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A message to myself so from tomorrow I'll be doing @kelseytheballerina's nun mode challenge. So I guess I'll see you guys in time for the holidays?

You've become too comfortable in this stage of your journey. You've reached a point where consuming self help and level up content has replaced taking action. It's time to move beyond this passive learning phase and start taking action again.

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You've become too comfortable in this stage of your journey. You've reached a point where consuming self help and level up content has replaced taking action. It's time to move beyond this passive learning phase and start taking action again.

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How to set goals that you actually accomplish

To achieve your big, long-term goals, you must take a structured approach that ensures clear and practical steps are adhered to. This is referred to as SMART goal setting. SMART is an acronym for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Timely. SMART goals embody all of these criteria to help focus your performance and increase your likelihood of achieving your goals.

SMART Criteria Breakdown

Specific: Clearly define the goal that you want to achieve. For this discussion, I`ll use two examples:

Instead of “I want to lose weight”, specify, “I want to lose 10 pounds”.

Instead of “I want to save money”, specify, “I want to save $20,000 within the next four months”.

Measurable: Identify how you will measure progress. This could be through numbers, specific deadlines or milestones.

“I will document my weight loss weekly using a scale and a weight tracking app/journal.”

 “I will save $5000 each month and ensure that I deposit it into my savings account.”

Achievable: Ensure that this goal is realistic and attainable given your current resources and constraints.

Aim for a weight loss rate that is healthy and practical such as 1-2 pounds per week. Adjust your diet and exercise routine to support this regimen.

Evaluate your earnings and expenses to verify that you can afford to save $5000 per month. You can`t be earning $4000 per month and desire to save $5000. It`s just not practical. If you can adjust your budget or find an additional source of income if you`re unable to do this, adjust your goal.

Relevant: Arrange the goal concerning your broader objectives and values. Ensure that it has value and will contribute to your overall vision.

Ensure the weight loss aligns with your overall health and physical appearance objectives.

These savings should align with your broader financial aims such as an emergency fund for rainy days, an investment or a major purchase.

Time Management: Set a clear timeframe for achieving the goal. Deadlines create urgency and help prioritize efforts.

Accomplish the 10-pound weight loss within 5 to 10 weeks.

Accomplish the $20,000 savings goal by the end of the four months.

This is a surefire way to achieve your goals, try it out and you won`t regret it.

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wear what you like, trying to keep up with trends will drive you crazy.

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There's a Guyanese idiom that says, "One, one dutty build dam." It basically means that every small effort, decision, plan, and sacrifice contributes to achieving your goals. These small strides all combine to accumulate into significant successes. This is important to remember whenever you feel overwhelmed by the seemingly unachievable nature of your big, long-term goals.

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In my quest for maximum productivity, I pushed myself to the brink of exhaustion. I worked so intensely that I began dreaming about the projects I was working on. These dreams made me restless and anxious, affecting my performance the next day. This led to stress about falling behind schedule, which, in turn, caused migraines and dizziness which hindered my ability to perform at my best and meet deadlines.  Consequently, I had to make the decision to rest and recuperate. It wasn't easy for my always-on-the-go nature, but it was necessary. After all, what’s the point of being hyper-productive if it comes at the expense of my physical and mental well-being? What’s the value of strict productivity if I don’t have the strength to enjoy the process and its rewards? I decided to prioritize my health and set aside my rigid productivity tendencies. I’m still committed to completing my work and projects on time, but I will listen to my body and rest when needed. I won’t push myself to the point of illness. On days when I don’t feel like working, I’ll take the time to pamper myself and unwind. I’ll meet my deadlines without letting them cause tunnel vision or neglect my health. I’ll take ample breaks and avoid non-stop working hours. I’m excited to focus on my well-being while remaining productive.

@gracefulchristiangirl as promised <3

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Exactly! This is something I constantly have to remind myself of because I always work myself to the point of exhaustion in the name of getting everything done.

what are you working on right now to grow yourself?

Learning to rest (which, I know, sounds crazy. She's learning to grow by resting? but yes). I'm learning to not work myself to the point for exhaustion and to rest when I need to. I think I'll make a blog post to explain it better, I'll tag you if I do!

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what are some of your top That Girl tips?

Be self directed- take time to question yourself and what YOU want for your life and future. Block out the desires of others.

Have a hygiene routine that you do often- exfoliate, shave, moisture.

Smile more.

Delete your social media.

Give up the process food and eat organic!

Invest in your appearance and your health.

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what does your daily routine look like?

It's not as intense as it used to be, so it's really just slow mornings of having breakfast, doing my Bible Study, short walks, studying, reading, watching movies and cleaning at a pace that doesn't exhaust me.

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what are you working on right now to grow yourself?

Learning to rest (which, I know, sounds crazy. She's learning to grow by resting? but yes). I'm learning to not work myself to the point of exhaustion and to rest when I need to. I think I'll make a blog post to explain it better, I'll tag you if I do!

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if you and I were an iconic best friend duo (or multiple) from a fandom(s), what duo(s) would we be and why? and who would be who :)

Uhh probably my melody and hello kitty because they're really sweet, kind, optimistic and well-liked by family and friends. You'd be hello kitty because she's good at art, smart, close to her siblings and loves to bake! I'd be my melody because she's honest but doesn't realise when she's being too honest and she loves pink! :D

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three months from now, you could be looking back at the hardest months of your journey and thinking, "it's so much easier to keep this up now, I'm glad I finally started back then". or you could be regretting that all you did was fantasize about changes instead of taking action. Rome wasn't built in a day, and your ideal self won't happen overnight. your future life depends on your choices today, right now, immediately.

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always reinventing myself, day by day.

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Losers, be gone!

This blog post is dedicated towards navigating relationships. While I am currently single, I do believe that I can provide useful information. In fact, being single has allowed me time to reflect on previous relationships and what I desire and require for future ones. 

These experiences have shifted my perspective and desires in a relationship. I've gained insight that has not only transformed my dating and romantic journey but has also allowed me to formulate a list of advice. This list will keep the losers far away from you and now, I offer you this list. 

If a man jokes about you or your interests in a mean, rude, or belittling manner, run for the hills- no man who respects or cares for you will demean you. 

If a man does not ask you to be his girlfriend, then you are not his girlfriend! You are his little friend that he likes to have around but has no desire to pursue. 

If a man only compliments your physical attributes but does not admire aspects of you that are not superficial- discontinue communication. You`re just a pretty face for him to admire. 

Be the bxtch- being the sweet, caring girl gets you nowhere especially if the man is undeserving. Men will chew ‘sweet, caring girls’ up and spit them out! I've been sweet and caring and understanding, and at the end of it all I was just the ‘bxtch without standards.’ This is because I tolerated bad behavior and the bare minimum from men and gave them second chances because I was being sweet and caring. 

If that man messages infrequently, never message him again. Yes, men live hectic and busy lives but make time for the people and things they care for. Additionally, if he only messages at night, cease contact. Is he a bat? or maybe an owl? Oh, wait, no, he`s an opossum! Because this behavior implies that he is nocturnal. Moreover, the conversation might become progressively sexual later in the night it continues. 

If you`re basically planning your date with him, cancel it. I remember a man once asked me “So where are we going?”. I asked him who he was talking to.  On another occasion, I had asked this guy where he intended for us to dine at and his response was, “idk, let's see how things go”. I told him, “I see things going nowhere”.  If these guys were genuinely interested, the dates would have already been planned before I even agreed.  

If you helped pay for the first date-never speak to that man again. Men who want to date you must be able to afford you. N.B: I do not mean outlandish or ridiculous expenses. 

If you`re Christian, ensure that he`s Christian as well. Not someone who just says their Christian but someone who reflects such. It is important to date someone who understands the sanctity of marriage and places God above all else. Faith will be key, especially during difficult periods within the relationship and your personal lives. 

Your energy needs to be reciprocated. He should be showing the same level of interest and desire that you do. Perhaps more. That man should be actively pursuing you-even when you`re already his to have, to hold and to love. His pursuit of you should not falter.  

If your family and friends don't like him, take this into consideration! They often notice issues that you may ignore or not notice. Also, it's always good to hear the opinion of someone with a clear-eyed view.