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I don't know who needs to hear this but:

-"it only hurts a little" is still pain

-"I can ignore it" is still pain

-"I can cope with/manage it" is still pain

-"it's bearable" is still pain

-"I can push through it" is still pain

-"it doesn't hurt that much" is still pain

-"it doesn't stop me from doing x" is still pain

You don't need to be in agonizing pain to be in pain.

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disabled people are allowed to have hobbies that clash with our disabilities by the way

I'm allowed to like journaling even if my hand tremors make it so I can't do something as "pretty" as an abled bodied person

I'm allowed to like crocheting even if it's bad for my joints and it takes me double the time it would take someone else to finish a project

and yes I'm trying to switch to knitting which is lighter on the hands, but even that - even fucking using my phone - makes my finger hurts

I'm allowed to complain about it, just like you - specially if you're abled - are not allowed to tell me off about it

it's so hard for us to find joy, you're not allowed to police the small things that help

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tbh the ‘anything is better than nothing’ mindset has been invaluable to me, especially as a disabled person. like. half-assing things is the number one reason anything gets done for me.

run the dishwasher even if it’s not full. brush your teeth even if you aren’t going to floss. put away a single piece of clutter to make your space more livable. change your shirt and keep wearing the same pair of pants. eat a snack if you can’t make a meal.

it sucks to not be able to get stuff done as well as you’d like. i get that so much. but you have permission to half-ass stuff as much as you need. literally anything is better than nothing.

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shaking myself (very gently) . being in pain takes a lot of energy!!!!!! being in pain is exhausting!!!!!!! you are not lazy or weak because you need to spend so much time resting, this is your body coping with how much pain you’re in literally 24/7!!!!!!!!!

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the flesh is unwilling and honestly, the spirit isn't too keen on the idea either

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is it really true that the average person's pain level is a 0?

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atp going to med school and learning every single speciality to give myself an official diagnosis would be faster than waiting for doctors to listen to me and do that

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👏🍾🎉

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ive also come to the conclusion that "laziness" is probably the stupidest, most hurtful, least useful, deliberately cruel concept in the world

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Everybody says congratulations when you get a new job, or start a business, or buy a house, or have a baby, or get married, or buy a new car...

I just wanted to take a second out of the day to say congratulations to all of you who made it through a hard week this week.

Congratulations to those who are holding it together for the sake of the people you love.

Congratulations to anyone who thought about taking the easy way out and decided to stick around for a while longer.

Congratulations for showing up. Again.

You deserve all the love too.

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"This fic was ai generated—" Cool, so lemme block you real quick

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I'm a very "what's the problem so we can fix it" type person. That silent treatment is dead. Grow up and learn how to communicate.

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Sometimes people are committed to not understanding you. And there’s nothing you can say or do to make them understand. It’s okay to want to distance yourself from them. Sometimes it’s the best thing you can do.