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What selfshipping is like

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Today, in "you are fucking kidding me" news:

One of my nerdiest friends converted about a year ago.

I found out today that his "Hebrew name" is...

are you ready for this...

BARUCH GLITCH!

He claims that "it's traditional in Essex to choose a Hebrew first name and a Yiddish middle name."

It's traditional in Essex.

First of all, the phrase "it's traditional in Essex" is slaying me. I'm picturing a Jewish community so rich and densely populated that you might have a tradition JUST IN FUCKING ESSEX.

Not even in the greater London area! JUST IN ESSEX

And second, he really named himself BLESSED GLITCH and it is genuinely the most cyberpunk thing I have ever heard.

And yes, he's trans. I feel like people are going to ask. I feel like it's essentially trans to name yourself something really cyberpunk. Although until now, I thought it was solely the domain of transfems.

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reverb room vs. anechoic chamber [x]

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In a truck stop bathroom washing my hands today and 2 boys, looked about 5 and 9, came in with their little sister who looked maybe 2. The following whispered conversation made my entire day

"We have to wait, there's a lady in here!"

"That's not a lady, he has a mustache! We can be in here!"

"Some ladies have mustaches! And she has boobs!"

"Well some guys have boobs! Like Uncle Jake!"

"Uncle Jake is fat!"

At this point I could not contain a chuckle and both whirled around with identical looks of panic on their faces. I smiled and said "it's alright for you guys to be in here so your sister has help, don't worry. And I'm both! That's why I have boobs and a mustache. Some folks are just built that way"

(In unison) "Ooooooh!"

(older boy) "So do you use Sir or Ma'am or both?"

"Both, but I prefer Sir"

"Cool! Well thanks Sir! We have to help our sister now!"

This was in a small town country truck stop and both boys had "Murica" type stuff on and neither of them had any issue at all with these concepts. Their mom approached me while I was in line about 10 minutes later and apologized for them bothering me in the bathroom (they had told her about the interaction) and she and I had a lovely little chat too. I got to introduce her to the term "intersex" and her reply was "I think I've heard of that before! I didn't know that was the word for it. Amazing how many different ways God can make people!"

Sometimes the world is good. More often than you might think, if you give it a chance. It's not all bad loves <3

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Maybe "people"? Maybe you mean "people" and not "persons"?

Maybe you mean "people"?

I think that you mean people and not persons. I think you mean people. Have you heard of "people"?

I think you mean people. I think that you mean people. I think that you mean people. I wonder if you are racializing these people by calling them persons when they're people? You know, would you call white persons persons? Would you call white persons people?

I mean, sometimes. If you're writing a fucking, idk, a... crime scene report? "There were six persons located in the apartment". Uh. Or maybe a maritime disaster report? I don't know when you normally say "persons". There are times. But.

I think, probably, that in this instance, which by the way is about an academic dispute, and you are an academic, well, I think that you mean "people", probably. Would be weird to say "persons" here. Pretty weird to say "persons" here. Pretty weird.

It's like bodies. You know, the whole "black and brown bodies" thing, I'm pretty sure it comes originally from art history. And when art historians say it they're speaking literally, they're talking about Orientalist paintings and shit, and talking about "black and brown bodies". You know, bodies, with the poses and the anatomy, in the painting, bodies, right, like you paint in your painting class?

Kinda odd when you're at a protest or uh, whatever, and you say black and brown bodies. Why are they bodies? Kinda odd.

Anyway I think this person means to say "people" I think she means "people". I don't think that she means persons.

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me every day without fail: I'll do [chore] when I get home

me when I get home:

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Star Trek: Deep Space Nine "Past Tense, Pt. 1"

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i made seasons greasons fanart

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I’m DONE ! I’m leaving now FOREVER and you CANT STOP ME no matter what I’m GOING !!!

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You bad bad boy. Where are mommy's nuclear launch codes

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something that should be taken with a grain of salt are the statistics talking about the high rates of mental illness + neurodivergence among trans people (ocd, bpd, adhd, autism, etc)

I see both sides of the political spectrum taking these studies at face value - conservatives say we're broken, and trans people try to come up with reasons why for example autism + gender dysphoria makes sense and why one of them feeds into another

at the end of the day you have to remember that we're the one category of people on this planet who are legally required to go see a psychiatrist in order to receive non-psychiatric medication and surgeries.

more trans people are in therapy by law than any other demographic of people, and as a result, this captures more comorbidities.

if I had to look at my own family & rates of mental illness?

mom, dad, 2 maternal aunts, maternal grandmother, paternal grandmother, sister, sibling, and me all have OCD.

7/9 of them are cishet, never been to therapy, never diagnosed. 2/9 are trans, required therapy for hormone treatment, and were diagnosed.

you don't have to do any math to just see that the resulting statistics end up intensely skewed.

and we can think back to how autism was virtually never diagnosed more than 50 years ago - ruling out any grandparents being included in statistics - and even my parents' generation (they're in their 60s now) wouldn't have been included either.

I don't think it's to anyone's benefit to accept these studies uncritically. a lot of these things are hereditary and far more prevalent in the overall population than people realize

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my thing with calling strangers eggs is like. if it's a dude saying "of course i'd rather be a girl, everyone wants to be a girl" okay yeah that's an egg. but if it's a dude wearing skirts and mascara and having hobbies like cross stitching and you're calling him an egg? you've wrapped back around to sexism. you've done a full pivot into "pink is for girls and blue is for boys" and you're actually the problem. cut it out. stop telling (gnc) people they're secretly trans because "a real woman would never like football!" come on.

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When was the last time you asked permission to go to the bathroom? Would you panic over running two minutes late? Is it normal to be constantly monitored at work, to have everything you do timed to the second? When was the last time you sold something to pay a bill? Do you have to wait to be searched for stolen goods after you work? Have you ever considered DIY dental surgery? Have you gone to work sick because you can’t afford to take unpaid time off? Have you had to supply a doctors note to prove you deserve that unpaid time off? Have you recently overdrawn your checking account, or had all your credit cards declined, or put exactly ten bucks of gas in your car?

Nearly everyone with influence in this country, regardless of political affiliation, is incredibly insulated from how miserable and dehumanizing the daily experience of work has gotten over the past decade or two. Many never had a service job. If I were to give my “in the weeds” poll to everyone with political clout — I’d bet everything I own that only a few would know the waitress definition.

(…) To people with education and influence, “in the weeds” is something academic, about small, unimportant details. It’s the footnotes. It’s something you observe from the outside. To everybody else, “in the weeds” is something you experience. It’s something you feel. It’s your life.”

—Emily Guendelsberger, On The Clock: What Low-Wage Work Did to Me and How It Drives America Insane