madwoman5150

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Lol I grew up hearing my dad refer to me and my sisters and my mom as the "4 bitches" he has to live with. He'd casually call us bitches and would always lament to people about having to live with "4 women! I have to live with 4 women!" and expected sympathy. As if we were responsible for him fucking up his own life. God don't even get me started

I’m watching old episodes of Supernanny and this one father has the nerve to call his daughters “bitches” (and they’re 14, 4, 3, and 2!!) and expect his wife to do literally everything😑He obviously got put in his place but I’d just throw the whole man away and run away with my kids. It’s just sick how little girls are exposed to misogynistic language from such a young age and, in a way, brainwashed to accept that kind of language from men & boys.

Btw yes I’m aware that show is from the early 2000s but men still act that way now soooo

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What the internet does to some people's brains needs to be studied, I want books

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Why is it always violence with you guys. Having a different perspective on gender identity means I should get hurt? Strange.

Divorce seems to radicalize american men in a way that needs to be studied

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Are you seriously comparing your porn addiction to a religion

if pornhub and hentai got annihilated the number of self proclaimed trans lesbians would dwindle by half in like 3 months lol

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Men literally see their families as an extension of their own egos rather than as individual human beings with lives just as valuable as their own

Divorce seems to radicalize american men in a way that needs to be studied

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Horseshit. The entire sentiment of OP's post is concern and worry. What is being ideologically pushed onto LGB and gender nonconforming children deeply worries us, because we were those children and many of us would have been coached into believing that we were actually trans and would've gone onto the path of medicalization + irreversible changes to our bodies if we were born today. We see what's going on, we've done our research and continue to do so regarding the stats of kids who transition who also happen to be LGB, autistic, or just gender nonconforming. We are worried, how is that not obvious? If anyone demands to be obeyed, or else, it's the fucking gender cult.

If I could get activists to listen to us about one single thing and nothing else, I would ask them to consider just how many of us perfectly fit the definition of “trans kid” when we were children. I would ask them to listen to those of us who, after getting help with body issues, internalized homophobia and sexual trauma, are now comfortable with the sex we were born as and wouldn’t be happy had we transitioned.

when gender non-conforming people say that we 100% would have believed we were supposed to transition if this movement would have been as big as it is now when we were kids, we fucking mean it. we’re not being dramatic or doing it to make you look bad. it does not come from a place of hatred, it doesn’t come from a place of wanting to deny you your right to bodily autonomy, it doesn’t come from the same place that homophobes come from when they say they think same sex attracted people are broken and should be subjected to electroshock therapy.

it comes from a place of genuine concern, it comes from seeing children and vulnerable young adults who remind us of ourselves being called “trans eggs waiting to crack,” medically transitioning, and then being blamed and ostracized for not knowing it wasn’t the right decision when that path ended up being wrong for them.

if you really want to do right by gay, lesbian, and gender non-conforming kids then you should listen to gay, lesbian, and gender non-conforming adults even if it challenges your worldview. we have the hindsight to know what we needed when we were children, and for most of us, the last thing we would have needed is to be told we’re actually the opposite sex and sold DIY hrt online by random adults.

you can hate our guts and keep sending us graphic murder threats if you want but truthfully the movement you’ve created is full of too much misogyny, too much homophobia, too many hurt people, too many contradictions, and too many unanswered questions to be sustainable. gender abolitionism is the only way forward.

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that one friend whose blood you'll never wash out from your hands 😂

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Every time I check the comments on a video about an animal rescue or a person dealing with some disease or injury or loss or someone who needs help or anything like that the vast majority of empathetic nice comments are from women. Unless in the video it's a man in distress, then men will sometimes care especially if they can blame it on women somehow. Or a dog, they have way more empathy for dogs than they do for women. Or any post about like factory farms and animal abuse, it's always men making dumbass comments and jokes. It's a weird thing to notice but not surprising. Anyways. I love women.

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If I could get activists to listen to us about one single thing and nothing else, I would ask them to consider just how many of us perfectly fit the definition of “trans kid” when we were children. I would ask them to listen to those of us who, after getting help with body issues, internalized homophobia and sexual trauma, are now comfortable with the sex we were born as and wouldn’t be happy had we transitioned.

when gender non-conforming people say that we 100% would have believed we were supposed to transition if this movement would have been as big as it is now when we were kids, we fucking mean it. we’re not being dramatic or doing it to make you look bad. it does not come from a place of hatred, it doesn’t come from a place of wanting to deny you your right to bodily autonomy, it doesn’t come from the same place that homophobes come from when they say they think same sex attracted people are broken and should be subjected to electroshock therapy.

it comes from a place of genuine concern, it comes from seeing children and vulnerable young adults who remind us of ourselves being called “trans eggs waiting to crack,” medically transitioning, and then being blamed and ostracized for not knowing it wasn’t the right decision when that path ended up being wrong for them.

if you really want to do right by gay, lesbian, and gender non-conforming kids then you should listen to gay, lesbian, and gender non-conforming adults even if it challenges your worldview. we have the hindsight to know what we needed when we were children, and for most of us, the last thing we would have needed is to be told we’re actually the opposite sex and sold DIY hrt online by random adults.

you can hate our guts and keep sending us graphic murder threats if you want but truthfully the movement you’ve created is full of too much misogyny, too much homophobia, too many hurt people, too many contradictions, and too many unanswered questions to be sustainable. gender abolitionism is the only way forward.

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I think everyone's desire to not piss anyone off is killing what is so attractive about personalities in the first place

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I totally agree more people should show their face but personally, I am an academic who only recently peaked/detransitioned and was previously trans-identified myself, and some of my research was on the trans community (mostly TiFs) so it is a large risk for me to show my face, especially I as apply to phd programs for my women-centered dissertation ideas. I don't want to eliminate the possibility of getting funding, as i can't afford the programs otherwise. But at the same time, I wish it was easier for us to be more up front about our beliefs, and not have to worry about being doxxed or fired or defunded for caring about women's rights. It's extremely isolating, and also ironic, because the TiPs love to pretend that their privacy is always at risk, they're at risk of being outed/breaking "stealth", but have no qualms about doxxing people who have opinions they don't like on the internet :( you are really brave and I admire your willingness to show yourself, unafraid of their bullshit.

Thanks. Yeah I definitely understand why people wouldn't want to put their careers at risk. I'm just a blue collar worker and don't have a professional public presence to keep up with so for people like me there's no real risk. But I do plan on putting myself and my art more out there as well on other platforms, and I actually want my views to be a part of that presence and infused into my art. Good luck with your PhD :)

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Electric Wizard  - Vinum Sabbathi

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Same here, I was a major tomboy and even cried to my parents on occasion when I was very young because I didn't want to grow up and have to grow boobs and become a woman 🤣 They just said "you have to!" and told me to get over it, and I did. That's part of the reason I'm so passionate about all this gender critical feminism stuff, I would've likely been led to believe I actually was a boy if I were born today. Thank god it was the 90's and my parents just let me be my weird self.

I actually cannot believe people still buy into the nonbinary shit. And the trans shit too obviously but nonbinary is another level of ridiculous, how are you not embarrassed. Like I still just can't believe how stupid you have to be to believe in this stuff. You're worse than a flat earth evangelical. And everyone is afraid of the word female. Get me out of here.

Anyways I'm off to see the oncologist about getting my other breast removed. So I can be mistaken for a gendie everywhere I go even more than I already am. Embarrassing.

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What makes the "non binary" women so annoying is that they don't even do anything gender non conforming. Like I've never met a they/them girl not in a long term relationship with a man. In fact I normally meet them THROUGH completely straight "normie" male friends who are their bfs. And they act like it's self evident they're a they/them. And as I don't remotely buy it I keep getting their pronouns wrong. You know they don't do this stuff at work too 🙄 like do something *actually* gender non confirming other than clothes or using the phrase they/them. I dont get it? In fact, weirdly enough I find totally "normie" straight women straight up dolled up in loads of makeup often are much much more likely to break gender norms in ACTION than they/thems. You know, because they lift up other women (mentoring into leadership roles, hell just being supportive) rather than they thems who insist they're they're women. Often these "normie" women do gender non confirming things all the time but that doesnt count if you own a skirt and have large boobs. The they thems are honestly so alienated from their bodies which is so unhealthy. I feel like I'm on eggshells around they thems. Around "normie" women of all stripes i feel I can often get a shared female moment which is really special, we really do look out for each other, hell sometimes you're the only two women in a room and it's a great convo starter. Random women have always looked out for me and I try to do the same right back. Around they/thems I have to be as aloof as i am with a man (more aloof if anything) you have to pretend they're not a woman or discuss literally anything about biological sex or gender. Which yknow is part of life... and feels super self censoring?! Hell I even sometimes discuss sex and gender issues with men (not like super deeply). It's honestly straining to talk to they thems cos you have to constantly remember they them and use gender neutral terms for everything. And they don't like also if you express any joy related to being a woman (okay you don't like yourself but that's not my problem).

I can say to a guy "I am happy being a woman" and even him, a man won't find fault with it. They thems wear me out. I don't have any interest in being friends with a they/them cos being a woman is a central part of my life. I honestly am so happy i am straight cos even if never date a man for the rest of my life people just take one look at me, know I am obviously not remotely in lgbtq culture in any way whatsoever and that gets me a free pass on not knowing any terminology even though I was literally right there on tumblr seeing it get written in real time. I don't know how I emanate this "don't know lgbt stuff" energy so well cos I don't wear makeup, don't shave, act very dominant and masculine etc. But never ever they themed. I honestly think it is cos i have a very hourglass figure. And I don't wear revealing or that feminine clothes i actually wear mens clothes a lot. But I couldn't remotely pass for a man ever regardless so i think big boobs are a big protection against they theming. I think you're onto something there. I do think a clueless energy can work well though. If you carry yourself confidently I think that alone doesn't give they them energy. They're never self assured irl

I really hope your breast cancer recovery goes well!!!

That sounds exhausting to have to deal with that many gender ideologues, I'm sorry. Are they really that common? Maybe I haven't encountered as many because of my line of work. Or maybe my age. This stuff was unheard of when I was in school in the 90's and early 00's, we didn't even have a GSA and there were no out LGB people that I knew of personally and I didn't even know what transgender was until after I graduated in 08. No social media besides MySpace lol.

I get what you mean about these people not even being gender nonconforming at all, especially wrt actual behavior and gender roles. It's just an abstract concept or aesthetic to them. I've known quite a few and even dated (briefly thank god) a very feminine woman who used she/they pronouns who questioned my gender several times. I once overheard her friends talking about me and asking if I'm a boy because I "look like one" despite me introducing myself as her girlfriend. She also gave me shit about my "genital preference" and said I shouldn't talk about it because it hurts transwomen and said that "not all lesbians" only like vagina. I went off on her about it which led to us breaking up and then she went around telling people at our workplace that I was a "closed-minded, anti-dick" TERF. So that was fun. I still chide myself for not confronting her about it. And you're right lol, most of these types of women are into men, she went back to dating men after me despite claiming she was a lesbian while we dated. Didn't surprise me one bit.

I don't know how you find the patience to humor these people with their pronouns lol, I only do it if I have to like at work or to maintain the peace between me and friends of friends or friends of family. I'm not afraid to be honest with or even disliked by strangers or people I don't care for.

I do carry myself very confidently, some would say in a "masculine" way which contributes to why these types think I'm somehow not a woman.

And thanks, recovery is easy because I caught the cancer very early :)

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I love being honest and saying what i feel it’s so addictive