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I'm not one to bash het-partnered women/feminists, but I have an enormous issue with the "I just know how to choose a good guy" argument so let’s be real—believing you’ve found “one of the good ones” in the year of Gisèle Pelicot’s trial is a whole new level of delusional.

Frankly, I find it insulting to the countless women who have suffered at the hands of men. Do you think your ability to assess someone’s character is that much better than that of the millions—millions—of women across the globe who trusted men and were wrong? What makes you think that? Genuinely—why do you believe you’re better at this than they were? And how are you okay with implying that what those women endured was simply the result of a wrong choice they made? In your eyes, is it their fault? Was Gisèle stupid for believing, for 49 years of marriage, that her husband was a good man?

The reality is staring us all in the face, and yet so many are determined to cling to the fantasy that their man is somehow exempt from the patterns we see repeated time and time again. Love can be blinding, sure, but at what point does refusing to see the broader picture just become willful ignorance?

No one is saying your relationship is doomed or that he’s exactly like the men on trial, but it’s worth stepping back to consider how male entitlement, power dynamics, and societal conditioning might still be at play—even in your “good one.” Work on your ability to detect red flags. Work on your ability to choose yourself and walk away if you ever need to.

“But I love him!” I don’t doubt that. I’m not saying he’s a monster. I’m saying he’s a man, and men have shown us, time and time again, what they’re capable of. It’s simply unwise to ignore that reality because, for some unfounded reason, you believe you’re exempt from the fate that millions of women before you have suffered.

Love isn’t enough to override the structural truths we see every day. Stay vigilant. Stay wise.

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To the people claiming there were no signs of who Neil Gaiman really was, I have to ask, what would have been one? If writing an essay in defense of child pornography isn't a huge red flag, what is? If writing about young girls happily marrying adult men (Stardust), and adult men fantasizing about kissing young girls (Neverwhere), and young girls being demons who seduce and rape adult men, which is graphically described (Snow, Glass, Apples) doesn't make you even a little suspicious of the author, what would?

Like, you can say you didn't see the signs! That's fine! There are always signs that get missed! If none of them did, no predator would ever get a chance to victimize. And it doesn't make you a bad person to have missed them!

But the number of people insisting there were no signs with Gaiman and that everybody pointing out his depictions of women and girls now are doing so disingenuously is sending me. I think there other men who depict women and girls in similar ways and you don't want to be suspicious of them now, so you're ignoring it when this should be a wake up. Genuinely missing the signs doesn't necessarily say anything bad about you as a person, but wilfully ignoring them does.

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Funny how David Tennant, you know, the self-appointed defender of trans people can't muster even an inth of outrage about his friend and collaborator brutally raping women in the most painful ways possible, some of whom he inadvertently helped to lure into Gaimen's hands. It's almost as if he's just a performative men's rights activist and not a genuine soul concerned about the wellbeing of marginalized people.

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Crazy how the US government will ban tiktok for “protecting the kids” but wont touch the massive porn industry thats literally destroying young minds and fueling exploitation. Make it make sense.

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This aged like milk.

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love how even in an article about a man raping multiple women and leveraging his immense wealth over them, the author still has to clarify that "real" and consensual bdsm is totally fine. god forbid anyone tarnish the image of men who get off on consensually beating women

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It genuinely makes me really sad that there's such a large group of women who not only believe it's acceptable but also relish being degraded, abused, and treated as an object. My heart breaks for these women, and I wish it was easier to help them understand how they deserve better.

I will always, always be anti porn, anti kink, and anti sex industry. I know some women feel that these things are "taking" something from them, but. I hope some day these women will see that liberation doesn't come from giving men exactly what they want.

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men who hire prostitues are literally just rapists who buy the silence of their victims

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it's just funny how I a lesbian can think of a few times two ex-friends literally interrogated me about wether I would date a trans woman or not. being judged and called transphobic for saying i'm not sure (was afraid of saying no (I was 16 and surrounded by woke queers)). but when I talked to a gay men about this recently he said he never had anyone ask him if he would date a trans man in this interrogating and judging way.

why always lesbians? (also for context those "friends" both identified as non-binary)

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Every day I wake up and am provided new justifications for my misandry

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what the fucking fuck is this?? a: not the time and place but also b: WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS

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"gender roles are stupid" and "I'm afab, but I'm not a woman because I don't fit a certain image of womanhood" are two statements that cannot coexist unless you possess religious levels of cognitive dissonance

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A young female welder in Connecticut, c. 1943. Photo by Bernard Hoffman.

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"Men are just too lonely" every single recreational sports team is dominated by men. Bowling leagues, softball teams, touch football teams, disc golf, regular golf.

Men have access to social media platforms like Reddit. They dominate online gaming to the point where women get sexually harassed out of multi-player games.

They have sports stadiums and comic book shops. They dominate entire professions. They spend less time in the home doing housework than their wives and girlfriends.

Where are men not getting the community they need. They have almost the entire world. At this point they literally have whole countries. Do they really need more of it?

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a lot of hijab representation HAS to come from people who don't know any Muslims right? Especially on social media. It's always this cutesy, teehee, quirky thing - some people just *happen* to wear a veil, no worries though, they're still uber liberal tumblr users just like us!

And it's like???? Are you all incapable of respecting and seeing the Other unless you make them into a reflection of yourselves???? Do they think observant Muslims are more liberal than say, observant Christians, because Muslims are ~exotic~ and brown and therefore marginalized and *therefore* automatically uwu queer progressives?

It's baffling because I grew up in an all Muslim neighborhood (in europe, not the us) as a non Muslim and I have enormous respect for Muslim women but it's absolutely insulting to pretend most of them (or even many of them) would agree with any part of tumblresque ideology. Who is that representation even FOR except the narcissists who think they're good people because they're "inclusive"?? (When really that inclusivity is just slapping different coats of paint onto the same idealised ideological canvas instead of actually listening to people who *think* differently than they do)

Literally yes.

Muslims have been chosen as the uwu pet religion of white liberals. Like they think it's cool to be chill about this one religion in particular because it has a lot of brown people so much so they forget Islam is.............a hyper conservative religious movement of more than 1 billion followers and has established multiple ruthlessly authoritarian religious states on this globe.

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1207 days since since the Taliban banned teenage girls from school. 747 since the Taliban banned women from going to university. In just over three years, Afghan women have been banned from nearly every aspect of public life.

#LetAfghanGirlsLearn #FreeAfghanWomen