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I sometimes hear from tme trans people that they worry that if they complained about transphobia they experience, or asked for support, or discussed bodily insecurities, etc. in general trans spaces (meaning spaces which include tma trans people) that they would be shut down, derailed, or told that their circumstances and fears don't matter.

there seems to be this notion that acknowledging transmisogyny, that acknowledging that we have privileges that come from not being subjected to structural transmisogyny, would implicitly mean saying nothing we experience matters, that we are not oppressed as trans people, and that we don't deserve support.

by virtue of me being a dyke and mostly talking to women and dykes, I have a lot of experiences with discussing transphobia, requesting support, and discussing bodily insecurities and traumas in spaces that are inclusive of trans women and transfems. and I just have to say that if you are transmasc and you have this fear, it's not an accurate one. these spaces are the most supportive and empathetic ones I've found.

and I don't think that we (tme trans people) can even understand our own experiences and oppression fully if we neglect to understand how they are impacted by structural transmisogyny. like my post discussing my critique of the "nonbinary is treated as woman-lite" phrasing-- understanding transmisogyny enables me to better comprehend why so many spaces that are nominally "inclusive" of nonbinary people will coercively enforce cisnormativity and often literally attempt to force tme nonbinary people back into the closet.

I think being transmasc and only opening up with your vulnerabilities and insecurities and traumas around other transmascs can foster transmisogyny that really hurts transfems in our community. and it also further isolates you and distorts your understandings of how transphobia operates. if you are constantly afraid of being shut down by transfems, I really do hope you take some time to process the defensiveness that jumps up when you read this, and sit with your biases which are leading you to assume trans women & transfems are somehow threatening to you.

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i was jumanji’d too when i was a kid but no one cared

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So I finally found posts where I could directly look at the accounts perpetuating these call outs and they literally reached "kiwifarms is good actually and we should go back to the times when we believe everything they say in attempts to ruin transfems lives"

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On an August afternoon, Pablo stared down at a foam plate sloshing with flavorless pinto beans and a particularly bad version of huevos a la Mexicana. The simple, usually delicious scramble of eggs, tomatoes, onions and jalapeños is difficult to mess up. But if anyone can find a way to make it unpalatable, it’s the cook at his labor camp. Soupy eggs are the last thing the 42-year-old from western Mexico wants to eat. But after a 12-hour day harvesting tobacco in the brutal and sometimes deadly summer heat, he must eat – and this was far from the worst meal he’s been given. A few weeks ago, fellow farm workers got sick due to raw and moldy food they were forced to purchase. On days like this, Pablo can’t decide which is worse: that he’s forced to pay $80 a week for this slop, or that everything about what he eats, when he eats and how much he eats is tightly controlled by his employer. Pablo, who is using a pseudonym due to fear of retaliation, is one of more than 35,000 migrant workers in North Carolina this year as part of the H-2A Temporary Agricultural Worker Program, a guest visa program overseen by the US Department of Labor (DoL). The program enables American employers to hire foreign workers to perform seasonal agricultural work. Employers in the program frequently exploit their migrant employees, and the structure of the program makes easy work of it. Visas are tied to a single employer who must also provide housing, transportation and access to food, creating a crushing power imbalance between American employers and migrant H-2A workers.

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Its clear the transandrophobia truthing movement is a manifestiation of biological essentialist thought that have existed in TME trans spaces possibly as long as TME trans spaces existed. The way that transandrophobia started as a MRA like movement on the internet but then morphed into complaining they are not seen as woman lite is quite interesting and seems to indicate that transandrophobia will collapse as either a lot of people realizing that these beliefs contradict their identity as trans people, or a mass detransitioning into sects of radfems with compatible beliefs (ie: most of them).

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If you're a neutral onlooker to this, I won't ask much of you, but don't you dare miss the cause and effect of what happened here. This isn't about justice, incest fetishism or grooming. It's the same pattern, transmisogyny-exempt people will never be forced to introspect on why they keep being dealt the same card or why it keeps working, why every inconvenient transfem that is loud enough to enter their peripheral vision is also suspiciously easy to find dirt on. I said I felt vaguely threatened by transmasculine people, I was attacked, strawmanned, and old retracted callouts were reheated and served within days, with new distortions added on for flavor.

I should have learned my lesson to never make comparisons to anything, but I'm talking to people who I trust will at least take me at my word. The Heard/Depp trial wasn't about proving who abused whom, it was about the right of women to speak of the abuse they faced from men in power in even the vaguest possible terms without themselves having their privacy and dignity violated in the endless drive to reveal the imperfect victim.

And to any of the other transfems who are participating in this charade, just remember, it will happen to you. You will have a messy breakup, you will be abused or groomed and have the tables turned back on you, you will say something that makes a TME person uncomfortable, and suddenly the only people you'll be able to trust are the transfems who've already been burned. I'll say something now that you'll write off, but I hope you remember it when your time comes. I forgive you.

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Do not really know what to say. A year ago we were making posts about how Gaza was being bombed through Christmas- how the oldest Christian community was being bombed- how the birth place of Jesus was being destroyed and his people murdered. A year later, it is going to be Christmas again soon, and the bombings have not stopped. But the news, and the attention seems to have died down considerably. It feels terrible and scary.

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stuck in an indie horror game. trying to figure out if it's an escape the monster game or if it's an uncover why i'm a bad person game

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They're gaslighting us

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this website is increasingly going down the shitter as it becomes more and more openly transparent that if you hold beliefs that go against the zeitgeist of the average white liberal fandom blogger you are just straight up at risk of having your entire account permanently nuked. the thinnest skinned people on the planet have made this place their home and would honestly rather there was not a single person outside of their exact demographic posting here if it meant they never had to see anything that caused them a single second of discomfort. digital redlining. and yet there is fucking nowhere else to post! so who knows what to do really

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It’s almost christmas. Palestine is still under the brutal oppression of Israel. Please, donate what you can to Palestinians.

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this website is increasingly going down the shitter as it becomes more and more openly transparent that if you hold beliefs that go against the zeitgeist of the average white liberal fandom blogger you are just straight up at risk of having your entire account permanently nuked. the thinnest skinned people on the planet have made this place their home and would honestly rather there was not a single person outside of their exact demographic posting here if it meant they never had to see anything that caused them a single second of discomfort. digital redlining. and yet there is fucking nowhere else to post! so who knows what to do really

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tbh i like that more and more games are introducing a "narrative mode" instead of an "easy difficulty", cause a big thing about the easy mode discourse was centered around "are people capable of playing hard games", which showed a lot of elitism and sometimes ableism, but with the introduction of "narrative mode", it completely shifts the paradigm away from "hard mode is for real gamers, easy mode is for noobs" and towards "this is just the game mode for you to experience the story", which not only smooths over that problem, but also enables devs to really rethink how they want to approach designing their game and telling a story to their audience, which i think adds in a lot of possibilities beyond just "is the game easy or hard"

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With the blockade imposed by Israel, it is extremely important to support grassroots organizations. They provide aid to multiple families on the ground. The Sameer Project is one organization. It is led by 4 Palestinians in the diaspora and Gazans are risking their lives while distributing the aid to ensure families are accommodated.

The Sameer Project provides food and shelter. As you know, the rainy season is persistent and many families have been displaced by the sea. The high tide has caused many to lose their tents, the only shelter they have. So please donate to the Sameer Project! With your support, they can branch out to families across the Strip!

Here is their Linktree, which also includes Venmo and PayPal.

South Gaza Aid:

Refaat Alareer Camp Aid:

North and Central Gaza Aid:

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from decolonising trans/gender 101 by b. binaohan. this one passage is such a clear articulation of what pisses me off abt the transunity “we’re all oppressed” shit that tmes try to pull every time a woman talks abt anything

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