livingtrauma

[livingtrauma]

Nothing justifies abuse, and you are allowed to hate whoever abused you, regardless of who they are or what factors were involved in their own life.

[livingtrauma]

The only child I have the capacity to take care of is my inner child. I do not currently want children, and I may never want children. My wounds are too deep. The amount of healing I need may take a lifetime, and I refuse to put any child through that.

Children deserve happiness without conditions. My health, both mental and physical, are conditions I WILL NOT subject any children to endure.

To the children I will probably never have, this comes from a place of love and selflessness. I just hope the world can understand.

[livingtrauma]

“You can’t expect yourself to go from a negative mentality to a positive one overnight, but every time you correct a bad thought you are growing! So focus on your growth, not the fact that you aren’t “there” yet.”

— Unknown

[livingtrauma]

exactly.

This is exactly why I don't bother arguing with them about narcissistic abuse anymore. They think survivors are vulnerable, and love to imagine they're causing harm by invalidating our experiences.

Just refer them to the appropriate therapy (DBT) and block.

It's not my problem if untherapised narcissists would rather argue online than learn concepts of right and wrong that most seven year olds can grasp.

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I don’t know who needs to hear this, but a child cannot ‘abandon’ a parent. There’s no such thing as parent abandonment. Either you cultivate a relationship with your child that encourages them to maintain contact with you as an adult, or they can leave. Full stop.

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narcissistic abuse isn't real any more than "depressive abuse" is real. a mental disorder doesn't give someone a special unique way to abuse others. all abuse is just abuse

Narcissism is not a mental disorder. You're thinking of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It takes like, 2 minutes on Google to learn the difference. Why should anybody prioritise your opinion over the opinions of thousands of licenced professionals if you can't even do that?

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Did anybody else’s emotionally abusive mom tell them “you’re too young to wear X” until you turned 18, and then immediately changed it to “you’re too old to wear X” and constantly try to dress you like an old church lady? With a heavy sprinkling of “you’re too fat to wear X” and “your boobs are too big for you to wear X” thrown in? And now you’re close to 40 and teaching yourself to wear whatever the fuck you want even though you’re definitely fatter and older than you were then?

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credits to @secretpoetryclub on tiktok

[livingtrauma]

Not all narcissists are abusers, not all abusers are narcissists, but narcissistic abuse is a specific pattern of abusive behavior produced by a narcissist who is abusive. It's that simple, and it's also important to recognize narcissistic abuse as being related to narcissism as that is how both the abuser and victim can get treatment, especially since narcissistic abuse directly causes Borderline Personality Disorder

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forgive yourself again and again and again and again and again

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bell hooks, All About Love