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This is prevalent and something many more girls and women should be told about and be aware of. I say this as someone who's been on both sides of psychology as a patient and as a professional.

Just a few examples I have: when I was 11 or so attending a group therapy for women and girls struggling with the aftermath of SA and rape I asked the mediator, a woman, why there were no men who acted as mediators. She said they'd had issues of male psychologists acting unprofessional towards the women, trying to hit on them or take advantage of their vulnerability to to make a move, so they stuck to female mediators. When I worked as a crisis hotline operator, I overheard a group of 3 of my male coworkers sharing the story of a woman who called in because she'd just experienced SA. After that I tried getting management to get training that made male operators ask people calling in if they'd rather talk to a female operator instead. That training model was vetoed and none of the male operators were fired. The times I was witness to blatant victim blamiing, misogyny and rape fetishism by my male peers during Psych school are too many to count. There was no curriculum training to male psychologists on how to unlearn that, and all the voluntary lectures and classes focused on how to help women who were victims of sexual violence were mostly just female attenders.

I say all this to make sure it's justified when I say that no woman or girl should feel the only option is to disclose their trauma or feelings to a male. You have every right, with no shame or guilt, with or without explaining why, to change the professional you're seeing from a male to a female. The male professionals who are truly worthy of carrying the titles and responsibilities they were given will grant that no questions asked.

To the women and girls who find themselves in a situation, be that a police station, a hotline, an emergency clinic or a inpatient ward, where they can't properly chose the professional they see and the professional is a male, PLEASE make that known. Say 'I don't feel safe/comfortable talking about this to man. I'd rather see/talk to a woman. I'm not unwilling to cooperate or resisting help, I would just feel more safe/comfortable talking to a woman when disclosing the information I need to give.' If you're worried you'll be punished or reprimanded for asking for female service, ask that to be put on record.

Male violence and supremacy does NOT stay out of psych. Girls and women need to be taught how to defend themselves against this.

Men have no. Business. In. The. Psychiatric. Therapy. Of. Girls. And. Women.

Not only because men are much more likely to be biased and more likely to mindlessly accept misogynistic theory in psychiatry, but also because especially young, vulnerable girls and women cannot differentiate an adult male in authority being understanding and offering a space to be vulnerable "without consequences" from a romantic or sexual interest. There were so many more comments of girls admitting they're in love with their male therapist. This is fucking scary.

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Does anyone else who experiences psychosis sometimes feel like your reactions to strange things are subdued? It's as if you subconsciously don't know if you can trust your own experiences because you've experienced things that aren't real, or thoughts that aren't true, so when you see or hear something kinda out there, you don't act with concern or surprise, but with curiousity more than anything.

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Anyone else, esp. neurodivergent people, ever talk to someone and get elated because you’re like wow :) I am doing a Conversation :) I am doing the Asking Questions and Listening Attentively and Expressing Interest :) I have shared a Joke or brief Amusing Happening and this person liked it :) this person seems to enjoy speaking to me and I enjoy speaking to them :) I’m a person.

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It's the casual endangerment that comes with chronic pain actually. Like everything already hurts so who cares if I get in the wreck or fall down or break something? It's wanting to get so hurt that people actually believe you. It's want to blame your pain on something tangible. It's driving a little more dangerously or climbing what you shouldn't. It's hoping that your legs or arms or wherever your pain is, has to be removed after you get in an accident. It's about the disconnect between your safety and your body, because it already isn't safe, so what's the point

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It’s weird to miss who you were before the trauma when there was no you before the trauma.

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It's normal for those of us on a recovery journey to feel "left behind".

Sometimes it's watching our friends, family, or peers get ahead while we feel stuck. Sometimes it's seeing things that people your age are accomplishing and feeling like you'll never measure up. Sometimes it's the bitterness of knowing that days/months/years of your life were "stolen" by your mental illness or disorder.

It's not fun. But rest assured, you're not alone. You'll find your way in your own time.

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don’t worry about how you’ll feel tomorrow or how you felt yesterday. just focus on how you’re feeling right now. are you sad? watch something nice! are you angry? calm yourself down. are you happy? good. make sure to be aware of how you’re feeling and take care of yourself! <3

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A new beginning.

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You're neurologically simple. That's what we should call them. 😂😂😂😂This is @andrewrusso is the only reason why I have TikTok. His mental health skits and because of Timmy. If you don't know Timmy check @andrewrusso on IG, TikTok and YouTube.

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Excommunication and Shunning, paraphrased.

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when worlds collide. had this very strange experience recently and im starting to think i ~might~ have trauma /j

[image ID: the spider mans pointing at each other meme, with white lowercase text over each spiderman. the first descriptions reads, ‘my therapist suggesting i read “the body keeps the score”’. the second description reads, ‘excerpts of “the body keeps the score” being all over my recommended’. end ID]

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What are your hobbies?

no hobbies, just mental illnesses

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maybe i’m just projecting but i think there’s an inherent loneliness in living with a severe mental illness that makes you feel permanently estranged from others and long for the kind of connection where you feel completely understood and accepted, all while knowing other people have their own stuff to deal with or are just not equipped to ride out the worst of the illness with you. this leads to downplaying and/or hiding your symptoms as best you can, which takes even more of a psychological toll on you. this leads to not feeling loved as a complete person, and maybe not recognizing that love when it is present, or always fearing the day people have had enough and leave. even more so if this has already happened to you. it’s so exhausting and sad

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psych wards are fucking torturous and I will never stop being angry that they exist and that people are forced into them especially kids. it’s so fucked up. my psych ward experience was relatively good and I still ended up fucking traumatized from it because incarceration of any type is cruel ineffective and more focused on profit than on actually helping anyone who needs support. I am fucking livid when I think of all the people I know who have been hurt so badly in psych wards. keeping them open is never worth the fucking cost of wrecking peoples lives and the harm that they cause.

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"It doesn't count if I have to ask for it" is such a toxic attitude towards relationships and communication. Having to tell people what you need from them isn't a sign that your relationship isn't genuine.