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When an outlet is no longer an outlet because it's privacy has been compromised and well you couldn't trust anything anyway because people use you against yourself and you know they don't understand so what's the point of arguing but also an outlet is nice but you can't because you know there are liars and mean people even though you know either way you don't care and it doesn't matter but somehow it helps when it doesn't help and you just can't say what you mean because what does it mean anyway?

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Well it's all hard, right I don't give a shit But you don't know what I mean And I'm not talking to you As polite as I can say that

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I just realized what I should really be afraid of... if everything you go through is to strengthen and prepare you for what's to come, then what the FUCK do I have coming for me???

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How to Tune into Your Needs

If you grew up emotionally neglected or abused, you may have developed the belief that your needs are not important and that you are selfish for having them. You may even automatically put others before yourself without thinking, as it has been so engrained in you. Here are some tips for how to tune into yourself, and begin putting your needs first:

1. Use your feelings as your guide. If you’re feeling angry, sad, frustrated, etc, ask yourself, “Why am I feeling this way?” You may not even be sure of what you’re feeling… maybe you can only pick up on feeling something “bad” or “uncomfortable.” Explore it. Find the roots. Honor your feelings. Because our feelings are indicators of our values and boundaries, and when they are being violated.

2. Recognize your self-doubt, if you have it. Many victims of abuse or neglect have become wired to believe they are “bad” or at fault for anything unpleasant or hurtful that happens. Doubt can become the fog between you and your needs. Using mindfulness, separate your self-doubt from who you are. You are not your self-doubt. You are worthy. You are good. You are enough. These are truths, but you have been brainwashed to believe otherwise.

3. Take time to build self-awareness into yourself and why you struggle with meeting your needs. Usually it is because of your childhood and how your parents raised you that have caused you to become that way–Mom called you selfish and shamed you. Dad neglected or left you. Explore your story, and give voice to the feelings that come up.

4. Make a practice into telling yourself frequently, “My needs are important,” and “I will honor my needs.” Everyone has needs. Everyone. While everyone else is advocating for theirs, it is up to you to advocate for yours. Repetition and practice will re-wire your brain from “My needs aren’t important” to “My needs ARE important and deserve to be heard.”

5. Practice tuning into yourself throughout the day. Ask yourself, how am I feeling right now? What do I need? Be patient with yourself, especially in the beginning. It may be difficult hearing yourself initially, but the more you tune in, the more you’ll be able to recognize your inner voice.

6. Make sure to have support! At times dealing with the feelings that come up may be overwhelming–like a beginner starting out on a 10-mile run. But take one step at a time. Having the support of a therapist or loved one will help you through the process. Remind yourself that you’re building a new skill from scratch. You can do it!

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Pansexual. I love that. Because once you sit and think about it, it makes sense. You don’t fall in love with someone because they have a dick or a vagina. I mean sure they help and some might have preferences, but in the end what you fall in love is the soul of that person. Being pansexual you don’t think oh man I’ve gotta like her or him because of what’s in between their legs. No, you meet a person and you vibe with them on a different level. And there’s the truth. The soul has no gender. It is the purest gift that god gave us that we haven’t fucked up. Your soul doesn’t see gender, your soul sees the other soul and when they connect, they don’t give two shits about what hangs or doesn’t hang in between of the meat sack they are currently residing in. All they care about is the light and connection they have with the other soul they found. I literally fall in love with you. Not your genitalia. You are not your genitalia. You are a soul. And I see yours and my soul likes what it sees there, not down below. Fall for the soul, not the body part.

Made this at 4 am cause my mind wasn’t settling ❤✌🏻 (via ella-alice1990)

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will it ever end will it ever end will it ever end will it ever end will it ever end will it ever end will it ever end will it ever end will it ever end will it ever end will it ever end will it ever end will it

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I guess you got everything you wanted. I still don't wish I had hurt you. I still wish the best for you. I hope you can heal now. I hope I helped build you. I hope you're better after knowing me. I hope you're stronger. I hope I can focus on these things and have my pain go away

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daddy leaved me too

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i can cry out but there's no one to hear me

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What I find most compelling about my clients with ‘borderline’ symptoms is that they are still struggling to exist despite the deep conviction that they do not deserve to do so. And they are still struggling to connect with others, despite being told again and again that they are manipulative and controlling and difficult. Far from being inauthentic, then, these individuals are reaching out into the world in the most honest, direct, vulnerable ways they possibly can, all while bracing for the invalidation and hostility that they know is likely to follow. They cannot help but reach for connection, and to hold out faith, however dim, that they will find it.

Rebecca J. Lester (via watercolourstorm)

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It's hard to believe in yourself when you're the only one

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It's hard when You know you're the only one that cares About your life And you stop caring too

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I give up Nothing is real Take this life from my veins

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I can't even be as heartless as you think I am.

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concept: my partner understands that sometimes things they do, no matter how minor, can upset me, and i’m not always apologizing for my seemingly uncalled for outbursts. my partner realizes that it’s partly their fault, even if they didn’t mean it, and i don’t have to push my own upset aside to be made to feel guilty about how I reacted, and i don’t end up just feeling like even more of an awful human being because of it…

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I fucking hate my life.

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