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Good morning

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me as a mom

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As someone with pretty severe rejection sensitive dysphoria and social anxiety I’ve almost completely eliminated spiraling anxious thoughts about things I can’t control while laying down for bed with this one really simple trick and seriously, I cannot sing its praises enough:

Before I lay down, I know what I’m going to think about. 

What I mean is, before I get in bed to sleep, I say to myself “what calms me down? is it big enough to hold my attention for 10 minutes to a couple hours?” once I’ve said “okay this is it for tonight” I lay down, and whenever my thoughts start going to things that make me anxious or upset or spiral my thoughts, I go “no, we’re thinking about [this one thing]”. Maybe I have to ‘realign’ every 30 seconds, but it keeps me from spiraling into anxious despair. Personally for me, low key embarrassing, but for me it’s daydreaming and “writing” in my head. I go “we’re writing this story tonight” and whenever I start the process of spiraling I start everything over again. 

Just pick something relaxing, very thought consuming, and be BRUTAL about going “no, we’re thinking about THIS” and do it over and over and over again–as soon as your thoughts go slightly somewhere else, realign, start over.

Seriously, I used to lay awake for actual hours crying with anxiety and consumed with depression. For most of my life before I learned this trick I couldn’t control my thoughts for more than a few minutes if I was having a bad anxiety day–sometimes even on good days. Don’t doubt this trick, if you have ADHD or anxiety (or anything else that makes your thoughts run wild), give it a serious try. It really, really works.

Don’t lay down until you have decided on something to think about that isn’t anxiety inducing, when your thoughts start to spiral, tell your brain “we’re not thinking about that right now, we’re thinking about [this calming thing]”. It works. It really really does!

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I’ve seen this panel going around a fair bit, and each time, somebody in the notes expresses concern about whether He-Man should be holding that hand.

If you’re one of those people, allow me to assure you that there’s no cause for alarm: the hand He-Man’s holding is not the fist with which Fisto fists.

This is the fist.

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Unlearning How White People Ask Personal Questions

http://www.samefacts.com/2014/05/culture-and-civil-society/unlearning-how-white-people-ask-personal-questions/

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“catholic/jewish/muslim guilt” oh you mean like understanding and being aware of your capacity for evil and harm? you mean like knowing that your actions have consequences? 

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BUZZFFED UNSOLVED (2016-2021)

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Little gem from Reddit

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Teacup Creatures

Ah Wei Workshop on Etsy

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Really cold weather

(via)

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you know the post

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NATASIA DEMETRIOU as NADJA OF ANTIPAXOS ⤷ 2.01 Resurrection 🤘 / 3.10 The Portrait ✌️️

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one time i went up to my friend (also my coworker) and gave him hug from behind and just like held him there for a moment and our one regular client walked in and was like "huh....so are you guys like....winnie the pooh and piglet?" and i lost my fucking mind. what does that mean. i also said yes and that i was pooh.