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[lambiestar]

i'd be rlly sad if we didnt get a south downs scene in gos3 where crowley and aziraphale slow dance to a nightingale sang in berkeley square......it would be so cute 🥺

someone write a fanfic for it pls i cant stop thinking about this now

[lambiestar]

1A for Crowley (good omens)

Just a baby

[lambiestar]

[Text: This system wishes everyone a happy New Year!]

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rosie love love love being host and a little!! rosie just as capable as other alters ^^

-rosie (she/they)

[Text: This little is a host.]

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☆° Bath time Stimboard °☆

ˏˋ°•*⁀➷ Squeaky clean!!

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*Mutual reblogs something you posted*

Me: They still like me. Thank God.

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hewo tumblr dot com XDD!! juz came out of som weird state of mind an m back in control!!!!!!! (u guyz have no clue who i am XD)

I'm rune!!! u can uze all pronounz 4 me but i prefer xe/xems!!!!!!

i do type "strangely", but you can ask for translations :3!!!!

gona be friendz with yall!! cant wait X3!!!

[lambiestar]

[Text: This system doesn't experience headaches, they experience extreme dizziness.]

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"Stop infantilizing syskids"

Y-you do realize kid is in the name- right? It's not infantilization, syskids can know things most singlet kids don't, but that doesn't make them less children. Our alter 10 isn’t suddenly not 10 years old just because they know what sex is.

"But they're in an adult body"

That literally justifies nothing. Syskids still function like children because internally and when they front they are still CHILDREN. They have the mind of a child even if they know what sex is, are sexual, etc. They're still a child. Our 11 year old alter that knows the ins and outs of sex and relationships isn't still suddenly able to consent BECAUSE THEY'RE STILL 11!

Hell, The Wife has a child that is 5 in our system that our ex groomed into being sexual with him. But they "consented" right? They were in a 16 year old body, so they could understand in this case right?

NO! THEY STILL DON'T UNDERSTAND EXACTLY WHAT HE WAS WANTING THEM TO DO AND AT POINTS STILL FEEL DISGUSTED WITH THEIR BODY AS A 5 YEAR OLD IN OUR SYSTEM! GET YOUR NASTY ASSES OUT OF HERE! - 💌

[lambiestar]

we got all of them except the high alter count and lack of amnesia :3 /gen

Space themed System ask game based on common fakeclaim "criteria" because these things are valid and cool actually

🛰-Do you have a large headcount?

👾-Do any alters in your system have typing quirks?

🚀-Does your system have any Non-human alters?

☄️-Is your system neurodivergent?

🔭-Does your system use neo Pronouns?

🌠-Do any of the alters in your system have dyed hair?

🌙-Are there any nonverbal alters in your system?

🪐-Does your system have Angry or "dangerous" persecutors?

💫-Do your littles use 'little-speech?'

🌌-Does your system have little to no amnesia between switches?

🌟-Does your system have fairly clear communication?

🌘-Do you have a large or complex headspace?

🛸-Do any alters in your system have exo-memories?

👽Does your system have any tics?

☀️-is your system bad at masking?

✨️-Do any alters in your system have an accent?

🌎-Do any alters in your system speak in a different language?

☁️-Does your system use things like pluralkit and simply plural?

⭐️-are you out about being a system?

This will probably flop but!!! I had fun making it<3

Endos and their supporters dni :')

[lambiestar]

dude elodie is gonna miss their birthday bro needs to come back

-hex (he/it)

[lambiestar]

For the ask game: ✨, 🌙, ❤️

✨ - uhh,, we have about,, 5? 6? non human alters.

🌙 - we only have like,, 4 fictives, but our weirdest source has to be lalaloopsy.. we have a dot starlight fictive

❤️ - yep, most of our alters have their own sort of unique interests, feel free to send in asks about it if u want!!

-hex (he/it), allie (they/them)

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[Text: This system has many littles (and is ashamed about it).]

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🌙 how many nonhuman alters

🩸 how many vampire alters

🃏 silliest headmate?

💯 how many alters are in your system?

⏰ who are the most frequent fronters?

✨ which headmate has the weirdest source?

📚 do any headmates have typing quirks?

❤️ do any headmates have interests that nobody else in the system does?

🔪 are there any dangerous alters?

🍼 do your littles use baby talk?

🍓 do any headmates use neopronouns?

👑 does your system stim or tic?

🫶🏼 do any headmates have an accent?

OKAY HAVE AT IT HAVE FUN :D

[lambiestar]

tw: dormancy mention

yo. tumblr. might need some help. so like. our host of 8 years (elodie) went dormant a few weeks back after a major trauma went down. how to cope. plz send help. i'm just being blunt. i dont know how to help anyone in our system at this point and im fuckin useless

-sincerely, the new co-host (because apparently our 5yo is now the host), Hex. (he/it)

[lambiestar]

Friendly reminder that you do NOT owe anyone information about your headmates/alters/parts and this can be even things as simple as names and pronouns, and you do not absolutely have to sign off of every post.

Us personally, we feel really uncomfortable giving out any information about us unless we’re comfortable with the person we’re giving it out to. Currently only one person in real life know we’re a system, and a few others online. We don’t even sign off regularly when interacting with those people, as we don’t see a need to. This is also generally for our own safety, as we don’t want people to completely know us as a system when we’re still figuring out ourselves.

And on another note, this NOT to bash systems who make intros, use sign offs, etc. That is perfectly fine if you’re comfortable doing so; this post is mostly for newly discovered systems who may think they owe people all of the information about their system.

If you sign off posts, cool! If you don’t, that’s fine too!

If you make an intro, awesome, it’s nice to meet you! If you don’t, that’s okay.

You don’t have to be overt, even in system-aligned spaces, however I do understand the freedom in being able express yourself outwardly.

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Petition for people on this godforsaken website to stop querying about whether xyz random experience “qualifies” as RAMCOA/TBMC/programming. I literally cannot go anywhere on this site these days without stumbling across the absolute worst takes where people ask strangers on the internet whether their experiences count as RAMCOA, or if TBMC could happen in X setting with one (1) person, or if having an alter who’s triggered by Y thing means they’re programmed.

It’s absolutely infuriating because the vast majority of the answers given to these questions is yes, which is WILD to me because literally 1) words mean things and no, RAMCOA doesn’t only involve psychological abuse; it is quite literally hands on, and no, it can’t be done with one person because it quite literally is always a form of organized abuse, and 2) it is so fucking irresponsible to tell a person you’ve never met and know nothing about that their alter is having a programmed reaction when what the asker is describing is very likely a common conditioned trauma response. Like sometimes the most likely explanation IS the correct explanation!! And regardless, this is something they should explore with a safe, trusted, experienced irl human, not a stranger on the internet!

Like dude! What the fuck! How did we get here?? Why is everyone craving RAMCOA experiences and wishing for programmed alters?? Why are people desperately trying to jam their experiences into very specific boxes that mean very specific things?? Religious abuse is not RA! Conditioning is not programming! Psychological abuse is not TBMC! Most forms of abuse are not OA! Please for the love of everything, try to accept that you don’t need to try and make your experiences fit into these labels in order for your experiences to be bad! They don’t need to be RAMCOA in order for people to take you seriously! Or to believe that you suffered! Or to agree it was bad enough! I promise!

These words mean things and the meanings were not created by people on tumblr and the meanings have existed for decades and have been in use by professionals in the field for an equal length of time. Stop watering down the experiences of RAMCOA survivors by trying to make xyz random trauma fit into labels that exist to describe and define very specific forms of abuse that result in very specific types of systems and symptoms. It’s really not cool, we can tell that you don’t know what you’re talking about, we know you don’t actually have the experiences you claim to have, and it’s very fucking upsetting and insulting! You don’t need to claim to be like us in order to get the support you deserve!

When I first joined DID tumblr like five years ago, there was nothing in the RA tag, and there wasn’t even really a RAMCOA tag at all. And now the RAMCOA tag has multiple people using it every day and it honestly really just exploded within the past year or so. It has been wild to see! I’m not mad about fellow survivors finding each other and telling their stories. I’m not upset that people are being more open about their experiences and are naming it what it is. But I AM upset about this huge flood of people claiming/wanting to claim certain labels for themselves when they don’t have the experiences that fit within the definitions of those labels, and I am upset about the rampant misinformation about what these forms of abuse actually entail, and I am upset about people saying that randos on tumblr fit these definitions when they can’t possibly know that.

It’s just so fucking invalidating. It’s so insensitive. And it’s also dangerous. This isn’t game. This isn’t a “collect them all” trauma scavenger hunt. This isn’t something to be envied or sought after. This isn’t something that makes you a more valid or legit survivor than someone else. This isn’t something that gives you cool points.

Being a RAMCOA survivor is awful. It means having a horrific time finding a therapist who knows how to help you, because even most DID specialists don’t have enough knowledge in this area to help you without setting off programs or making things worse. It means not being able to use most run of the mill DID recovery guides because none of them address the intricacies of dealing with hierarchies and abuser-loyal parts. It usually means having a polyfragmented system and all the confusion and overwhelm and awfulness that comes from that. It means having survived unspeakable horrors that most people would never even dream of and that many people don’t even believe in.

I know this rant won’t stop any of this, that it won’t stop the misinformation or stop people from trying to claim things that don’t belong to them, but I just can’t stay quiet about it anymore. It’s so painful and aggravating how these trends make things so much harder and more isolating for actual survivors.