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i was in a thrift shop the other day and they were playing the most unsettling variations of normal christmas music, culminating in this rendition of the 12 days of christmas except it was like 12 guys all singing over each other and going “no!” and interrupting the lyrics with random other phrases until they deadass just started singing 5 golden rings to toto’s africa. can anyone confirm that this is a real song and not that i stroked so hard i astral projected into a universe where everything is somehow worse than it is here

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Happy Crowy Yule! It's a reall whose who of Yuletide.

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As a licensed therapist, let me tell you that the most success I’ve found with patients is not being uwu soft happy thoughts guy, and instead being someone that validates all the rage, anger, frustration and sorrow they have. Curbing it with fake positivity is unhealthy and self-destructive. Express it. If you need to cry, you cry, if we need to rage, we rage, if you aren’t good with words, we can do something more physical; I bought cheap plates one time, for this 16 year old girl who just couldn’t communicate and convey properly, then we smashed them together whenever our slow conversation touched on the things that truly hurt her, the idea being that giving a physical component to speech could help her organize ideas better, and it worked.

And after we get all that rage out of you, after we validate and shape it into something that’s nothing to be ashamed of and that needn’t be kept in a little cloister until it blows you to kingdom come, then we talk about how beautiful shit can be once rage and frustration are things you can grab by the throat. Yeah it’s not going to solve everything because a lot of psychological issues are symptoms of a greater root problem, and a lot of times, you don’t have mental illness, you simply don’t have money, but with that wholly on the table? Yeah it becomes easier to navigate potential solutions and increase resilience.

But seriously, “fake it until you make it” has a lot of merits but there’s a big red line that says “FAKE HAPPINESS” that you shouldn’t cross. Can’t blame you if you do, because we are taught “negative” emotions exist (they don’t) and that we have to repress and never ‘fail’. Fuck up a lot, and learn from it, learn how to get angry in a way that helps you and doesn’t hurt others. Way more productive than thinking happy thoughts.

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Floored by the fact that not feeling like shit really does boil down to just eating well and drinking lots of water and keeping screen time to a minimum and making lists and not obsessing over any one thing and reading books and like not putting things off and letting them fester forever. Self help books will never tell you this but sometimes it just is that simple

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(grabs you by the shoulders) you have to make room for new experiences in your life. you have to go through the unpleasant work of leaving your comfort zone, even if just for a few minutes at a time. because if you don't, your brain will trick you into stagnation. you will start to believe that the world can barely fit you in it. but that's not true. it's the opposite way around. you can fit the whole word inside of you. your task is only this: to welcome it with open arms

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an incomplete taxonomy of christmas music

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The manhunt just went nationwide five hours ago. They believe he's left NYC. I don't think y'all understand how serious it is for him to get away with this on an American Social scale. The police don't give a single fuck about 90% of Americans their job is to protect and serve property values and the rich. Even the company he worked for gave 0 fucks about him. That's how small a piece that high paying job is worth. But a linchpin is still a linchpin. The fact people realize direct action DOES INDEED lead to Change is a big issue for these shareholders. Because if we start taking action against CEOs eventually the population will start hunting the true villians. THEM. So they need to make an example of him. They need Americans to fear taking action against THEIR LOWEST RANKS and look back to their usual scapegoat POCs and each other. That's why they tried to describe him as "lightskined" when it first got out. Misdirection and distraction. Now that they know we rally him they can't let him be a symbol. Because they need Americans to focus on getting things back to "normal" instead of being brave and progressing. So while social media has definitely made us more aware it still gives them information to use against us. So yes once again I am saying be aware of what you post and reblog on any platform about this man. I get you want to celebrate him but don't make it easier for them to find him. Don't do their work for them.

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i love reading sad books bc when your own grief is stopped up inside you like a clogged drain you can grieve for a character on a page and understand that you're also grieving for yourself a little bit

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“When the handle has snapped off the basket that held all your eggs…” gone girl tier monologue

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"everybody hates me" factoid actually just a statistical error. The average person doesn't hate you, especially not your friends. You, a person who sits in your room experiencing self loathing every day, are an outlier adn should not have been counted.

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ADHD time blindness be like "oh, today is the 30th? that's fine, December is still next month, that's forever away!

...what do you mean tommorrow?"

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This made me stop and realize I have a headache

STOP. moment of gratitude for those precious times of breathing from your nostrils when you don't have a stuffy nose

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Little Dick and his chips in Batman #54