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love using “u” and “you” in the same sentence. variety is the spice of life and boy is it sexy

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the overwhelming desire to just exist without having to prove one’s worth in the false world of commodity and personality production

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i don't want to be a princess, i'm already a princess, just want to have a decent thight gap, w h a t ' s t h e f u c k i n g p r o b l e m

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Whenever I feel really depressed just hold me.

Hold me really tight and don’t let go until I stop crying.

Tell me you love me and won’t leave me.

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My boyfriend is perfect for my BPD. Haha.

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BPD relationships.

Having a girlfriend with BPD is literally the most frustrating thing you could ever put yourself through, but also the most enlightening. When you find someone that has BPD and you know everything that it entails, you see all the shit that happens to them and how it effects you (and Jesus fucking Christ it’ll effect you), you’re never going to look at love the same. If you love that person enough to be there and go through all they put you through and help them to control themselves better, I will never be able to respect you more. They are the most damaged and bruised. They don’t see what they’re doing, even after they do it, but in knowing that, if you stay, you deserve so much gratitude. They may be distant and they may be mean as hell to you at times, however the second you see them at their best, it is like no other. They have multiple people raging inside them and they are at constant war. It’s a war you really can’t help with aside from being there when they stroll back into their own mind, and the lights are back on. Patience is the only way you will find any form of peace.

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Things to understand when you have BPD and are going into a romantic relationship: 

- If they do not have BPD they are most likely not going to understand you as much as you would like- and thats okay. 

- They are not a councilor- and are not trained to help you in the best way possible. 

- Not everything is your fault- its okay to get a second opinion about something that may have happened (but do not get a second opinion from them)

- Find someone that you can vent/talk too about your relationship (that is not your significant other). 

- Be yourself, they need to know the real you before you pursue a relationship. 

- Learn how they are with people close to them- Learn the different things that makes this person react. With everything that is going on in your mind- you need someone that is going to help you for the better. 

- Do not plan on pursuing a relationship unless you are getting the help you need. You cannot take care of yourself and someone else. You are the only one that can save you. 

- They will do something to make you mad- they aren’t perfect- and this is very important. 

- Not everything is about you- if they are mad/upset there are a million other things it could be. 

- Make sure they are aware of the things that you are going through- do not talk yourself into putting a mask on. If they are aware in the beginning of who you are- then you will know if they are good for you or not. 

- Communication is the key- be open with them when you are having trouble. Express to them what you need in this moment. 

- When you are having an ‘Episode’ make sure that you do not text/call this person. ‘Rant Texting’ and acting ‘compulsive’ is common with people with BPD. 

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I think I just had a ‘honest controversial conversation’ about an ‘emotionally difficult topic’ with my boyfriend. And guess what all you *how-to-get-rid-of-your-bpd-gf-before-she-eats-you-up-alive*-idiots??? It’s because we spent a lot of time talking about my condition, about how it makes me feel and how it makes him feel. We were forced to talk to each other to make this work. Over and over again. We’re together for a year now, but I bet we know each other as if we’ve been through ages. Yes, a bpd gf might bring a bit of change to your life, but who says it’s for the negative? Who says it’s not worth it?

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For all of you out there who deal with someone with BPD on a regular basis

If you ever get angry at something they did or had an argument with them which ended with you storming off or going quiet, please make sure that you get back to them - within just a couple minutes if possible - to reassure them that you don’t love them any less because of what happened.

They feel guilty and go down the hole real quick so PLEASE even if you voice it in a really grumpy way because you are still mad… just ask them if they are alright.

When this happens, because it happens, it is normal in any kind of relationship, people don’t always agree with each other but anyway. Whenever this happens between me and my BPD person, after I go quiet for whatever reason, I usually come back with a passive agressive “Don’t do anything stupid”. I do this ‘cause I’m a grumpy cat when I’m mad but I still care and it normally does the job, since after that I make sure they are fine and my grumpyness fades away eventually. Win-win.

So PLEASE don’t forget to always remind them that you love and care for them. And especially in delicate situations such as arguments.

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I love those "signs you're a toxic friend" lists

I mean it’s great to know my mental illness makes me unworthy of friendship and companionship. I would rename their list “reasons borderlines should stay alone forever”

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