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"Um the lockdowns didnt work" no moron they didnt happen

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i don’t think tetris was invented i think it was discovered. like gravity

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A heart’s a heavy burden to bear

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We've seen lots of polls around authors saying it's not at all weird to get comments on old fic (it is in fact a delight!), but I'm curious about the other direction.

Life happens, writers can be shy or just get busy or simply not have the spoons to always reply right away even if they want to, and eventually it starts to feel like it might be weird to reply after a certain point. So:

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I think people assume being a monster fucker all your fantasies about monsters are sexual. In reality at least half of the time I’m like “if I was fucking a dragon I would NOT have to scrape ice off my windshield like this. This is bull shit”

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I dreamt that there was a new meme that went, “If I dids it, I dids it. If I didsn’t, I didsn’t.” There was a third line, but I forgot what it was.

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SO much about doing well is just not even giving your brain the time to sabotage you. Like deciding to just get started on a task before your brain could conjure up thoughts like “but there’s always tomorrow” “ruminate on this pointless thing instead” like sometimes you genuinely just have to put pen to paper and do

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submitted by @flowersandfashion 🌹🌸

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a big lesson for me was learning that most things are not as fragile as I’d believed. missing a class, or turning in a bad assignment, won’t instantly destroy your professor’s opinion of you. accidentally saying something harsh won’t make your friend want to end the friendship. it takes work to repair these things - it takes effort and research and sometimes a sincere apology - but you can do that because they’re not irreparably broken. what you’ve worked to build, in academia and in relationships and in life, is stronger and more enduring that your mind may teach you to believe. don’t let imagined fragility lead you to giving up

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"A conversation about fat justice, though, will require so much of each of us. People who don’t wear plus sizes will need to hear and believe fat people’s experiences—experiences that may differ from their own so dramatically as to strain credulity. They will hear stories of strangers mooing from a passing car or passersby throwing trash at fat people walking down a city street. They will hear stories of doctors telling their patients to stop shoving food in your face long enough to pay attention. Remarks like these are so deeply unkind that it’s hard to imagine why someone would think they’re acceptable to say out loud. But by the simple virtue of living in our bodies, fat people are seeing things straight-size people can’t yet—things that only happen in the presence of bodies like ours. Straight-size people will need to resist the urge to reject fat experiences out of hand because of a lack of context. Instead, they’ll need to find the context. They’ll need to look harder, to sharpen their vision. They’ll need to learn to see anti-fatness everywhere, because it is. Antifatness may not make sense to straight-size people. It doesn’t make sense to me, either. But straight-size people’s tasks will be threefold: not to buckle under the weight of their own discomfort, to stay in the conversation long enough to learn, and to take proactive action to counter anti-fat bias and help defend fat people.

Advancing fat justice will require a lot of fat people too. It will require us to take the risks we’ve taken so many fruitless times before—the risks of sharing our most challenging experiences of anti-fat bias, of opening our bodies and lives up to even more public conversation and debate. Ours will be the work of courageous and frightening vulnerability, of holding a standard of humanity, dignity, and respect that so many tell us we simply do not deserve. And it will be the work of building a bold vision for a more liberated world—for fat people, and for people of all sizes."

Aubrey Gordon, What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat

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when talk about disability & immigration, specifically “disabled people harder/not allow/cannot immigrate”, can we also like. be specific about. some group disabled people more affected n targeted than others? like disabled people who

with transmissible diseases & illnesses

HIV/AIDS

physical n mental disorders n disability that “may endanger public”

need (or assumed to need), or “depend on,” or “be burden on,” governmental support n benefits—like financial assistance, long term nursing home, group home, etc institutionalization

^ or likely become that in future

this incomplete list, n each government have different standard for each—like some countries ban you if you one of those, even if have own resources (like family) to support you.

n also want explicitly point out how vague some these are. how some these, is assume. is about future, you maybe in future need these so we deny now.

especially with right wing & facism rise in world. these disabled people often one of most vulnerable group people in own country. n they also group people most explicitly banned from escape to other countries. can we talk abt that too when we talk about blanket disability & immigration

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Whenever I take a long car ride I end up exhausted afterwards, and I’m always like “why am I so tired? I was just sitting around doing nothing all day.”

But the answer, it turns out, is I was doing something. Riding in a car jars your body in many directions and requires constant microadjustments of your muscles just to stay in place and hold your normal posture. Because you’re inside the car, inside the situation, it’s easy not to notice all the extra work you’re doing just to maintain the status quo.

There’s all sorts of type of work that we think of as “free” that require spending energy: concentrating, making decisions, managing anxiety, maintaining hypervigilance in an unfriendly environment, dealing with stereotype threat, processing a lot of sensory input, repairing skin cells damaged sun exposure, trying to stay warm in a cold room.

The next time you think you’re tired from “nothing”, consider instead that you’re probably in situation where you’re doing a lot of unnoticed extra work just to stay in place.

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told my 17 year old brother what it means for sound in a movie to be non-diegetic and he said it sounds like it would be a great insult, and he's right. non-diegetic motherfucker. you're not even part of my canon universe. i can't even hear you, that's how main character i am. this idiot isn't even diegetic.

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stylish older women remind me what it's really all about...

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Had an absolutely interminable meeting in work this afternoon, the type where you have to go in case something relevant to you happens but about 95% is completely irrelevant. But I knew that would happen, so in a rare moment of being organised I took my knitting.

And I was, I discovered, the most interesting thing in that room. 20+ people watched me knit for two and a half hours, utterly mesmerised. Everyone still spoke! The meeting was still done! Just with all eyes on my hands. Afterwards four different grown men told me they got so into it they forgot to listen

I did not realise I had such power but I intend to use it