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Say I wanted to indicate in my dating profile that I have a preference for black women. Do you know of a classy way to do that without sounding racist? I don’t think it’s racist to have a sexual preference, but there’s gotta be a way to go about it without setting off red flags on their end.

A smart choice, dear reader, and one I recommend to all my male followers (I’m assuming you’re a white guy; it seems like a white guy question to ask). Black women’s stunning beauty tends to be undervalued even in our interracialist circles, which is a real shame. How can you not be dazed and amazed by them?

But how to signal your interest in an appropriate way? Well, your typical woman has had enough interaction with men to know that men tend to have a type and any contact initiated by a man was probably triggered to some extent by her fitting that type. So, she knows you know and you know she knows. There’s no need to be overly explicit about it.

Obliviously raving about your physical preferences may not get you called racist (after all, you’re rooting for Team Melanin; who’s going to complain about that?), but rather a chaser, which is frankly worse for your prospects. No woman particularly wants to be the cure to your jungle/yellow/girlcock fever. It’s best to avoid that impression altogether.

My recommendation to you would be to leave the impression of a stable, sane and joyful person on your profile. That’s always a good start, but it’s especially helpful for impressing black chicks looking to date white guys. They absolutely do not want you to be a wigger or a white hotep. They’re not ghetto and won’t appreciate you angling for ratchet girls. Most of them aren’t going to be black supremacists either. As long as you’re a good liberal who won’t whitesplain their experiences to them, they’ll be perfectly happy.

If you do want to leave cues that most black women visiting your profile will recognize, use the classic “show, don’t tell” technique. Your daily read? Why, The Root of course. Dear White People on Netflix is obviously your favorite comedy/drama. Black Lives Matter. After watching Good Hair, you never looked at the world the same way. And so on. Don’t make your entire profile about your love of black culture, but express it visibly.

(and if you don’t know what The Root and Good Hair are or have never watched Dear White People–you got your work cut out for you)

Lastly, while you shouldn’t come off as a chaser on your profile, when you do approach a black woman online or IRL, don’t be a coy whiteboi about it. These lovely stereotypes about sexually forward black men that we reproduce on our interracial blogs do have some basis in reality. Black women are used to direct, confident approaches from men who know what they want. Indirect ramblings may work with your typical posh prep school Becky, but that’s not who you’re after here.

In other words, you’re not going to cushion yourself in “should we get coffee some day” plausible deniability. You’re going to be the pride of your viking ancestors and tell her that her braids made your day and you want to take her on a date, preferably this week. Good luck!