bit late to meet me at the actual campus gates, shouting and screaming “transphobe,” “violent,” “phobic” this, “phobic” that, at me. And I thought, well, we are living in Orwellian times as wall as McCarthyite times. Because in what way is this pornographer, walking through this campus, with no dissent and no concern at all from these so-called feminists and pro-feminist students, and I’m being screamed at. And there you have it. That is the climate in which we are living. So whatever your view is on the sex industry, on gender, on anything — there’s only one side being screamed down, and that’s the feminist side. I don’t mean the fun feminists — the pole-dancing-is-the-new-way-to-liberation feminists — I mean the feminists like me: miserable, hard-faced, going on about men being abusers all the time… Now we have an absolute phobia about debate. There seems to be a view that there is a right not to be offended. The fact that we can be offended (which I am at least a hundred times a day) is now being seen as violence, so that we experience it as internalized violence and we are triggered and we are traumatized. In fact, I am my own trigger warning — I found an article with the trigger warning, “Julie Bindel.”

The no platforming of radical feminists: A talk by Julie Bindel (via exgynocraticgrrl)

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To all girls with male sexual/romantic partners, 

Don’t give men credit for basic human decency. He asks for consent before trying to have sex with you? He isn’t repulsed by your unshaved legs? He respects your ‘no’? That’s the least he can do. 

Don’t reward men for behaving like normal people should be behaving.

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like 99% of the time “famous for doing nothing” means “women who were exploited by people they trusted and then tried to make the best of their exploitation”

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I’m so uncomfortable with this whole thing like… A young girl who’s been sexualised and objectified for the world to see since age 15, turns around and says “this isn’t real life, I’m concerned for young girls looking up to me and this lifestyle, this life of counting calories and performing femininity and worrying about how I look 24/7 is damaging and awful” and people are tripping over themselves to call her an attention seeking whore, making “news articles” saying it’s all a fake ploy for more attention, she still has her blog so clearly everything she said was fake. Grown men tearing apart this girl(!!!) who has actually spoken out about being turned into an object, because “she got paid/liked it at the time/got expensive gifts”.

Fucking listen to women and girls who say they are uncomfortable and speak out about being sexualised and objectified.

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two things~

equating womanness with femininity is misogynistic because femininity is forced on us, it has nothing to do with who we ARE

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the most important elements of femininity are not in the decorations – the dresses, the make-up, the glitter, the flowers – they’re in the learned submissiveness, smallness, fear and deference to men. that’s what femininity really is, and not only is it indefensible but it must be unlearned with concerted effort

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on the bright side, at least my crippling fear of abandonment will never leave me

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You’re welcome.

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do you know what’s nice to see? girls enjoying food. girls celebrating their hunger rather than suppressing it. girls declaring their love of food instead of denying it. girls eating wholeheartedly and non-apologetically. and nowadays that is very difficult to find