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The truth is that we need relationships, but we don’t need every relationship. Surround yourself with positive people who bring you up, rather than drag you down. You don’t have to sacrifice your sanity because you don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings. You don’t have to be controlled by your own kindness. You can be a good person without bending to the will of those who damage you with their own selfishness. You deserve to be happy.

It’s Ok to Say, “I Don’t Want to See You Again”, on How to Remove Toxic People from Your Life. (via sialia-mortis)

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Sometimes we get sad about things and we don’t like to tell other people that we are sad about them. We like to keep it a secret. Or sometimes, we are sad but we really don’t know why we are sad, so we say we aren’t sad but we really are.

Mark Haddon, The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time (via kushandwizdom)

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Hypervigilance makes sense as a survival strategy. After our brain has perceived a life-endangering situation and gone into fight or flight, then some people’s brains will be on the alert for more situations that could also be threatening. If the type of trauma you experienced was abuse or assault, then you were hurt by a person or people. That’s obviously different than being bitten by a snake or in a car accident. And when we know our abuser, there is a breach of trust and emotional harm inherent in the assault. So now when we find we’re getting close to someone, we start getting anxious. We look for signs we’re about to be betrayed or hurt. We get paranoid about someone’s tone or interval in responding to our texts. We’re anticipating the worst and unconsciously looking for signs that we’re right.

from How to Trust People Again

latest After Trauma post

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what i never learned from my mother was that just because someone desires you does not mean they value you. Desire is the kind of thing that eats you and leaves you starving.

the color of low self esteem | nayyirah waheed

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Adventure Is ΦUT THΣRΣ x

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Sorority recruitment

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Wear em loud and proud ❤️

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I don’t care, I could go anywhere with you and I’d probably be happy,

First Day of My Life by Bright Eyes (via sleepy-wallflower)

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“In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.”

Martin Luther King Jr. (via kushandwizdom)

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She was beautiful, but she was beautiful in the way a forest fire was beautiful: something to be admired from a distance, not up close.

Neil Gaiman (via theglasschild)

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I fall so hard inside the idea of you.

Dave Matthews Band, The Idea of You. (via barebonedandcrazyy)

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May, 2014

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Blake Lively ❤️❤️

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Tattoo number 3

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A few times in my life I've had moments of absolute clarity when for a few brief seconds the silence drowns out the noise and I can feel rather than think and things seem so sharp and the world seems so fresh. I can never make these moments last. I cling to them, but like everything, they fade. I have lived my life on these moments. They pull me back to the present and I realize that everything is exactly the way it is meant to be.