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my blog is a safe space for me. the rest of you are in danger i think

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Seeing people go from staunch "anti-SJW" to actually caring about social justice heals my soul. As someone who used to act like an "anti-SJW", I can say with extreme certainty was that all anti-SJWs want to do is just argue with people over anything, but not to anything to help out people. So yeah, I used to be a major asshole but a lot of self-reflection made me realize that I was being unkind to others and I actually wanted to help people.

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Also, I would love for the people who think that being interested in true crime is the same as women idolizing, worshipping and romanticizing mass murderers and serial killers when it is not at all like that. The people who idolize, worship and romanticize these evil people are weird and know that doing what they are doing is morally wrong, but they don't care about what you say; they'll do it anyway.

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Hot fandom discourse take but framing dark content as only being acceptable if its a vehicle for exploring personal trauma is just giving ground to the puritan segments of fandom.

Simply liking dark content for its own sake is perfectly fine.

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no but thank you to tumblr. i dont know if its just my little bubble but the outpouring of "yes, this is scary. im scared too, and i care about you. let's get through this together" is making this so much more bearable.

if your dash is all doom and gloom please know you can change that. unfollow, block, follow more positive pages. you do not have to be cynical right now. there is nothing morally good about refusing to give yourself hope. your pain and fear can co-exist with love and faith.

i love you. take care of yourself. you're not in this alone.

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Something I think some people really need to understand and listen to is that if you impose your discomfort on other people, you are in the wrong and as cold and harsh as it sounds, that fact is that it is a you problem and YOU need find a way to fix it. And before anyone tries to create a "gotcha", this doesn't include dealing with bigotry.

No; this is about those moments where it's something simple. And example would be that you don't want to go somewhere that has kids. "I wish this place didn't have kids!" Then stay home; problem solved. You cannot expect parents to just go out without their children and especially in places that children are allowed to be at. Children are allowed to exist in the same space as you and if you don't like to be around children, then stay home. "But children trigger me!" Get help, then, because again... it's a you problem.

If you are the one having the problem with something, you are the one who will have to come up with a solution that benefits not just you, but everyone else. The world is not gonna stop moving just because you're uncomfortable.

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It hit me how conservative women love going to bat for the same men who say women age like milk and expire after 25. These are the same men they call real men, loving, and respectful of women??? They haven’t been right in the head for a while.

Well you have a couple groups of why, in my opinion. We can start with the simplest and least malicious and move up from there.

Tradition - I don’t ask questions, I don’t have thoughts. I do as tradition bids. My family has survived this long listening, and the world is so much happier and easier and prettier when you leave it black and white. If I don’t think about it, it’s can’t be wrong. What’s a leopard?

Mount Stupid - I have learned just enough information to think I’m informed and come to the wrong conclusions. It will be extremely difficult to get myself on any other track, as my ego has be self assured and thus any attack on my “facts” is an attack on my ego and person and you’re just a science denying hater. Everyone knows leopards are loving.

Not Me, Anyone But Me - I know they are evil. I know I am hurting others. I know this is not in my demographics best interests. But change is hard and scary and I desire safety and warmth. I will lay at the feet of the leopard, not because I love it, but because it prefers prey it can chase. Perhaps it will be fed enough on the blood of my family and people to not come for me (it is never satisfied).

I Have Fooled And Used The Leopard - I know exactly the harm the leopard causes and I do not care. I want power, I want money, I want self righteousness and I want to see others hurt. I’m not worried, I’m much smarter and faster than the leopard (they are not). I will use the leopard until I don’t need it anymore and then I will kill it (by then it will be so well fed and so strong).

I Think I Am The Leopard’s Friend, Equal Even - We hunt together, we fight as one, I am becoming a leopard. One day I will be one, with this leopards help (silly, leopards are solitary).

I Am The Leopard - My family have always been the leopards. We are the Rockefellers, we are the Fortune 500s. We are so wealthy and so powerful you do not know our names. And we are solitary, and we eat eachother too. In a room full of leopards, everyone is prey. I see this as a game, after all I have everything else. I’m so bored and inhuman. Perhaps I’ll go to space next, once all the prey here is gone.

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How to survive the holidays with fatphobic friends and family

By Amanda Martinez Beck and J Nicole Morgan, Cohosts of the Fat & Faithful podcast

When someone says, “you look great, have you lost weight?”

NICE: No — I choose to focus on other things than weight. Good to see you, though!

SPICE: Nope! Still fat! There are so many more interesting things to talk about than weight.

ICE: Hi. Please do not comment on my body. Thin ≠ happy or better.

When someone comments on something you put on your plate

NICE: I didn’t drive all this way to spend today eating salad :)

SPICE: Oh, I’m sorry — did you think my food choices were any of your business? Because they’re not.

ICE: (Stare) RUDE. (Continue loading plate.)

When someone jokes about the holidays making us fat

NICE: Oh, stop it. One day of feasting is not going to make anyone fatter than they already are.

SPICE: And…? Nothing wrong with being fat.

ICE: Why is fatness a punchline for you? Do you think my body size is funny or to be mocked?

When food is moralized

NICE: Oh, stop… Food is morally neutral and today is about feasting. Let it go!

SPICE: Bad for you? Is it crawling with maggots? ‘Cause that’s the only way I see pie being bad.

ICE: Stop moralizing food. It is harmful to talk and think about food this way and I will not let you talk this way around me and my children.

Whether you chose NICE, SPICE, or ICE, don’t be afraid to voice your boundaries and push back against diet culture and fatphobia during the holiday season.

❤️, Amanda & Nicole

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We need to normalize saying "I don't know anything about this topic of discussion" and then not saying anything about said topic. Like, it's totally okay to not know something and if anyone is pressuring you to talk about something you have little to no knowledge, it's okay to tell them "no" and don't feel guilty about it, no matter how much they try to gaslight you. No is a full sentence.

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seeing people come out and give Amanda Bynes so much love and support and willingness to give her grace and resources and kindness is just giving me so much hope for humanity. I just want this girl to live her absolutely best life she deserves it so, so much

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I'm convinced it was a tragedy that tumblr learned the phrase "bury your gays" at the exact same time it decided that any fictional media darker than Landlord White was pearl-clutchingly problematic. Pouring one out for every creator of earnest LGBT+ media wanting to explore the themes of grief loss and tragedy who then got subsequently hounded by mobs of terminally online users brainrotted on nothing but conflict-free coffee shop AUs.

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Did this today, 11/16/2024

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"why do those gross people ship A and B?!" Because it's sexy. Next question.

Fandom Problem #6404:

Some folks be like "why do those gross people ship A and B? It's definitely cause they're fetishizing fucks". My sibling in Anime they're the main character and his rival, whose relationship and dynastic is the most long lasting and fleshed out in the show.

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Honestly, if you see an angel that’s all eyes and wings and wheels of fire, you should be worried. Like, not because it’s going to hurt you or anything, but because scripturally, angels invariably appear to ordinary people in human form. In general, they only show their inhuman true forms to prophets – which means if you’re seeing them like that, they come bearing responsibility.