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the yearning mice are running around inside my bones once again

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googling "how to make it through the day after having a nightmare that you found out your partner killed themself via their partner reaching out for help with planning their funeral and waking up having a full blown panic attack about it because it felt so real" yielded no results. i love having unique, ungoogleable problems

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missing someone is crazy because you’ll have dreams that r like “we went on a nice walk together :)” and you’ll wake up feeling like you’re gonna throw up

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fuuuuuck i have needs and wants and desires :( sadly they needto put me at the bottom of a deep as fuck hole and pour cement over me because of this

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avoidance has saved me from everything it's also killed me a hundred million times

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they should invent a brain that doesn’t whisper bad things to you

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dogfight

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Say that again? I'm sorry. I got distracted by your little mannerisms, how you pronounce certain words, and the way your eyes light up when you talk about something you're passionate about, and started day dreaming about spending my life making you laugh, and feel loved and cherished

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having bad thoughts that make me feel like a bad and selfish person. feeling sick about it

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Liz Fosslien

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It’s important to not punish someone for doing what we asked them to do.

Playing games and telling people to “leave me alone” and then being upset when they do isn’t fair to that person. If someone is trying to respect boundaries and does what you ask, it isn’t fair to punish them.

People can’t read your mind and know when you say one thing that you mean another. And even if they can, they’re not obligated to play guessing games. It’s exhausting for them and for you.

When you play these games, usually no one wins.

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Someone being patient with you on your bad days is one of the softest forms of love

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i don't know who needs to hear this, but guilt, self-hatred and shame are not sustainable sources of growth and healing. you can't hate yourself into feeling better, or being better. you can't repeatedly punish yourself for your flawed humanity and expect wholesome results.