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Dear J

How should I start this? Uhm, tbh I just went on bumble to talk to people and also due to the fact that I was just longing for a company. At first, I thought we were just gonna be doing cool stuff and move on. You kept complimenting me and even thought, we were bagay. Days passed and you let talk me to you while I was working from home. Although you were a jerk and you were so inconsistent, I am still grateful that you made me feel butterflies in my stomach once again. It's been a long time since I talked to a guy. Thank you and hope you're doing great in Spain :) Love, Lara Jean jk "Kim"

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My life is a mixture of HIMYM and TATBILB

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@unorthodox-oblivion asked any fandom + favorite female character ⤷ Tracy McConnell/The Mother, How I Met Your Mother

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It's always about how you make people feel.

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True independence means building your own life, paying your own bills, and living on your terms—not relying on anyone else. Don’t claim the title if it’s not earned. Independence is more than a label; it’s a lifestyle we’ve worked hard for.

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Curly Yumeko is hot🔥

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The weird guy included her travel wishlist as main prize two years in a row. She hopes he does the same this year, not because she wants to win it. She just wants to confirm something. lols

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Jabami Yumeko

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If he's not worth singing "I Turn To You", he's not the one.

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If people have horribly wronged you and you find yourself raging, just let yourself. You can’t force yourself to be fine after being traumatized.

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Accountability Over Assumptions: The Power of Words and Respect

People these days often use certain terms as a defense mechanism rather than taking accountability for their words or actions. Instead of admitting their mistake, they rely on dismissive labels or attempt to gaslight the person they’ve wronged, downplaying the impact of their statements. Take this scenario as an example: Imagine you’re an independent person who has worked hard to afford your lifestyle. You live on your own, handle your finances responsibly, and don’t rely on anyone else to make ends meet. Yet, certain people—perhaps out of jealousy, spite, or simply the need to demean others—decide to label you a "sugar baby," a term that implies you’re dependent on someone else’s money to support your lifestyle. They make these comments without knowing anything about your personal sacrifices or the hard work you put in every day. When you confront them about the hurtful lies they’ve spread, rather than apologizing or reconsidering their words, they simply brush you off by saying, "You're overthinking." It’s a way to avoid taking responsibility for the harm they’ve caused, invalidating your feelings in the process. They refuse to acknowledge that their words were damaging and inappropriate, turning the tables by suggesting that you are the one at fault for "overreacting" or "imagining things." In reality, this response isn’t about defending themselves from an accusation; it’s about maintaining control by belittling your perspective and refusing to own up to their actions. This tactic leaves you feeling unheard and dismissed, all because they lack the humility to admit they were wrong. It’s a classic example of how some people use dismissive language to dodge accountability and manipulate the narrative in their favor.

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I don't like people who use overthinking as a defense mechanism instead of admitting their mistakes.

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There are two types of men: 1. The one who will compare you to every single women they have met. If they're always at clubs and bars, they will compare you to sugar babies and escorts. These men don't know about independent women. These men don't know about real queens, the smart, independent and capable ones. 2. The men who celebrate women. The men who appreciate independent, smart and capable women. These men would love to give you what they could offer and what they feel you deserve even without asking for it. Not necessarily material but, anything that he thinks you deserve. Be it loyalty and care. Please choose the latter.

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My Childish Romances in College (this is wholesome)

The most remarkable of the guys I went out with (Well, it was just once or twice) was the most notorious chic boy during college. Yes, he talked to a lot of girls but people never knew he was the most gentleman you would ever meet. I remember walking down with him from the pub he was drunk but... he never dared to touch me. There was this instance when he was about to touch me but held back. Yes. He was the nicest guy I have met. Next to him was this bubbly guy during my senior year. I was so frustrated with the guy I was sort of dating at that time? Though I was really fond of him, I was already seeing this other guy. So, I got really drunk during our last bonding with my classmates. He was my classmate by the way. The last thing I can remember was I was being so touchy with him and I was about to kiss him and then I blacked out and forgot what happened next. My classmates never confirmed what happened that time. lol. Tho, I really think we kissed. (sorry to my future husband) He was really cute by the way. I like his nose and the shape of his face. By now he might be already married or worse, fat. If there is one person I would like to meet again, it would be him given that he's not fat yet. LOL I won't mind if the guy I'm gonna marry would read this like, we all went through puberty lols.

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Like Ted, I have some quotes and cheesy notes for the guys I liked.

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The problem with us Filipinos is that we close our minds to the idea of celibacy. Which is why most "religious women" lie in front of the altar. We force that conservatism that is actually already dead at this day and age. There are lots of cases of pre-marital pregnancy not just sex but pregnancy. Many couple fall into the trap of being together because they failed to use measures to prevent pregnancy. Sad thing is, these couples then find themselves in conflicts and ends up getting annulled (predivorce days). We fail to inculcate those sex ed in high school. We unfortunately remain ignorant in these topic. We close ourselves to the idea of having one person in our entire life. That is why, a lot of us end up getting annulled because some married under the idea that they should only end up with the one they first laid their eyes on. We're not realistic enough to open ourselves to meeting people and really dive into what we really want in a person. A lot of men fall into the trap of loving their wives when in reality, they regret the day that they got married. They regret the fact that they let themselves miss the chance of meeting a better person.