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We need to talk more about the transmasculine suicide rate.

There's a common saying that every transgender suicide is a murder, because it is the lack of acceptance in society that leads transgender individuals to commit suicide at such a high rate, this is true of trans men who have the highest suicide rate across all gender identities:

Trans men are not receiving the support they need, and many of them are not surviving because of this. We need to make sure that mental health support and suicide for transgender individuals is as inclusive as possible for these transgender men who are at the highest risk.

We need to ensure trans men feel safe and welcome within the queer community as isolation is one of the more exacerbating factors on one's mental health. We need to make sure resources for victims of sexual violence are inclusive of transmasculine individuals, who face the highest rate of sexual abuse and yet often have to recloset themselves to find support. We have to love trans men because society shows them nothing but hate.

Check in with the trans men in your community, you may just save a life.

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hey anon saying "my abuser was a trans man so trans men hate trans women" I just want you to know I'm a transmasc person who was literally abused horrifically on the basis of sharing a similar pronoun and gender identity to my then-girlfriend's ex. she used the abuse of an entirely unrelated person as an excuse to insinuate I never respected her and would regularly scream at me and even invalidated my trauma over a relative dying using her own trauma.

she also, unsurprisingly, was a rampant transandrophobe, calling me horrible and transmisogynistic because I challenged her as a trans woman over saying blatantly transphobic things about trans men and transmascs (myself included).

because it was never about truth, it was about being on top and being the most inconvenienced and being in control of the conversation of suffering (this went beyond us fighting over my gender).

think why you feel that way, that you need sole dictation over the conversation and can't let anyone else breathe their words about experiences that may challenge how you feel, anon

if I were to do what she did, and say I was uncomfortable with trans women because they can be abusive, I would rightfully be ripped limb from limb for the transmisogynistic notion that trans women are remotely a monolith or are abusive based solely on my experience

but I guess trans men aren't owed that same equivalence. they are forced to live a double standard there. because you don't respect us enough for it. why is that.

"because it was never about truth, it was about being on top and being the most inconvenienced and being in control of the conversation of suffering,"

"if I were to do what she did, and say I was uncomfortable with trans women because they can be abusive, I would rightfully be ripped limb from limb for the transmisogynistic notion that trans women are remotely a monolith or are abusive based solely on my experience"

i had to highlight these bits in particulare because good god you worded this so perfectly. i am so sorry you have had this experience but you knocked the ball so far out of the park that i am genuinely in awe of how well you conveyed this, and how absolutely fucked peoples' double standards are when it comes to abuse and how people think that trans men and mascs have it "so much easier in life". you're dead on the money. NONE of this has to do with talking about oppression and looking out for one another.

this behavior is about control.

it's about controlling the narrative. some people literally get so insecure when the conversation turns away from them for even a moment, they think it means that everyone is their enemy. yes, trans women have an absolutely awful time in cisheternormative society. so do trans men.

i have been emotionally and sexually abused and harassed by 3 separate trans women. one of which struck me with an object, another who stole something out of my purse while i was asleep and continuously kept trying to get in my pants after she found out i had a vagina despite me repeatedly turning her down, and another who mocked me for my psychotic episodes and repeatedly swore up and down that i didn't have DID and just in general gaslit and emotionally abused the fuck out of me. the woman who hit me also constantly kept insinuating that penises are what make a man a man, and would not stop making me feel bad for not having a biopenis.

once everyone found out i had a vag, suddenly, i was a cishet woman in their house and i was public enemy #1. i had to deal with my cis gay male roommate shrieking about how he's gay, boobs and vaginas are disgusting, he's a MAN attracted to MEN. meanwhile, my ex girlfriend (the one who hit me) made me feel like shit for being a man without a penis almost every single day. she would guilt trip me about how she missed being with partners with biopenises and would spend all day telling me that she loved me, but then would turn around and scream and yell at me and tell me that i'm an evil asshole.

the transandrophobia i have had to deal with at the hands of other trans women has been absolutely fucking staggering. we need to stop fostering a culture where this is okay because it's genuinely getting people hurt. like you said, if a transmasc were to say "i hate trans women, they're all mean and shitty and abusive," they would literally be torn limb from fucking limb. and rightfully so, because it's a dogshit thing to say. but we HAVE to start telling people who do this to trans men to fuck OFF and stop it.

i am very sorry you went through that. i hope things improve for you, and that you're able to spend time in company that treats you with respect. nobody should have to deal with literal profiling just because of their gender.

is that what we're doing now? profiling people based off of their gender? how is that progressive? how is that liberating? how is that trans rights? it ain't.

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“Malgendering when trans men use it is just them trying to claim they move through the world like cis women and are therefore incapable of harm” what are you TALKING ABOUT

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Got this when i asked what transemasculation was.

Why the fuck are they making terms for oppression against trans masculine people in spaces that we arent in? We should get to decide on our own vocabulary. That just feels straight up rude.

The discrimination we face is actually kind of rooted in us being men. And i really wish people would stop trying to tell transmen/transmasculine people about the roots of our own oppression. We know it better than you do. And there is so much more to the oppression that we face and theres more causes than just "doing man wrong".

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if you are a trans man or masc, masculine nonbinary, genderqueer, genderfluid or other gender non conforming identity, masc gay, a bear, a butch, stud, or boi, or other masculine queer person and don't feel welcome in any queer spaces, you're not alone.

the communities both irl and online have become EXTREMELY hostile toward mascs and men to the point of straight up excluding us and changing their wording to justify their violent exclusion. from renaming nonbinary spaces to "femme & them" and "she+" spaces, to telling men & mascs that they would "Scare" the women and "nonbinary" folks just by being there, as if masculinity and manhood are inherently traumatizing to be around.

masculine and male nonbinary folks have it so hard- most nonbinary spaces are almost definitely women's spaces who also conflate womanhood with nonbinaryhood, and often times just view nonbinary people as confused women. we are not inherently traumatizing to be around: masc enbies need places to go. we are still nonbinary and still trans and still queer for fucks' sake

nonbinary has never and will never mean femme or woman-adjacent inherently. nonbinary means what it means: people who don't or refuse to adhere to the gender binary, regardless of what side it is. masculinity is included in this, femininity is not the only way to be nonbinary.

masc queers do not have to bend over backwards to try to be more feminine and thus "less threatening" in order to have places to go. that's dysphoric and just inaccurate to a lot of queer folks' identity and presentation. it blows my mind because it makes no sense, anyway, even within the gay community, hypermasculinity has been present and even sought after by some people who find it very attractive, twunks, hunks, bears... but between the periods in queer history people started viewing masc gay leathermen and kinksters as the ones who were responsible for spreading AIDS and thus removing them from pride parades,

AND the lesbian separatism moment picking up to remove butches & male & masc lesbians from lesbian spaces identity, paving the way for modern rdical femniism, we've only entered a downhill landslide of hating men and mascs and ultimately trying to erase us from the queer community entirely.

the queer community is not the "women & femmes community". the queer experience is broad and vast, it includes a wide variety of masculine and male experiences, as well as genderfluid, multigender, completely ungendered and other gendered experiences. the lesbian, trans, bisexual, nonbinary, gay and general queer communities aren't the "safe place to hide from men & mascs community" like estranged rdfems and terfpilled trans folk like to tell you they are.

this is the QUEER community and it includes ALL forms of queerness, masc, femme, butch, male, neutral, bigender, neutral, and all. he/shes and he/hims and he/theys and he/its and so on are just as much of a part of this communities as she/hers and they/thems. you can't cast a blanket of "inherently abusive" over all men and mascs and one of "inherently abused/incapable of being abusive" over all women and femmes because that just traps you in a fantasy land that doesn't exist AND it prevents mascs and men from getting the help, resources and community they NEED.

men & mascs are hurt and abused by women & femmes every day and we refuse to speak about them because we live under a white cisheteronormal patriarchy and have complaints about how that functions. the complaints are legitimate but assuming that all men and mascs are oppressing all women and femmes and that women can never be oppressive is a false as hell narrative that actively damages people.

enough is enough. this mindset is hurting people. it's leaving masc and male queers to be estranged, harmed and even dead. i care about you if you're being affected by this mentality and these behaviors. you deserve community, safety, and a sense of belonging, you do belong, even if we struggle to form our own spaces due to unjust hatred. we will do our best to band together and keep each other safe. we must

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Santa is on strike due to global warming.  All presents this year will be delivered by Sasha the Christmas Tiger.  Milk and cookies may not be sufficient.

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Folks someone just made the most amazing thing I've seen in ages

the eye pinning when they're excited???? sent me

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"tboys" if you automatically refer to transmascs and trans men like this, I don't trust you to be normal about them.

"harassing trans women and spousing misogynistic views" do you mean talking about their oppression with a word you don't like, and telling trans women (notice how they didn't say tgirls! Wow!) that they shouldn't speak over transmascs and trans men about their own oppression and experiences? Because that's usually what people mean when they say this without any evidence.

"after years of gaming the addon in their favour" ????? This is just false ???? How do you even do that? Where is the evidence for this?

"now all of a sudden shinigami eyes is just like ninety ninety four by jorjor wells" [translation: nineteen eighty four (1984) by George Orwell]. Or you mean. Intersex people have increasingly been marked red for talking about their own experiences in a surge of intersexism and transmascs have been standing with them because that's, like, what allyship is supposed to be.

Be so fucking for real right now.

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Someone just zoomed past our house on one of those hands free Segway machines wearing reindeer ears and a glowing red nose, carrying a boom box blasting “here comes Santa Clause, here comes Santa Clause, right down Santa Clause lane” with what could arguably only be described as a sack slung over their back.

God speed, cyberpunk Christmas spirit.

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The term "TMRA" used negatively/derogatorily in regards to trans men talking abt their oppression is wild to me. Being a trans men's rights activist is bad....why, exactly? Trans men literally lack fucking rights? HELLO?

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i looked through some of the catholic blogs that have been in my notes and who all they reblog from. do y'all want to see the worst opinions in the world

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Intersexist dumbasses when they find out intersex people can be trans

I'm bitter and tired of being systematically told to sit down and shut up by perisex society. But I'm actively pissed at being personally told to sit down and shut up by my sibling community.

I add on to trans posts & correct intersexism in them because I want solidarity between perisex trans people and intersex people. I want to educate people who are fighting for the same thing the intersex community is. You can't have solidarity if one group knows fuckall about the other and constantly perpetuates stereotypes and says bigoted shit about them. We are stronger together than we are separate.

I & other intersex activists are not fucking "bad actors" for sharing what we go through and bringing attention to our issues on related posts. We are not "bad actors" for calling out intersexism in the trans community. We are not "bad actors" for making people pay attention to the fact we are dying out of view of the whole queer community. We are not "bad actors" for not allowing ourselves to be walked all over and have our systematic abuse ignored.

If you see a group of people with a related struggle to you screaming for your support and your response is to call them fucking "bad actors" fuck you, legitimately.

Trans & intersex liberationist movements will always go hand in beautiful hand. And the oppression we face is just two sides of the same blood-stained coin.

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my stepmom’s dog that she treats better than her kids got hit by a car and her solution to this was to purchase a new dog that looks identical to the old one and name it almost the exact same thing as the old one and act like nothing happened. genuine serial killer behavior. everyone in this family is fucking insane

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Why are intersex people the bigots for demanding inclusion? Why can we only talk about trans oppression if we do so with terminology that excludes our entire existence and our lived experiences? Why the fuck should I be OKAY with this? Why should I be kind, polite, patient, or anything else when I feel like you fuckers are peeling my skin off with fucking potato peelers? Why do a lot of trans people only feel validated in their oppression if intersex people are silenced and not interrupting to say hey, we go through this too, and the way you're speaking on it with terminology based in bioessentialism inherently tells us our experiences do not matter, we do not matter, and we are simply annoying disgusting pests that cis and trans people both want out of their fucking lives? Sick of it. SICK of it. It's pathetic, cowardly, self-obsessed behavior. Fuck everyone who acts like this. Why is our erasure the only way y'all feel comfy discussing transphobia? Fucking hell

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wikipedia i love you but it is absolutely buckwild to present two options of "hey do you want some merch?" and "when you die will you give us some inheritance please."

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thinking about this again