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Putting Myself Out There
So I wrote these poems over the weekend. They have the same subject matter though theyāre different in their own ways. Theyāre about how hard it is for me to open up, and how itās hard for me to express my feelings to those important to me. Iāve never been good at telling people how I feel, it kind of scares me to be honest. And while sharing this, and these poems, seem contradictory to that statement, it just feels easier to get it out through art. So I share this, so that maybe youāll understand me and why I act how I do sometimes. And maybe through sharing it, show someone dealing with the same thing that they arenāt alone in feeling like that. The act of sharing them is hard enough but I feel like I need to more, and not be fearful of those who might judge me or what I write. So I put these out into the world, hopefully with many more to follow, in hopes that maybe someday, I donāt feel so afraid to open up anymore. Enjoy.
Like a Pill
I am not alone in this world
Though I often feel lonely
I walk through this life
As if no one understands
I know people love me
Even if I am reserved
Problem is I canāt open up
So I mostly go unheard
I want to tell you my issues
Confide in those I love
But doing so is difficult
For fears that you will leave
You see, anxiety is my monster
A monster that breeds doubt
A beast that convinces one
That loneliness is your reality
And through that doubt
The idea then starts to form
That nobody will understand
So you close off your heart
Fear of speaking your truth
Fills your head with lies
That if I told you my problems
Youāll leave, and Iāll be alone
And so I bottle these emotions
Swallowed whole like a pill
In hopes that consuming them
Will absolve me of this pain
Instead they consume me
For hiding them so long
Itās just hard for me to tell you
Cause Iām afraid, you know?
āāāāāāāāāāāāāā-
The Words I Canāt Convey
I write these poems for you
So that you may finally understand
The words in my soul
That I have trouble trying to convey
Itās often hard for me
To show anyone my feelings
To dig my hands into my chest
And pull them out into the world
I wish it was easier for me
To express them to you
Then maybe it wouldnāt hurt
And I wouldnāt be afraid youād leave
Because I often donāt speak
To those that I love so dear
Iām afraid if they knew my sorrows
Then they wouldnāt want to be around
āāāāāāāāāāāāāā-
So those are the two poems. I intend to start sharing more of the stuff I write as I get more comfortable with the fact. Thank you for reading.
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Something I wrote a year ago but feel heavily tonight
The Prey and The Shadow
It sits there in the shadow
Lurking close by
It follows its prey
Ready to eat it alive
Its presence is felt
By the one it calls prey
But never gives
Its position away
The prey seeks for it
Seeing might give them a chance
To slay whatās there
And end this horrid dance
But itās never found
This shadow figure of theirs
Itāll stalk till the end of time
Till the prey is finally theirs
The prey fights back
It thinks it has a chance
To slay what they call āItā
And bring peace, at last
But itās all a ruse
For they are the shadow
Consuming themselves
With no say in the matter
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Brittle
I wish I didnāt break so easily
I fall apart when things get hard
I wish I had a stronger will
Not one thatās so heavily scarred
I donāt know why I am this way
Though I do have some idea
I wish I could just ālet it goā
Just give it a good ole āsee ya!ā
But for some reason I keep it here
I hold it like some treasure
Maybe because it feels like home
Just something so familiar
I tell myself I want big things
I want to shoot for the stars
I wish to land among them
Instead Iām trapped behind these bars
I wish I knew the answers
I wish I knew what to say
I just want a happy life
And to not be this way
I feel like I can be a burden
Though Iām told that itās not true
Yet I feel like I lean on my friends
A lot more than they do
Why might I be sharing this?
Some of you might ask
I think I just want to be understood
Show you whatās behind my mask
All I want is happiness
Make my dreams come true
But right now Iām too brittle
To make the changes, long overdue
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This is who I am: 9 months later
As always, I donāt really know where to begin with these. Hell, Iāve been writing this for what seems like a week at this point. As much as I want to tell people how I feel, the words are really never there when I need them. But Iāll try again, and hopefully whoever reads this will understand.
I wonāt go into to much detail about what happened here but shortly after making that post, I lost my therapist due to incorrect info given to me by my health insurance and by my therapist somehow not knowing my insurance wouldnāt cover my visits even though they said it would. I was only a few months into therapy (seeing my first therapist ever too!), and at the time, it felt like the biggest drawback ever. So for most of the spring and summer of 2018, I didnāt see anyone again. I told myself it wasnāt meant to be by telling myself lies that āI didnāt need itā or āI learned enough to do it on my ownā, not realizing that would be one of the biggest mistakes I will probably ever make in my life.
The thing about therapy for those of you who never had it (Mind you this could just be my experience with therapy), is that it peels away at the layers of your psyche. Your logic, your emotions, your fears, everything. To the uninitiated, it sounds scary, and thatās because a lot of the time, it fucking is! It was horrifying to me. Just getting there felt like I was strapped to a boulder, trying to claw my way to the door of their office. When youāre in the shape that I was, that I still am, your mind tries to come up with every excuse not to do anything, especially when it comes to life changing events. This part of my body was in high alert. I had to fight myself the whole way, week after week just to go.
After awhile it got easier, as most things do with time. Most of the time I spent with this therapist was stripping away the layers. We talked about my home life, work, relationships, my childhood, high school, my parents, their divorce, dealing with my grandparents deaths, my social interactions, my interests, my dreams, everything! Nothing was off the table. Itās a double edged sword. Itās good to get these things off your chest, but at the same time, you have to bring the truth to light, even if itās things you never wanted to remember again. I would try to hold it together during sessions, but usually once I got to my car, I would start crying. But I knew it was in a way, necessary. I need to bring these things to light in order to work on them. But just as we started getting into the nitty gritty, I lost my therapist. The worst part about it was that I didnāt know how to handle all this emotions we were pulling out, and with the fact that I tend to hold on to everything and canāt let anything go, it made my anxiety worse. I screwed up not seeing a therapist again right away and in the process set myself back further than I was before I started therapy.
It took about 3-5 months (The timeframe seems foggy to me. So much happened in 2018) before I saw another therapist again. People kept telling me I needed to go but I didnāt listen. I was so deep into my own bullshit that I was falling apart. On the outside, the shell of myself that Iāve built around me over the years gave off the impression that I was fine. Nothing looked like it was wrong. But under that shell, I was a storm of negative emotions. Unfortunately this wouldnāt be the worst of that storm. I started seeing a therapist again back in August and still to this day, I see her every Thursday. Itās been really helpful so far but we didnāt really start cracking the surface until about a month or so ago. And itās opened an even bigger Pandoraās box than what I was dealing with when I was working with my previous therapist. I thought I use to understand the saying āSometimes you have to fall apart in order to fall back together againā but this experience has given it a whole new meaning to me.
When youāve told yourself lies in order to āprotectā yourself, it becomes one of the hardest mental tasks unpacking these lies to bring out the truth. The truth is, I really donāt like myself. I almost hate the person Iāve become. Itās hard to even write this part because my reaction is to lie and say I donāt but I do. Iām learning to love myself but right now, I donāt feel like I have any redeeming qualities. People, including my therapist, tell me that Iām a sweet, kind, person but I donāt feel it anymore. It feels like a flaw. I feel like Iāve let people walk all over me my whole life. I use to have a voice but not anymore. Iām too afraid to tell people what I want. I feel like Iām going to push everyone away if my wants contradict theirs. So I follow everyone else and keep my mouth shut. I donāt speak up, I donāt defend myself when being wronged, I donāt do anything. I just internalize it and it becomes this clusterfuck of negative thoughts in my head.
So why am I writing and sharing about all of this? In a way, I guess it makes me feel better. Itās hard to share this because I feel like people donāt care nor do they understand. In this day and age, it still feels like talking about your feelings is a weakness. That it just gives assholes more fodder to talk shit about you. But as hard as it is, it in some ways makes me feel better. It feels like a weight is off my chest putting this out into the world instead of internalizing it. I really donāt expect anyone to even read this, let alone reply to it. It just feels good in a way to share it and to think that whoever does read it might understand what people like me go through, fighting yourself mentally, physically, and emotionally just to get from one day to the next.
This past year has had its great moments, some of which were my favorite so far in this life of mine, but the vast majority of this past year has been one of the toughest years Iāve ever had. Probably one of my least favorite years Iāve ever lived. Right now, I feel like Iām at the lowest point Iāve ever been in my life. It feels like true rock bottom for me. So I plan to make this year one of the best Iāve ever had! Now this isnāt one of those āNew Year, New Meā things. I just want to make this year the best because I hope by the time December 31st, 2019 rolls around, that I will be better in some way than I was 365 days before, and that it will continue to get better beyond that. Thereās a lot at stake going into this year and beyond. I have a lot to work on to make my life the way Iāve always dreamed. I just hope that when Iām living this future, Iāll be happier than I am right now.
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This is who I am
So itās been about 2 years since Iāve used this tumblr. 2 years seems like such a short amount of time but so much has happened. A few months ago, I deleted everything on this account but now I feel like I need to say some things and get them off my chest. Iāve wanted to say these things for some time now but I didnāt know how to put it to words. In fact, I still really donāt so if this comes off as kind of a ramble, I apologize. But if you want to get some insight as to who I am, and why I act the way I have in recent months (and years for that matter), this is for you!
For about 6 years, I have had a really rough time getting through my life. For the first few years, I handled it okay, but as the years lead up to the present, I have been getting worse and worse. I went from being fairly outspoken, having a fair amount of confidence, and a lot of ambition, to now having none of that. I feel compared to who I use to be, Iām literally just the shell of whatās left. I let life get the best of me.
As of July 2016, I have been diagnosed with GAD (General Anxiety Disorder) and from that point on, I have been on medication to suppress my panic attacks and anxious tendencies. I knew before being diagnosed that I had an anxiety problem but I always tried to handle it on my own without help. It got so bad that I couldnāt function even remotely during a regular day. If I was around people, I may have looked okay, but almost every night when I would be home and finally alone, I would lose it, breaking down in a panic and telling myself I wasnāt good enough for anything. During this time of pre-diagnosed life, I quit my job I held for 7 long years that I hated in order to pursue music. I knew it was risky but I was at a height of personal growth and knew that if I busted my ass that I could totally do it. But things took a turn for the worst and I let things happen to me that I still to this day beat myself up for.
There were people in my life that didnāt believe in me or thought I was dumb for quitting my job to pursue something I loved. I know I shouldnāt have let the negative people in my life influence my choices, especially because it was mine to make and because I also had many people supporting me, but I let it happen and it planted the seeds of doubt in my head. While all of this was happening, my life at home was changing as well. Without getting into to much detail on that, my living situation became pretty hostile to the point where I started to feel like an alien in my own home I grew up in. This started to bleed into my personal life and led me to just start believing that I was a nuisance. I started to believe I was worthless and a waste of space. My confidence along with everything that I felt that made me just started to tank.
Now that Iām on medication, I donāt have frequent panic attacks anymore and I can function enough to get through my day, get work done, and do the things I need to do to get me by. But like I already knew, medication doesnāt solve all problems. I still have these problems that meds donāt just magically get rid of and from time to time, I still find myself having a panic attacks. And to this day, I still have these problems at home and in my personal life that have left me with a low self-esteem and a fear of moving forward.
So now its almost a quarter of the way through 2018. These problems I have sound simple to fix but to me, they arenāt so simple. They left me to act in ways that some people might not understand. I havenāt really pursued any of my passions to the fullest of my abilities, which as lead to a bunch of wasted time on reaching my aspirations and dreams. I have also become a shut in. I stopped talking to many people, stopped going out, developed what I believe is an eating addiction, and lost control of my health both mentally and physically. I stopped posting things on social media, when I saw myself asĀ āsocial butterflyā always talking to someone and posting things online, sharing what happened in my day, big or small. Now I just have theses notions in my head that nobody cares. I just sit at home, attempting to do something with my time but instead spend most of my time avoiding my problems. I feel like I have dug myself into such a huge hole that itās now impossible to get out. People say though that you have to hit rock bottom before you can reach where you want to go, itās just hard to see that when you have the mindset I have.
Recently I have some hope though. I finally started seeing a therapist as of a few weeks ago and so far things are going well so I hope to learn how to handle my problems better. I havenāt really touched any of my interests such as video game streaming and music in such a long time but Iām starting to feel the urge to pick them back up. But when it comes to my social problems, I still have them, and will probably have them for awhile until I learn to change the behavior. But the future doesnāt look so bleak anymore and I have hope for what is to come.
I know this has been a long post and if you took the time to read the whole thing, I honestly appreciate that you have. I just wanted to use this as a way to explain to people who may have been wondering, whatās going on with me and why I have been acting the way I have been acting (Or at least how I feel I have been acting). If you are one of the people who end up reading this, I just wanted to say that I value you in my life and that if I have left you high and dry, not talking to you for awhile, Iām really sorry, and hope that you forgive me and understand that it wasnāt personal whatsoever. I hope that the future can be a little bit of how it was before, but this time, even better.
So this is why I am who I am at this point in my life. I didnāt choose for it to be this way but I refuse to let it stay this way for much longer. Itās going to be a long journey but I will keep pushing forward and hope to become the person Iād like to be. I wanted to share this with you and now I have. This is who I am, raw and unfiltered. Hereās to whatās to come!
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