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your parents signed up to love you unconditionally when they became parents. it’s not your fault if they failed at that. the child is not to blame for not receiving the love they deserve, because it was never their job to earn it.

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Yesterday marked the 100th day of genocide. Please, do not get used to this. Our people, killed, bombed, kidnapped, stripped, executed and starved is not normal. Our kids in pieces, their body parts collected in bags is not normal.

Israel has killed 23,700 human. More than 10,300 child. We'd need 177 school bus to carry the Palestinian children killed by Israel in gaza. 10,022 fatherless child. 8,352 motherless child. The wounded have their wounds rot and die waiting in front of the crossing. Maggots seen inside alive people's wounds. 5,500 pregnant woman will give birth in the upcoming weeks. 100 Days of Genocide. 100 Days of the world watching silently.

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"The only thing males do in life is play video games, impregnate, go bald, and die."

You forgot some things. You forgot holding you in their arms and letting you cry and be when you thought the world was against you. Running up into your arms and looking up at you if you were their most favorite person in the whole world. Making you laugh. Loving you with every fibre of their being. Cherishing you just because you exist. Reminding you everyday just what love looks like. 💝

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If you want to see good, lovable male characters (especially good Dads/father figures) PLEASE watch Shadow Raiders. (Also called War Planets). This show has great male and female characters alike, but I'm ESPECIALLY happy that there is a character who is a Dad AND a King who is loving, gentle, and overall awesome! This show did come out in 1998, so fyi the animation and some other things may be a bit dated. Message me if any of y'all watch it. I need more people to talk about this show to!

(Also, for those who are concerned after watching ep 4 and onward, yes, Femur does develop and become a better person. Felt the need to preface that so people understand that he's not going to be the one-beat comic relief jerk that never develops, because people may get that impression).

You know what annoys me to no end? How men are portrayed in the media, especially in regards to relationships.

Fathers are either, absent, deadbeat, abusive, evil, stupid, a workaholic, or dead in TV shows and stories. They’re not as well represented as they should be. We don’t see good and capable fathers nearly as much as we see good and capable mothers in media.

Whenever a relationship is strained, it’s almost always somehow the guy’s fault. He’s in the wrong, he’s gotta make up for it. And when there’s a breakup? The guy’s fault again. Often times the girl will be heartbroken and her and her friends and family will shit talk the dude, saying stuff like "he doesn’t deserve you" or "you’re too good for him". But when the guy is also heartbroken, he doesn’t get nearly as much support. If anything everyone, including himself, makes it seem as if it’s his fault the relationship ended. That he was just too much of a loser or some shit. The girl in the situation is always treated like a princess but on the guy’s end everyone is just like "that’s rough buddy" and that’s it. And even when a new relationship is starting, people are way more wary of the guy than the girl. The girl’s friends or family will threaten the guy like "you better not hurt her or else", but it’s never the other way around. Media always paints any problem in a relationship to be the guys fault in some way. And even when the girl is in the wrong as well, the guy is the one that has to be the bigger person more often than not. From what I’ve seen anyway.

Another thing that’s very common is guys being physically abused in media. Whenever a woman hits a man it’s considered humor or girl power, but got forbid the other way around! It’s honestly really annoying and biased, like if you’re gonna go that route at least make it so both genders get the same treatment in that regard! Otherwise it just sends the message that girls can hit boys but not vice versa.

And how come they’re aren’t nearly as many stories or shows that represent a man leaving an abusive relationship? Cause I haven’t seen that yet. But you know what I see way too much? Boys being portrayed as dumb and goofy while girls are always looking down on them for it.

Not to mention boys vs girls episodes. These began to irk me after a while because it’s the same formula: Boys are cocky and think their superior, they have a series of competitions, and the girls win in the end. Or at least something similar. It always sends the message that girls are better no matter what. And even when both sides are in the wrong, the guys are the ones that gotta be sorry while the girls barely get any consequences at all! This is the reason I’m not particularly fond of Boys vs Girls episodes in general.

You know what I’d love to see in media?

More great father’s being represented.

Girls fucking up and having to make it up to their boyfriends.

More boys actually doing "equal rights equal fights" when it comes to fighting women or retaliating to assault.

More shows and stories of men leaving abusive relationships.

More Girls vs Boys episodes in which the boys actually win.

Just more media in general where guys refuse to take the bullcrap and stereotypes associated with them by girls and stand up for themselves. That yeah, women should be respected but men aren’t gonna kneel at the base and let them walk all over them.

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i have said this shit again and again, but im going to say it once more: trans men are still men regardless of the way they look. trans men should be allowed to wear dresses, use makeup, get their nails done, not bind in public, have a feminine haircut, wear high heels, be flamboyant, etc etc without being seen as any less of a man. we ARE men, regardless of how masculine we act. so stop assuming that all trans men have to be big bearded muscular hunks that shave once a year and use axe deodorant, because its the biggest fucking stereotype ever.

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Calling a woman a "Pick Me" because she's against misandry is exactly like when guys call another guy a simp because he's being the bare minimum of respectful to a woman.

Honey... a "Pick Me" is someone who throws their sex/gender/race/religion/etc under the bus to get approval from the other group. It isn't having basic human decency.

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Today I heard someone say that there is an "insecurity epidemic among young men" and I am just so fucking happy someone has FINALLY given me the words to describe what is happening to the world. I keep hearing whinging about "men's mental health crisis" and "male loneliness" and "male suicide rates" blahblah in spite of the fact that none of that stuff is actually an issue. Women's depression and rates of suicide attempts have remained consistently higher than men's over the years, and if we look at sex stats you'll see that the rise of loneliness is actually affecting women at very similar rates to men (12% and 14% celibacy rates in the US, respectively). Not to mention the suicide attempts of young women and girls have sky-rocketed in the last couple of years. Suicidal ideation in girls in my country is currently double that of boys. In spite of all this we still see males lashing out en masse, claiming that "men are under attack", "women are privileged", and feminism is "ruining men's lives". Even though none of their claims have any basis in reality there is still an obvious problem here- something is very disturbed in the modern male psyche; but I have not seen anyone accurately label the issue until today. There is an insecurity epidemic among men. Women are finally attending classes, entering the workplace, and gaining voting rights in most countries around the world. These changes are a recent development and they are making modern men question their place in society- as they should. Sadly, instead of taking this time to self reflect, men are desperately trying to stop women's suffrage and cry "abuse" whenever we hold firm. What we are seeing is a big, glorified tantrum, not a "mental health crisis". I am not sure how we would go about fixing this problem but I'm glad that I am finally able to name it!! I thank D'Angelo Wallace for the help.

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This!

Mens Rights

As a precurser to the creation of this account, I wanted to state that this isnt meant to be an attack against feminists or women. Mens Rights Now! ™ simply believes that by addressing men’s rights we provide a counter point to feminism which will help us achieve greater equality.

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For decades society has been deliberately reinforcing the idea that males are stupid and barbaric while women are Intelligent and beautiful. Studies done in the past have linked a strong positive correlation between perceived attractiveness and perceived intelligence. When people believe another person is attractive, they also attribute the quality of intelligence to him or her as well. Women are perceived as our society as being more attractive and become attractive at a younger age. As a result females are becoming more self-assured while the self-esteem of young boys is being trampled completely. Stop the misandry now! Stop reinforcing the idea of the idiot man.

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Men are significantly more likely than women to commit suicide. Although womeb are about twice as likely to become clinically depressed, or to unsuccessfully attempt suicide, men still commit more suicides annually across all cultures and ethnicities. 

Young boys have mental health needs different from young girls, and mental health issues develop differently between the two genders. Men are more likely than women to mask mental health issues behind substance abuse, and while 50% of men with clinical depression seek medical help *compared to women’s 40%) women with clinical depression outnumber men by at least 2 to 1. So considerably more women seeks professional help than men, especially when you consider many men never  even get diagnosed for their disorder, choosing instead to hide their mental health issues and resort to substance abuse instead.

Men usually arent comfortable with asking for help the way Women are. Our sociwty needs to work on developing an atmosphere where men are encouraged to ask for help when theyre in need of assistance, instead of finding dangerous outlets like drugs or alchohol. To do otherwise would suggest that men arent worthy of the same level of help as women, which is both sexist and appalling.

Because so many men fall through the cracks, when it comes to mental health, more men become frustrated with society and grow violent. We need to stand together in unison as men to ensure that men and boys get the psychological aid they need.

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There are so many videos of what's happening in Gaza, this genocide is so terribly well documented... But beyond the death and suffering we can also see the heroism of Palestinian men, and their dignity and grief and compassion and bravery.

Palestinian men deserve better, they deserve to live a happy, safe and fulfilling life in a free Palestine.

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“Palestinian men are literally fasting so that their families can eat and drink of what little they have.They're the ones digging through the rubble to find their neighbors and their loved ones and carrying broken bodies on their backs. They equally deserve respect and compassion and are totally left out of the narrative. Enough of "Women and Children" only frameworks. Scream for the men of Palestine too!!They're our dads and brothers and uncles and grandpas and friends, they are Press/Journalist and Photographers who've been trying their best to show us what is truly happening inside "Palestine" They deserve love too. They deserve to be mourned. Both men, women and Children deserve to be mourned!!!”

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the men and boys are innocent too.

we cry "the innocent women and children" to appeal to the masses, to try and force their sympathy, but the men and boys are innocent too.

I have seen sons crying out for their mothers, their fathers, their siblings. I have seen them break down at the loss of their families. I have seen them cling to their dead and grieve.

I have seen fathers cradle their dead children, seen them kiss their faces and hold their little hands. I have seen them faint with grief when asked to identify the dead. I have seen them carry their sons and daughters. I have seen them fasting to provide what little they can for their families.

I have seen men and boys digging through the rubble with just their bare hands, I have seen them comforting strangers, playing with children, rocking them, hushing them, even if the face of such imminent danger. I have seen them cry, seen them grieve, seen them break down into each other's arms, seen them be selfless, beyond selfless, becoming something I don't have a word for.

I have seen the men who are doctors refuse to leave their patients, even when they have no medicine or supplies to give them, even when they're threatened with bombings. I have seen fathers who have lost all their children pick orphans up into their arms and proclaim them their child so they are not alone. I have seen men and boys digging pets out of the rubble.

the men are innocent too. the men and boys are being hurt and killed too. the men and boys are grieving too. the men and boys are scared too. the men and boys are fighting to save their people too. the men and boys deserve to be fought for too.

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Introduction Post

Hi guys, gals, and nonbinary pals! I'm Will (not real name), I am 19 as of this post and I go by they/them pronouns.

I am a feminist, but I am not a radical feminist. I believe that the patriarchy harms all genders. And, while I noticed an abundance of blogs pointing out the struggles and discrimination that women face as a result of this system, I have not yet come across one doing the same for men.

"That's because men are inherently privileged and do not struggle like women do." Some would argue. And while it IS true that men do have privilege in many areas, in some, they do not, and are actively discriminated against.

As such, the purpose of this blog is to be a safe space for men to feel heard and understood. I also want to show non-men persons the unique struggles that men face, so that we may all better understand each other.

Rules:

-This blog does NOT encourage or endorse the harassment or mistreatment of any gender. I do not tolerate misogyny, misandry, sexism, transphobia, or anything of the like.

-This blog does NOT encourage or endorse other kinds of bigotry, such as, but not limited to: what I have listed above, racism, colorism, homophobia, religious discrimination (islamophobia, antisemitism, etc.), and ableism.

-This blog does NOT encourage or endorse radical feminism or terf ideology. Personally, I believe that these beliefs are harmful. Y'all that believe in these beliefs are allowed to respectfully disagree, but not harass. (See the paragraph under this one for more v)

-Anyone (even radfems and terfs) are allowed to read my posts. I believe that people can challenge their viewpoints, and that it is healthy to do so. However, I do not tolerate the harassment of anyone on my blog. That includes me and other users who will be active on here. If you do so, I will block and report you. Don't be a bully. If you don't agree with something my blog says, that's within your right to believe. It is NOT your right to harass me or anyone else on this blog because of said disagreements. Write your feelings down in your notes app, go for a walk, write how you respectfully disagree. Whatever you gotta do that does NOT insult, demean, or bring down others. I am being as clear as I can with my thoughts on all this here, so you know exactly where I stand. And hey, if you hate me? Just block me. No bullying or harassment, period.

-This blog is Pro-Palestine.

-Just be kind, y'all. That's the main conceit of this whole thing. Treat others the way you would want to be treated, and have respectful discussions. Again, being the broken record that I am: RESPECTFUL discussions ARE permitted. HARASSMENT is NEVER permitted! I WILL block and report those who do not follow these rules.

To Men:

I hope that I am able to give you some support and encouragement through this blog. If there is anything that you would like me to cover, then please send an ask. If my askbox ends up becoming hell, I'll try to figure out another way of sending suggestions. And remember, you are worthy.

Yours, the (not real) Will Wood

(Yes I'm a Will Wood fan, that is who I based my alias here off of).

Have a good day, y'all.