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The logo to this app changed overnight and my first thought was "It is far too early for Halloween shit, even for the people of spooky central."

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There's only one real way to categorise disorders and it's when you google it and the first results fit into one or more of the following categories:

1. "Is your child-" "Does your child-" "How to cope with the burden of being a parent for-"

2. "How to get better: Step One: have a lot of money!" "How to get better: Step One: simply stop having it!"

3. "10 Ways To Spot Sickopaths With This Disorder So You Can Protect Yourself" "The Bad People Disease -by Dr. Eugene X."

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Reblog for a larger sample size for no sample size at all, because obviously nobody will vote

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If you vote please reblog.

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thing Im genuinely curious about

pleas reblog for more results

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usb drives you find lying on the ground are modern day cursed amulets

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The Onion pulling zero fucking punches.

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I talk to many people who say things like "oh I have trauma but I don't have PTSD", but then when I talk to them a little more I realize that they most likely do, they just can't recognize it as such due to how lacking PTSD awareness is, even beyond the whole "it's not just a veteran's disorder" thing.

The main reason they think they don't have PTSD usually has to do with flashbacks and nightmares, either they have one but not the other or have neither. But here's the thing, those are only two symptoms out of the 23-odd recognized symptoms. Flashbacks and nightmares are two of the five symptoms under Criterion B (Intrusion), which you only need one of for a diagnosis. The other three symptoms are unwanted upsetting memories, emotional distress after being reminded of trauma and physical reactivity after being reminded of trauma (i.e. shaking, sweating, heart racing, feeling sick, nauseous or faint, etc). Therefore you can have both flashbacks and nightmares, one but not the other, or neither and still have PTSD.

In fact, a lot of the reasons people give me for why they don't think they have PTSD are literally a part of the diagnostic criteria.

"Oh, I can barely remember most parts of my trauma anyway." Criterion D (Negative Alterations in Cognition and Mood) includes inability to recall key features of the trauma.

"Oh but I don't get upset about my trauma that often because I avoid thinking of it or being around things that remind me of it most of the time." Criterion C (Avoidance) includes avoiding trauma-related thoughts or feelings and avoiding trauma-related external reminders, and you literally cannot get diagnosed if you don't have at least one of those two symptoms.

"Oh I just have trouble getting to sleep or staying asleep, but I don't have nightmares." Criterion E (Alterations in Arousal and Reactivity) includes difficulting sleeping outside of nightmares.

"But I didn't have many/any trauma symptoms until a long time after the trauma happened." There's literally an entire specification for that.

Really it just shows how despite being one of the most well-known mental illnesses, people really don't know much about PTSD. If you have trauma, I ask you to at least look at the criteria before you decide you don't have PTSD. Hell, even if you don't have trauma, look at the criteria anyway because there are so many symptoms in there that just are not talked about.

PTSD awareness is not just about flashbacks and nightmares.

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Blood loss? No I know exactly where it is

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"Nobody wants to work anymore!!!! >:("

So far, jobs I've applied to have lied to me about:

- where the job was. The posting listed a town a few minutes away from me, but the interviewer said I needed to commute to NYC 5 days a week, an hour plus for me.

- remote options. They promise remote work until the interview, when they tell you remote is no longer supported.

-the hours. A number have listed full time only to tell me they could only offer part time, but the worst offended told me I could only have 8hrs a week

- how much the job paid. Posting promised 20$hr, the interviewer said it was minimum wage, 12$ in NJ.

- that the job was paid at all. It listed something like 50k a year at the top, but reading the job description, revealed it was an unpaid internship

- the job itself. I applied for a graphic design position, but during the interview they told me that I had to work as a door to door salesman for their product for a year before I could be "promoted" into the job I actually applied for.

-hiding the fact that that it was a military job and that you have to enlist. Nope nope nope.

I dont know how much of it is employers just don't know how to use job posting websites properly (like the guy in South Africa who listed his location in nj) but I think if you post the pertinent information people are looking for and then contradict it later, you make it clear you don't respect the people you need to hire

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the word empathy is WIDELY misused, even in mental health spaces. 

empathy:

is responding to a person’s emotions by experiencing the same emotion as them (i.e. feeling sad when something sad happens to that person, or happy when something happy happens to that person.)

is an automatic response that cannot be controlled

cannot be learned

sympathy:

is recognizing that another person is in pain, even if you do not experience that pain, and offering comfort to that person

is something a person must actively choose to do

can be learned

compassion:

is showcasing care and support via words and actions

is something a person must actively choose to do

can be learned

if you need an example of a person with no empathy who practices sympathy and compassion, look no further than data from star trek: the next generation. he doesn’t have emotions at all, but he’s still kind to people and wants to help them.

stop telling people that they’re evil because they don’t experience empathy. stop equating empathy with morality. stop equating empathy with caring. stop saying that cruel people “lack empathy.” stop throwing neurodivergent and mentally ill people under the bus. 

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god i just watched a bit of a police department’s video recommending that you kick your teenage child out of their room every six months (more often if you’re specifically worried) and conduct a thorough search of their possessions to find hidden drugs and i just… that kind of adversarial approach to life and humanity is so evil. it’s just evil. to launch into this without even a mention of cultivating a relationship with your children. of maybe being able to talk to them. of anyone feeling trusted in a home

it’s just evil. police culture is so rotten to the core. anathema to love and healthy interactions

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Please tell me that I'm not the only one who will refuse to call facebook "meta".

I literally live in fandom spaces, if I search "meta" somewhere and facebook appears first I'm going to personally go kick zuckerberg's ass.