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Straight culture’s orientation toward heteroromantic sacrifice is also influenced by socioeconomic class. Respect for sacrifice—or sucking it up and surviving life’s miseries—is one of the hallmarks of white working-class culture, for instance, wherein striving for personal happiness carries less value than does adherence to familial norms and traditions. Maturity and respectability are measured by what one has given up in order to keep the family system going, an ethos that is challenged by the presence of a queer child, for instance, who insists on “being who they are.” Queerness—to the extent that it emphasizes authenticity in one’s sexual relationships and fulfillment of personal desires—is an affront to the celebration of heteroromantic hardship. As Robin Podolsky has noted, “What links homophobia and heterosexism to the reification of sacrifice . . . is the specter of regret. Queers are hated and envied because we are suspected of having gotten away with something, of not anteing up to our share of the misery that every other decent adult has surrendered to.”

For many lesbian daughters of working-class straight women, opting out of heterosexuality exposes the possibility of another life path, begging the question for mothers, “If my daughter didn’t have to do this, did I?” Heterosexuality is compulsory for middle-class women, too, but more likely to be represented as a gift, a promise of happiness, to be contrasted with the ostensibly “miserable” life of the lesbian. The lesbian feminist theorist Sara Ahmed has offered a sustained critique of the role of queer abjection in the production of heteroromantic fantasies. In Living a Feminist Life, she notes that “it is as if queers, by doing what they want, expose the unhappiness of having to sacrifice personal desires . . . for the happiness of others.” In The Promise of Happiness, Ahmed argues, “Heterosexual love becomes about the possibility of a happy ending; about what life is aimed toward, as being what gives life direction or purpose, or as what drives a story.” Marked by sacrifice, misery, and failure along the way, the journey toward heterosexual happiness (to be found with the elusive “good man”) remains the journey.

Jane Ward, The Tragedy of Heterosexuality

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I know that realistically you can only fit so many movies into a list of approximately 100, but I cannot take that "How many of tumblr's favorite movies have you seen?" list that's been going around seriously because there are some truly egregious omissions.

Some of it is very clearly recency bias, which makes me wonder if the op truly wasn't on here in 2013 or so, but you're telling me you made a list of "tumblr's favorite movies" that doesn't include Pacific Rim or Mad Max: Fury Road? Because, like, I was there, Gandalf.

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I just have one episode left to be up to date with yellowjackets and thank God bc I need to start talking about this with someone right now

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one of my sexual fantasies is to have someone notice my absence and wonder about me

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Hannibal's flirtations are so intimate it drives me crazy. "You just came here to look at me." "When life becomes maddeningly polite, think about me." He makes himself the subject--Will should look at him, think about him. I'm at the heart of your issue; indulge in me. The second line is especially sensual--the contrast between the aggressive 'maddeningly' with the soft 'polite'; when life drives you crazy from its impersonality, you'll find your relief in me; in your thoughts about me.

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reunited

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it's so fucking odd that Will got married. It shows just how much he truly was in love with Hannibal and considered him an actual life partner, cause tell me how???? this man on his late thirties who had been single and isolated by choice, meets his soulmate, everything goes wrong and then he cannot deal with loneliness anymore and suddenly gets married. no wonder Molly is such an important element of reinforcement for hannigram...

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"I'm curious whether either of us can survive separation" goes harder when we remember that Will and Hannibal were solitary before meeting each other. Will wanted but couldn't bear company; Hannibal had but didn't need company. They met each other, got tangled up with each other, realised no one else knows them as much as they do nor can they. It must feel insanely addictive and reckless—to have a part of someone in you and be a part of someone to such an extent that you question if living would be as fun or interesting without them in your life, especially because you thought that kind of company wasn't for you.

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holy trinity of murder spouses

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uh oh i miss something i can’t name again. i want to go home to something that doesn’t exist again. does anyone have a gun

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Just finished yellowjackets season 2 okay this is getting fucked up

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have you considered rewatching Hannibal today?

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ALL THE BELLS SAY

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"nobody uses whatsapp" in what world do you live