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Results are in!

A majority of you said you would stick around and be supportive in some capacity, but roughly a third of you felt it would be too much and you would leave. Maybe for good.

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Magic eight ball says . . . most of you are feeling pretty jaded.

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Results are in!

This one was close, but a narrow majority of you felt that Brand Karlie did take a hit when the world decided she 'betrayed' Taylor, and Taylor let it stand.

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Results are in!

The majority of you think eye theory is just too compelling to ignore 🕵️

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Results are in!

Roughly a quarter of you believe in Going Anon, but the vast majority of you don't trust them at all. It looks like a no-go.

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Results are in!

Almost a quarter of you believe or want to believe in 🌋 anon, but the majority of you are willing to defame this volcano, and Taylor's bodyguard taking her pet Anthropologie candle for a pap walk wasn't enough to convince you.

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Results are in!

Roughly a fifth of you believe 🎃 is the real deal. Roughly another fifth want to believe, but for almost half of you, it's a no.

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Results are in!

Most of you were neutral on Joe. He did the job he signed up to do, and left no lasting impression 📝 🤝 ✅

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Results are in!

The majority of you are ambivalent about Josh. Only about 15% of you have a problem with him. For most people, he's just kind of . . . there. Like sales tax. Or humidity.

He is the man with no face.

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Results are in!

The majority don't approve Travis. Or his taste in shirts. But 7.5% are on a mission to make him their man, so . . . there's a silver lining for him.

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Results are in!

Roughly 40% of respondents believe Kaylor are still together. The majority (over half of those surveyed) believe they were together but have since broken up, with the majority of those people placing the break-up as occuring during the Lover era.

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Results are in!

Tom Hiddleston nudges ahead of the competition to claim victory, with Joe Alwyn and Taylor Lautner following him to second and third place, respectively.

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Results are in! Reputation walks away with the crown, and it wasn't even close.

She is that girl.

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I've been polling the state of Kaylor nation for one week now. It's turning into a wild ride! Today I learned I've been accused of being a fake Kaylor, fake neutral, and a plant for Joe Alywn. (I think.)

Guys, I wish I was that exciting.

To those who asked: don't worry, I'm not offended by all this. I appreciate your concern, but I don't think anyone who has taken the time to read my blog could believe those things about me. I'm not some evil interloper infiltrating the fandom with ill intent.

I'm not afraid to touch controversial subjects, but I try to represent the full range of opinion and be fair and even-handed to everyone. If people have a problem with me, then I might (respectfully) suggest they take a look in the mirror and ask themselves if I really am the problem. Or if they just don't like that I'm daring to ask certain questions, and that I give respect to viewpoints they would choose to censor. And they're lashing out at me as a result. (Because I suspect that's what's actually happening here.)

I'm not upset about it. Sometimes people read you wrong, and spread that misinterpretation to others instead of coming to you and just . . . asking. It's disappointing, but it happens.

I would have said as much on the post in question, but reblogs are turned off. Hopefully this post puts the whole thing to bed.

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My personal take on the ‘were Karlie and Taylor ever together’ question you posed is that before I came out to myself and also when I was newly out, I had a lot of really volatile, extremely close friendships where I was too clingy, touchy, and even kissy. A few friends even liked the attention and played into it—one in particular liked to basically domme me while repeatedly confirming she was straight… But giving my poor queer heart confusing amounts of hope when she ‘jokingly’ grabbed my tits or duct-taped me into a kneeling position for movie night. We were never together—this was before the term situationship, or I might have seen it for what it was—but that relationship defined most of my high school years. (Yeah, high school, I know.)

When you’re a pathological people pleaser, even if you see all the warning signs, even if you’re told flat out someone has no romantic interest in you… Sometimes they become your whole world. And sometimes they then abruptly get a boyfriend and stop talking to you because they don’t need whatever they were getting from you anymore.

To me, Karlie is the one that got away. She’s the one who haunts her what ifs. The one who betrayed her but didn’t betray her but she did… The one she can’t let go of despite that because that time was so magical and volatile and passionate. It can’t have all been for nothing. It can’t have all been for a lark. It must have meant something to the other person, too.

So they were friends, and then they were in a situation that was friendship set on fire, and then Taylor retreated to lick her wounds and try to heal her heart but kept ruminating on the good times.

I also think the Joe Alwyn thing started off as a bearding relationship but got messy internally as things went on because she got attached and he never did, which was just a repeat of Karlie in different terms. And it wasn’t his fault but it hurt her all the same.

I totally understand that this is going to be the sort of opinion that everyone hates. 😅 I also understand that I’m projecting, but until Taylor tells us otherwise, I figure there’s no harm in it. It’s just how her music resonates with my own story. Sometimes your worst heartbreak isn’t an ex, it’s a straight girl who told you exactly what you were getting yourself into and a queer little heart overflowing with love that fooled itself into believing a lie.

I could do a whole lyrics explanation for this take, but I’m a little worried that it would make the whole community hate me, which is why I haven’t posted about it. What do you think? Would I just get blocked into the shadow realm and no longer get to enjoy the community?

Hey, anon. Usually when I get an ask, I try to incorporate it into a poll that expresses their point of view. But yours is something a little different, so I'm going to answer it a little differently.

The first thing I'll say is that I think a lot of women here can relate to your experience with your high school friend. I think a lot of people reading this will be wincing in recognition, and, like me, feel sorry you went through that. Even though sometimes, these things do make you stronger, or help you find yourself in some unexpected way. And in years to come you look back on them and think "that was horrible, but you know what? I'm glad I went through it". I get the impression you're in the processing stage, making your way to that end point, and I think it's more relatable than you might assume.

On to the Taylor / Karlie, Taylor / Joe of your ask . . . I think you're self-aware in calling these theories projection, and I think you're probably right that most people in Gaylor / Kaylor land aren't going to agree with that interpretation. Radio silence is the most likely outcome if you post your theories - but people can be cruel when they become defensive, and it's possible you would have to contend with some nastiness too. I've been running neutral or straight-up light-hearted polls for a week now, and have posted twice making clear that I'm doing this for the fandom, and that I don't condone nastiness or bullying of any kind. It hasn't stopped people accusing me of being a plant, a "reformed" Kaylor (whatever that means) and a bad actor who is only pretending to be neutral. As part of some evil plan? Who knows. The point is, people will always be people, and you probably will have to contend with some of that if you put your opinions out there. You're the only one who can decide if the trade-off is worth it. I can find the humor in most things, but not everyone is like that. There's no shame in deciding it's all too much of a headache.

It does sound like this interpretation of Taylor's lyrics really resonates with you, though, and it seems like you've put a lot of thought into it. I'm going to throw out a suggestion. Maybe you're looking at this from the wrong point of view? I know the temptation to map real life onto Taylor's work is ever-present, because she has presented her work as autobiographical since she was a teenager. As fans we can get stuck in that, and think that's the only valid way to talk about her songs. We become detectives and say "this song is Taylor talking about this event". And that can all be great and true. But at the end of the day, art is art, and once it's out in the world, it's okay for the audience to start making it their own.

Take the Betty / James / August love triangle. That was something fans came up with, not something Taylor herself intended. She ran with it more and more as the fan conversation picked up, and now it is what it is - accepted fan lore, to the point that people forget it wasn't her original plan with the songs. I think Taylor had her own reasons for embracing this interpretation, but the point remains - it is a great way to read those songs. It's fun, thought-provoking, and it adds something to the experience of listening, if you imagine them as all being interconnected in this fictional universe.

Maybe there's a way to put that strong sense of connection you feel, between your experience and Taylor's songs, into the fan space, in a way that might strip away the noise and acrimony, and let people relate to the feeling instead? It could be anything. An essay about what those songs meant to you, an animatic telling a story, a video edit for a fandom you love. Whatever you feel like. I think as Kaylors / Gaylors we can get a little stuck on being 'the only ones who see Taylor's truth', and it becomes the default way we interact with her work. But it doesn't necessarily have to be like that.

Maybe you're just . . . stuck in the wrong mode, if that makes sense. Maybe there's a less stressful way to get that energy out, and find the kind of fan community you crave. The kind that says "I know how you feel - that hit me the same way too", and not the kind that offers a thousand reasons why you're wrong. Or becomes so annoyed by what they see as your pushing of incorrect facts, that they become angry and attack you. I'm getting the impression you don't necessarily believe-believe the real life elements of your theory? So I understand why you're reluctant to invite all that negativity into your space. The feeling the songs give you is what really matters, and I think that's what you're actually burning to share and have validated. I don't know you - this is just what I'm getting from your ask - but I think you might be trying to channel something great through an outlet that just isn't right for it. I hope you figure it out and I wish you all the best ✨