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Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

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LOVE WILL FIND YOU AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN EVEN WHEN YOU THINK IT WON'T

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polish miku

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To the LGBT community:

Hey. I know we don’t agree on everything, but I want to tell you that your life has no less value because of that. You are important to this world. Please don’t hurt yourself. I know you are scared, I know people have given you reason to be scared, but don’t let them win. Suicide can’t make this all go away. All it will do is rob this world of your presence, and we are not better off without you.

I can’t tell you what happens next, though I wish I could say nothing bad will happen. But you are loved and you matter. Please don’t let someone be the cause of you leaving this place. Reach out and talk to someone, a friend, A hotline, anyone. If you want to vent or talk my inbox is open and I am not here to argue with you or make you feel your feelings don’t matter. You do matter and so does your fear.

God loves you so much. I’m praying for you and everyone else in this nation.

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no matter who is in office, it's up to the people to heal their communities. the government will always have your worst interests in mind, doesn't matter if you're republican or democrat. you get fucked over either way and their job is to lie. support your neighbors because sometimes the only thing they have is you. that's what's important

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vampire miku!!!! ❤️🦇💟

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Hermione aesthetic

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Aim’s getting better

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My take on the mystery twins! :]

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first time posting!!

italian miku because i loved the trend on twitter <3

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there’s a website where you put in two musicians/artists and it makes a playlist that slowly transitions from one musician’s style of music to the other’s

it’s really fun

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colored them real quick :]