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The Gift & Power Of Emotional Courage

https://ted.com/talks/susan_david_the_gift_and_power_of_emotional_courage?utm_source=sms&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=tedspread–b

This TedTalk shares a wonderful perspective on our beliefs around our feelings and emotions. I felt it was worth sharing.

  In love Jim

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A Life Lesson Reminder About  ❤️ Sometimes we lose site of the simple things about life! Which one do you choose?

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10 Way to Build and Preserve Better Boundaries

10 Way to Build and Preserve Better Boundaries

10 Way to Build and Preserve Better BoundariesBoundaries are essential to healthy relationships and, really, a healthy life. Setting and sustaining boundaries is a skill. Unfortunately, it’s a skill that many of us don’t learn, according to psychologist and coach Dana Gionta, Ph.D. We might pick up pointers here and there from experience or through watching others. But for many of us,…

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When I Let The Light In – Lesson 3

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WHEN I LET THE LIGHT IN-Lesson 2

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WHEN I LET THE LIGHT IN -Lesson 1

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Anger: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Being Angry? 

There are going to be people who feel comfortable expressing every emotion on the spectrum and then there are going to be others who are not in the same position. When someone does feel comfortable with their emotions, they are not going to deny how they feel.

This will allow them to not only be honest with themselves; they can also be honest with others. And during those moments when it is best…

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Healthy Guilt vs Unhealthy Guilt Guilt is the feeling that results when you tell yourself that you have done something wrong.

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How To Say "No" Without Feeling Guilty 

How To Say “No” Without Feeling Guilty 

Is it nearly impossible for you to say “no” to a person without feeling guilty, no matter how unreasonable the request may be? If you can almost never say “no” to a person — whether it’s your boss or significant other — without feeling terrible afterwards, then you have a hard time prioritizing your needs over the needs of others. You should say “yes” when you feel that the task is manageable,…

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10 Helpful Ways To Forgive Yourself & Set Yourself "Free"! 

10 Helpful Ways To Forgive Yourself & Set Yourself “Free”! 

Have you ever noticed how you can hold on to past mistakes long after they occurred? Some of us hold on to things for years!

Forgiveness is a process. It does not happen over night and the process will be different for everyone. But no matter how long it takes, there’s hope! Here are some steps you can take toward that journey:

Become clear on your morals and values as they are right now.

The…

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10 Ideas to Help With Loneliness

Have you ever been lonely in a crowd? Have you ever been perfectly content all alone? 

Loneliness is a complex mental and emotional phenomenon that has at its base a powerful emotion that has survival value for children. All of us have experienced some degree of abandonment, if only for a short time, and remember the painful and scary feeling that goes along with it.

Whenever we are reminded of…

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12 Tips for Recovering from Emotional Pain by Jim Villamor 

Have you noticed how afraid we all are of feeling any emotional pain? And how we would do anything in our power to avoid it? Nobody wants it. We all try to get rid of it. We all try to hide and run away from it, and the irony is that the more we try to reject and resist it, the more intense it gets and the longer it stays with us.

We all have our ups and downs. We all experience emotional pain…

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Tips for Communicating with Someone With Borderline Disorder

Tips for Communicating with Someone With Borderline Disorder

1. Be realistic. You will not eliminate another person’s borderline behavior, no matter how well you communicate. Only that person can do that. Your goal is simply to communicate in a way that respects you and the personal with borderline personality disorder (BP). 2. Leave if necessary. You do not have to tolerate physical threats or emotional or verbal abuse. 3. Simplify. When speaking with a…

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How To Deal With An Emotionally Unstable Person You Care About ❤️

Emotions run in all different shapes and sizes and as a friend we all feel somewhat obligated to soothe the temper tantrums, drunken rants, and denial.

We all most certainly try, and some say that is the best that can be done. But there are a couple things you should try before you walk away from someone who suffers from instability: 1. Understand That They Are Not You. Do not expect them to…

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How To Stop Emotional Eating 

I met with a dear friend this weekend who openly shared her struggles with emotional eating. During our honest and frank discussion I was motivated to write this blog post on what I’ve learned about this issue and the normality of a behaviour that most people adopt at sometime in their lives.  

Jims Overview: 

Everyone comfort eats now and then. Sometimes it is in small ways, such buying an ice…

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What Is The Crazy Truth? 

   Over the past 14 years I’ve had many clients & friends who have sought my help for having specific feelings & beliefs that fall outside the “norm”….(News, Mainstream Media & Historical Documentation called the “truth”. These individuals are often labeled “paranoid”, “a conspiracist” and/or “crazy” including myself.    There are 3 truths in my opinion: My Truth, Your Truth & A Universal Truth.…

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15 Steps On Forgiveness 

    Forgiving others is essential for spiritual growth.  Your experience of someone who has hurt you, while painful, is now nothing more that a thought or feeling that you carry around. These thoughts of resentment, anger, and hatred represent slow, debilitating energies that will dis-empower you if you continue to let these thoughts occupy space in your head. If you could release them, you would…